Too stupid or too lazy?

Question

Why does it seem like these days parents either can't raise their kids or don't want to raise their kids?

For instance, a kid gets angry easily so the parents take him to a therapist. Or a child wakes up in the middle of the night and won't go back to sleep so the parents take her to a sleep clinic.

Is it that todays parents aren't smart enough to deal with their kids? Or is it that they are too lazy?

My point is, a couple decades ago if a kid had problems the parents dealt with it WITHOUT the help of special doctors or therapists and the kids turned out fine. Why is it that these days parents are not able to deal with things themselves?

Answer 1

i think it has more to do with having things pushed into our heads. Back then there wasnt as many well known options for dealing with kids. you just spanked em or told them to be tough. now every fearful parent thinks that anything unusual could be really bad. i am sure there are a lot of lazy parents out there too but, i just think most are just over parranoid.
The thing is dont get is when you think giving your kids meds to fix something is a good idea.

Answer 2

I have a mixed opinion about this... most parents now days do not displine there children the way they need to be displine for whatever reason. Therefore children I see now as teens and tweens are growing up with no respect for adults, themselves or there peers. Which is the cause for alot of the issues with kids these days, when I was growing up my mother would knock my teeth out (not literally) if I back talked her. I was not allowed to wear revealing clothing and I had a reasonable curfew. No I didn't like it then and I got grounded a lot but I am 26 years old making more than most at my job I am a home owner and I am happliy married. I have never been arrested, nor committed any crimes.

My sister on the other hand was born 7 years after me and my parents took a different approach on displine with her. They did not spank her and when grounding didn't work they took her to see a therapist with led to medication (at 6 years old) Which led I feel led to missing school (dropping out at 9th grade) social anxiety, obesity and know 20 years old never driven a car, cannot keep a job longer than a few days, no education and still living with parents. I feel the reason we are so different is the displine methods - there is no doubt in my mind. I don't feel she has any real problems she besides the fact that she hasn't had an opportunity to experience life outside the womb and I fear for the day when she does have to experience life she will not know what to do. Parents are fearful of socitiy because socitiy has told us that spanking and displineing our children is wrong and we should talk it out... after a while children stop listening and talking does not get there attention.

Answer 3

I don't think its necessarily stupidity or laziness (although I'm sure that is the case with at least some of the people out there). My parents didn't raise me. My grandmother did. Many of her methods are no longer considered acceptable. Basically I'm saying I have no idea how to raise children. I never saw it being done. Not appropriately anyhow. When I first found out that I was pregnant and that I was going to be a real mom that was expected to teach another human being what it means to be a good and honorable person I was terrified. I have two daughters now (six and one) and my husband and I are planning to try to get pregnant again next year. Honestly I am still completely terrified. I have no clue what I'm doing but I'm doing it without professional help. My girls are happy and healthy. I guess thats all anyone can hope for...

Answer 4

Do you have any kids? It's not unless you have kids with disabilities you will know how hard it is to try and raise these children.

Parents that take their child to see these specialists are not lazy, they are concerned parents that want the best for their child. Not all cases are the same, but they don't assume that just because their kids are not sleeping or just not paying attention they will take them to a psychiatrist or psychologist, there are extensive tests that are taken by the childs pediatrician to confirm if the child really requires that special help.

Nope, not stupid or lazy, just concerned parents!

Answer 5

I see your point...but I also see where parents are afraid they will screw up a kid and make a serial murderer or child molester or something.

I try to take the laid back approach to raising my kids..I ask my family who have raised kids before I think about asking a doctor...I figure personal experience is much better than a "specialists".

As for behavioral problems..yes, I think its stupid and lazy. they Dont want to deal with it and hope a doctor or therapist will "fix" the problem for them.

Somethings arent easily fixed with a visit to a talking head.

And Im not a 100% sure that the kids a couple of decades grew up to be fine....sure seems like a lot of neurotics out there.

Answer 6

it may be they don't want to fail their kids and screw them up any further. It may be they don't have time to deal with their kids problems...or don't know how. There is nothing wrong with seeking help. At least they are paying attention to their kids and realising there is a problem and doing something about it. Do you know what it is like to be be so sleep deprived you could do something to your baby because they are not sleeping. You have tried everything and just don't know what to do. You be thankful there are places like sleep school to help you. These things you rant about are not bad things when on the news there is a 7 year old girl found dead and the cause....she starved to death,9kg heavy on death. Or in Finland a boy goes on a rampage in a school and kills 5 people and injures many. At least parents doing these things are trying to do right by their kids and not murdering them, not seeking help for anger issues that may go on to destroy other lives or completely ignoring the problem.
There are worse things out there

Answer 7

I say lazy, no one raises their child anymore. There are too many special doctors and therapists and not enough unselfish parents. No one takes time out from their job to raise their children anymore, for that there are nannies. Many children are classified as "special" because a parent wants to keep them sedated. So many parents give monetary rewards for accomplishments instead of making the accomplishments things that are expected. Parenting skills lack, big time. So glad my children are grown, because they would be such outsiders because I do deal with things myself, always have and hopefully always will. God Bless.

Answer 8

I don't know if they are stupid or just too lazy, but since they are doing something about it, regarding what option they take it shows they care about their child. Possibly they think that the problem would easily be fixed if they go to a professional and they are able to pay for one?

Personally that option would be the last resort, I am a hands on type of parent and would prefer to fix the problem myself instead of having someone tell me how to handle my child.

Answer 9

because the parents who took care of it themselves have children who come back to them and tell them what they did didnt work. these children spent years with problems sleeping or with anger and what their parents did didnt always work, the kids learned to hide it from their parents so they wouldnt worry. i never could sleep at night. it affected school for me and everything. my parents tried alot of different things. i think if they wouldve taken me to a specialist the problem mightve had a better chance of getting solved. parents arent superheroes no matter how hard we try. its not laziness to take your kid to a specialist, its concern. its the parents who put their kids on all kinds of unnecessary meds that are lazy. the ones who would rather have a zombie for a kid than have to put some effort into raising them.

Answer 10

Because the parents of today were being raised by the "Hippie" generation, and they were not really taught how to deal with life's problems so they don't know how to teach their kids.