Over this past weekend I got a lil too intoxicated since it was my friend's bday. While I was at the club celebrating, I spotted a friend of this guy I've liked-but we're mostly just friends-anyway his friend is actually a roommate of the guy I like's cousin. Well me & his friend were flirting & since I didn't want to drive home drunk, I went w/him back to his place. Well 1 thing lead to another & we hooked up. Then I felt bad so I called my guy friend & told him to come over. When he got there, I'm sure he saw me come out of his friend's room, but who knows, and then me & him hooked up. So yah I pretty much suckered him into coming over so I could hook up w/ him. I'm not sure if he knows I hooked up w/his friend but I'm sure the word got around. Anyway, my guy friend still seems to be my friend after what happened, even though I thought he liked me at one point. But I never told him what happened, but like I said he probably knows from someone else, if so, why is he still my friend?
2007-11-07 04:36:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because he was your friend in the first place. He obviously respects you as a person, he's not just going to say well you made a mistake so I hate you.
then again maybe he doesnt even know.
2007-11-07 04:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by jesssikahhh_x3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to have sex with anyone you want to. I am not giving that as ADVICE that you SHOULD, but you don't need anyone's permission. So if the guy sees that you wanted to and chose to have sex with him and his friend, HE KNOWS THIS IS YOUR RIGHT to do it. He knows he doesn't own you. You don't need his permission. He is simply lucky that you will share some of your friendship and affection with him. You are not his property. Why can't you do what you want? (AGAIN: I am NOT advising you to be promiscuous, I am just stating that no one has a right to demand that you do what they want.)
So it sounds to me like he has a great deal of respect for you, enough to count himself lucky that you wanted to share some affection with him ALSO, but enough to know that YOU have a right to decide whatever you want to decide... and he has no "right" to you as his "property."
Does he want sex? IS HE ALIVE? It is 100% normal for a guy and a girl to want sex. THAT IS NOT THE SAME THING as expecting it or having a right to expect it... just wanting it. As the great philosophers the Eagles (or was it Queen) once sang "YOU CAN'T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WAAA'NT!" But that doesn't change him wanting it. So what if he wants sex? Guys always want sex. But that is not the end of the story. The question is what ELSE is there in the friendship.
He seems to know the difference between wanting something from you and being content to respect your decisions about what you want to do.
Does this change how he sees you? Well, aren't you really talking about whether he values you in OTHER ways in OTHER parts of the relationship? FOCUS ON THOSE. Don't worry about the sex. Yes, getting smashed is not a good idea, and you should work on not doing that any more. But just forget about the sex part. FOCUS on the OTHER parts of the friendship that you hope will be there as well.
You will find out if he is "only" interested in the sex or ALL OF YOU. More important you may CULTIVATE the relationship on all sides.
He may HOPE that he can win you over 100%, and see that you are a challenge, and that you have other options, and that he will be LUCKY if he can persuade you to fall in love iwth ONLY him... knowing that you have other choices and other guys you could pick instead of him.
2007-11-07 05:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't take this sort of thing as seriously as chicks do. While he probably has no problem being your friend, I don't know if you should expect him to ever think you'll be a "real" girlfriend. Once they know you'll mess around with a guy, they like to keep it simple - you can be friends with benefits, just probably won't ever date one another at this point.
I speak from experience - but I don't mind...most of my friends are friends with benefits and it works out wonderfully!!
2007-11-07 04:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys are just looking for sex. Obviously he does not have any serious feelings for you but being someone's friend is different. In addition, next time he's looking for some, he knows where to go.
2007-11-07 04:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Other Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is still your friend because he knows youll give up the pootie. having said this i would be willing to bet that you have been downgraded in his mind (you certainly would be in mine) , and will likely be treated more like an easy piece of pie than a true friend.
2007-11-07 04:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by well hung gimp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not as interested in you as you think...
and hopefully, you learned a lesson--- moderate the alcohol...
2007-11-07 04:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably don't know bout that and they have no reason to be mad
2007-11-07 04:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Darkness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋