I think some of them are very handsome, have decent characters and overall have a good sense of the world. But they always want to date other girls and never marry them. Why? I am not able to understand why they always change their mind and close up their mentality when it comes to love and care....
this happened to a few friends of mine and I am always confused as to why they are so short term minded....
No offense to anyone, just wanna know why they do this.
2007-11-07 06:06:10 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes I agree its good they marry inside their religion but sad for the woman who trusted him depending on him and his promises.
2007-11-07 06:16:40 · update #1
It's a thing a woman of today must know about. I don't agree with the Muslim religion but I admire how devout the practitioners are. I'm sure it is forbidden to marry outside of their religion and I strongly suspect that the men's parents must approve of who they marry. The parents may not be as strict with who they date.
I'm sure that it is frustrating for a young woman (like yourself) to have a handsome, intelligent, charming, young man be unavailable to you because of his religion. You must remember, that it is also forbiddin for us Christians to marry someone who is not a Christian.
Just to add a tip for a beautiful woman like yourself. The person that you fall in love with, will be one of the men you date. You can save yourself a lot of heartbreak if you only date men who will make a good husband for you.
If you find out that a young man you are dating has 1 or more flaws that are such that he would make a bad husband for you; drop him like a hot potato! It will be easier on him as well as you. You will not be able to change him and it will break your heart if you fall in love with him and then find out you can't marry him because of personality or character flaws, and have to break up with him then.
God bless you dear "sassy Christian girl".
2007-11-07 18:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It's not only Muslim men who do this practice. I'm Jewish and so is my husband. I would have to say it's more of a cultural thing. My husband dated non Jewish girls however when he was thinking about getting serious with someone it made him re-think the relationship. He wanted someone with a similar culture and up bringing as him. There are women to do convert to Islam or to Judaism. It's more of a cultural issue.
I would like to point out that Arabs are not a religion it's an ethnic group. There are several Arabs who are Christians, I know a few that are Christians and have married non Arabic girls. However the girls they married are also Christian.
It's more of a cultural thing. If your dating a muslim just ask him, about his traditions and culture.
2007-11-07 07:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by rainy32 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
many comments above mislead the reality , would you guys consider that Arab world consist of 22 countries and each country has either slice or major difference than the others in all matters .Its just like when you say European or Asians. I know many Arab married to white and no Arab ladies, my childhood friend married to an Irish lady , my older brother married to a Russian and i was engaged to an English girl . Just example :D . I wish you a goodluck soon :)
2016-04-02 22:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can see the same thing happening in any given religious/cultural group: some members of the group will follow some rules out of social pressure. And that results in inconsistency.
Example from my experience. It happened between me (committed Christian, and from the heart) and a dear friend (Hindu, but more culturally than religiously):
This guy fancied me (or probably loved, who knows) and asked me to marry him. I explained that I could not marry him because I was a Christian and our world views would not match. Later, when I jokingly mentioned that I'd like a boyfriend, he asked if he would do. When I said that we had already discussed this he was surprised, because he assumed that religion was only relevant when it came to marriage.
In your friends' cases:
The Arabic guys in question were inconsistent. Their religion is not in their hearts. They only have to conform to rules outwardly. For that reason, they sleep around (the men), but still only want to marry a muslim.
2007-11-07 07:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by sannaparis 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because like most so called religious people, they are down right hypocrites! The religion they claim to follow forbids them from marrying outside of their religion, but that doesn't appear to stop them playing the field outside of their religion before they do settle down.
They are playing you, as they never have any intention of settling down with you, they just intend to get what they can and then move on.
2007-11-07 08:08:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
actually they do, I'm Arabic and there's more than 3 in my family who's married to American and English and German women who didn't convert to Islam, and my town is filled with men who married mostly Russians after they studied in Russia, it all depends on the man and his family, but I know what you're talking about, and that happens when a guy wants to take advantage of the fact that these girls are willing to sleep with him without getting married and he doesn't take the relationship seriously.
2007-11-07 18:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I, too, have seen them at it. Yet, it doesn't hold true for all of them; meaning they don't always do that. Yet, for the most part many do prefer to marry their own kind because they don't want to bother with the significant differences in culture; the differences are very significant; along with in the background their moms are looking for them; along with the fact that they believe, blindly so, that only the "good girls" are Arab like themselves.
2007-11-07 15:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
my "trollish" answer is that they secretly hunger for a type of freedom their religion does not seem to allow. But getting married forces them to confront themselves and their belief system. This is probably true for many Christians and Jews. Perhaps atheists as well. My grandma was Lebanese but she was born here (USA) and none of her relatives fit this category. Beings Christians may have been part of it, but being open-minded was more a part of it. The culture/sub-culture one is born into shapes people in many ways they may not even understand.
2007-11-07 06:32:58 · answer #8 · answered by Peter R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the case with a lot of different cultures. Jewish men do the same thing. it is not acceptable to marry outside of your race to many people. This is how they keep a strong community. I dont know why but I do not really see anything wrong with that. People speak of having so much pride in their culture but would dare not say out loud that is important for their wife and kids to be of the same culture.
2007-11-07 06:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by lhallums82 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes the big difference is the culture. Arabic always prefer to the same religion and may be they think that only arabic women can satisfied them in sex than other religion women.
So they only date with other women not to marry.
2007-11-07 16:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*´`*♥ANIS AHMAD♥*´`*♥ 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋