They all say there are nice guys out there who don't place high emphasis on looks or body and more on intelligence and interests. But where the hell are you hiding?
I feel so doomed!! Every single guy who seems at least moderately attractive and healthy wants a girl with the beautiful face and perfect body. Here I am miss plain jane, with 34 DDD breasts that, (i'll admit hurt my back and sag a tad), and 134 lbs of lard (even though i'm 5''5'--it seems fat). Is it my young age that prevents me from finding those guys who would love to run around indie music stores or watch good films or have interesting dicussions. I just learned that I can't even get a breast reduction since I would never be able to breast feed (something I hold important). Honestly, what's the point of dating or even trying if you are plain with a subpar body? I'm not even allowed to hold standards it seems. Yes. I have low self-esteem, but in all fairness, who wouldn't with my body and the desires of men?
2007-11-07 05:08:08 · 12 answers · asked by lookup998 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
would a moderatly attractive and healthy (enjoys working out) be interested in a girl like me?
2007-11-07 05:14:02 · update #1
We are all over, including within the five boroughs of New York City.
Although I am, at 55 years young, probably too old for you, I would have been willing to meet you, as described. Some women whom I dated were larger than you, some smaller, some were pretty, some not-so-pretty, some of them having/ "classic features", other not. And some of them were wonderful, simply wonderful.
Now I am equally sure that your standards incorporate characteristics that entail more than just having a working heart, a belief in God, warm and sensitive nature, and other politically-correct attributes. Ladies have their standards as well. But just because a lady does not look like a model does not mean men will not date her.
And 134 pounds @ 5'5" is not lard. It is just more "cushun for the pushun".
2007-11-07 05:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Slick98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women who keep finding jerks usually are subconsciously looking for them. Maybe you need to get your love radar re-tuned? You're putting all your eggs in the "physical" basket and it's obvious your self esteem is a problem. A lot of men like big chests. Work on your self...join an activity (martial arts, book club, etc) Stop judging your self worth on your interaction with men.
2007-11-07 13:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by wrestleben 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lookup, you are very wrong about the breastfeeding after reduction issue.
Please look at http://www.bfar.org as there are plenty of women who DO breastfeed after a reduction.
Bring that issue up when/if you go to a PS for a consultation.
It really depends on if your nipples are removed (FNG) or not. Mine were not so I will be able to breastfeed. IF you DO have a FNG, there is still a chance of breastfeeding.
Please check out that site and this one:
http://www.breasthealthonline.com
2007-11-08 09:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to get a breast reduction to a C or D, it will make your back feel better if you are suffering form back problems at a young age, it will only make it worse when you get older. It will also attract the nicer guys.
2007-11-07 15:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am sure you are attractive and you know it’s not all about looks anyway. There are many people in happy relationships that do not look like supermodels. I think you are being way too hard on yourself. You will find someone just have confidence, believe in yourself and relax a bit.
2007-11-07 13:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sour Girl™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
5'5" 135lbs. is not fat lil mama. you need to value yourself more highly or else the only peolpe who come after you will be people who dont value you very highly. why not try going places and doing things that you enjoy doing, and when you see a guy you like there who seems single... talk to him.
2007-11-07 13:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by well hung gimp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're worried your images is keeping you down. And the only fix is to find "nice guys". A nice guy is not your answer. Forget nice guys. They don't exist. You want a real man.
2007-11-07 13:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by sect1on9 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you don't have much to worry about...
look, on the converse there are tons of nice guys out there asking why all of the decent cool chicks always go for the doofy butthole guys. cheer up, don't give in to jerks, and avoid the perils of internet dating.
2007-11-07 13:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by acatnamedpluto 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are around you but you just don't notice them for some reason. They usually don't argue and try not to be on anyones way.
2007-11-07 13:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by Stefo3008 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you're looking in the wrong places?
although with double D's you are going to attract the horndogs.
LD
2007-11-07 13:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋