i recently got engaged to the person whom i dont like at all but my parents r not on my side what should i do?

Question

both of us are very famous and rich family,i seriously dont want to get married to him due to various reasons but my parents are forcing me please tell me what to do or how can i get out off this relationship,i have tried talking with my fiaunce but he too cant help it out as is father is very strict and also thier family is not nice ,please tell me what to do as iam really dippresd

Answer 1

ZOMGZ....like I don't care because you obviously haven't got the balls to just dump him. Sounds like you're Indian cos otherwise you wouldn't give a monkeys what your parents thought so why bother asking.

Answer 2

thats very sad indeed
one idea i have is to tell your parents that you dont trust the guy and feel he will cheat on you and itll only end in divorce 6 months down the line
or another and im willing to do this for a fiver :)
get someone to interupt the wedding when it gets to the part does anyone know why these two shouldnt get wed bit
ive always wanted to shout yes at every wedding i go to jus to see what happens
ofc you have to come up with an excuse
maybe get a scheme together where you get a hooker to bed the bloke while having it filmed
yes i have a devious mind :)
and i hope they have givien you a seed to work on
no one should have to endure a life like your parents want

Answer 3

What country do you live in? In western countries this practice still goes on among immigrants from eastern or middle-eastern countries.
Another question is how old are you and can you support yourself? If you are over 16 and in a western country and you can support yourself then my advice would be to leave home. If you cannot support yourself, get a job and save up until you can survive without your family's assistance.
If you live in a country where this practice is still customary it is more difficult. I have heard of people who go against their families' wishes being severely punished or even killed, so be careful. You could consider protesting by going on a hunger strike - but again be careful.

Answer 4

In my opinion i think you should try and persuade your parents to allow you to marry another person becasue if your fiances family is not very nice they might try and taught you. It is better for you and your family if you married someone you liked because at least you would be treated with respect. Also explain to your parents that if maybe your staus degraded the marriage would all have been for nothing. I hope this has helped you and i wish you all the best for the future.

Answer 5

Short of lying your way out, telling them some thing unforgivable happened, the only other thing that I can think to say is that you ned to live for yourself. I married a man because it was expected of me and the only good thing that came of the marriage was two beautiful children. I am now proceeding with a divorce and I have no family backing. But if you have true friends, stick with them, they will help you through it.

Answer 6

Hi,
Why would you get engaged to someone that you don't love?
Who has to live with him?You or your parents? If they love him ,let them marry him ! How old are you? If you are over 18 yrs.Than you are responsible for what you do! And if you are under 18 than shame on them!Say No!!!!
How are your parents forcing you? Are they holding a gun on you? Are they saying that you won't get all that money when you get older,or when they die?Is it all worth it?
Simply tell your parents that you don't love him,and don't want to marry him!!!
It should not be any harder than that.
The truth will set you free my dear!!

Answer 7

What country are you living in..... in the USA, you are free to marry whom you WANT and you do NOT have to be forced to marry someone you do not... in other countries I KNOW there are arrange marriages and I know in still OTHER countries, these arranged marriages are SACRED--you cannot unbreak the bond of the arrangement. BUT, if you are in the USA, you AND your fiancee should just REFUSE to be married---you BOTH go to each other's parents and tell them you FLAT OUT REFUSE to marry... tell them this is a free country and you are FREE to choose who you WANT... and if they don't like that, let them disown you and cut you out of their wills or whatever tactics the RICH and stupid use to control people ....if THAT's the way your families want to be, you are better off WITHOUT them and their money.

Answer 8

there's something going on here beyond what you've explained. What is your culture? I've never heard of two people who BOTH don't want to get married, going through with it because of family pressures. The only advice I can give you is from an american perspective, where parents can't force an adult to do anything against their will. I don't think my advice applies.

Answer 9

First, where do you live? Depending on the culture you're a part of, it'll be easier or harder to defy your parents. Maybe go out on your own. It would be a frightful thing since you've apparently had money all your life, but it still might be the best choice and the best choice generally isn't the easiest.

Answer 10

just the fact that you are asking this question- shows that you have NO business marrying this person. screw the family and do what you want. so what id u get cut off financailly- at least u will be free to live your own life and have your own definition of happiness.

If you go through with it- it shows you care more about money than anything even your own life- because in reality that is what you are risking. god- please dont bring children into this sham- dont let them suffer for your mistakes.

Answer 11

All parties should sit down and explain how they are feeling, is this in the u.s.? Money does not buy happiness. But perhaps you need a mediator there also, if you both are not happy than there will be a divorce in no time. Explain to the parents that they should want to see you happy and him happy and consider your feelings not what their friends or political issues are considering. Look at Princess Di