How can i change his impression of me?

Question

This 25 y/o guy I had 2 dates with assumes I'm the party type based on the fact that I do go to parties occasionally. He thinks I'm the type to hang out at parties and go up to strangers and hook up with them. So, he seems to be interested in me for the wrong reasons- interested in me for sex. I won't hook up with him. But I know he can be the relationship type. What can I do to show that I'm not the fool-around type? Should I confront him? Should I mention about my last long term 4-year relationship which ended few months ago? He already opened up about his past on the 2nd date (6-year relationship but not sure if that is true) and when he asked me about mine, i said it was on a need-to-know basis b/c i felt it was too early to share that kinda stuff.
Most importantly, he invited me to his housewarming party and suggested i could crash over on the next date. Should I avoid going? Or should I go and leave at end of it? He will be driving me if I go.

Answer 1

First, I think time will take care of much of it. If he is the kind that jumps to conclusions, is prejudging you, you might want to even think twice about whether or not he's worth your time, but if you are bent on continuing with him, part of it needs to just be waited out. He will see and know by your actions, far more than what you, say what your character is.

You did the right thing by not going into your relationship details. This is a fatal mistake that too many people make. Delving into the past can give your new partner all kinds of misinformation. This relationship is not the last and I would avoid those things to the death at least unless and until it becomes serious in nature and intent.

DO NOT stay over for his party, but certainly go. It gives you a chance to show him who you really are. Don't get intoxicated and take that chance to present who you want him to see. Refusing him will help him see you as you want to be seen. Sex too early (if you want a meaningful relationship) is ALWAYS a mistake. Men just don't see sex the way women do. It just doesn't mean as much and this guy seems to have some definite ideas about what "kind of girl" you are already.

Remember, actions speak louder than words. Simply show him the woman you want him to see (while being genuine, of course).

Answer 2

It sounds like he want to get to know you alttle more but you are not opening up to him. I can understand if you got hurt from you last relationship, but you need relax a little bit more.
You are already questioning what he is saying about his past, why would he lie about that? and did he give you any reason not to make you believe him?
Chat with him more and hang out to get to know him. But make sure you are comfortable. You should go to the housewarming party but don't stay the night, there is no need for it unless you plan on getting wasted. If he is driving you there, find a ride back home.
Good Luck

Answer 3

Okay, first of all, let him know that you are not the party type. Make sure he knows what you want, not just sex you're after. I say you should go to the party, you gotta have fun. But if he tries something you don't want or like, reject him. Tell him you're not ready or you don't want to do anything. Find you're own way home somehow if you don't want to end up staying with him the whole night. And do tell him about your past. He told you about his, and you can't keep men in the dark. It just doesn't work.

Answer 4

hey =)

i think you should just be yourself...

be normal, don't predict too much...


he can never force you into anything can he?
so you always have choice to walk away, if he does something you dont want....

so just keep meeting him nd getting to know him, if you are interested in him that is ( like you say"he can be the relationship type guy")

i always fe;t/seen
in my friends
that y some girls feel so uncomfortable around guys, like he wont/cant rape you or something, something will only happen if you let him, girls over react to this and become over protective
sending wrong signal to the guy,

and loosing a relationship, which had poetential to be great =)


good luck =)

Answer 5

Since you have already guessed his intention>>There is nothing you can say or do that will change his mind> He thinks your easy>And if you say no than he will probably have no interest in you> To much drama>for a first date>>Find some 1 that's interested in you not what you have been doing>>Keep your past as your past or it will be in your face some day>>Be safe have fun>

Answer 6

It's too early to crash; as you point out - you don't even know each other.

If you go to the party; arrange a lift with someone else if you cannot drive yourself; but however you choose to get there, definitely leave at the end.

Best of luck with it.

Answer 7

Just go with your gut feeling. His impression will change in time when he gets to know you better. But I think too you'll have to open up a bit too if you do want him to get to know you better. If the time is right and you feel okay with telling him about your past relationships, then I'd do it. He appears as if he wants to get to know you better and right there says that maybe his impression is already changing?!

Answer 8

u cant
dont lie, if u in it for the long run
Tell the truth and then u know if he genunely likes you
If not... work on you and holla back at him

Answer 9

i think you should tell him who you really are because if he doesn't want to "wife it" then why get involved at all?

Answer 10

be yourself. he should change his impression of you, not you change his impression of you.

go if you want to. have fun with it. good luck.

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