Do you think that if you were dating someone 5 years and you broke up with them and you claimed that you really loved the person you were with very much.....do you think that it's really truly possible to;
Meet someone on a cell phone through the internet on a text messaging service....text them for two month.....meet them only 3 weeks ago from today in person and say that you have moved on, over it, and happy with this new girl. Plus say that you love them already and are going to marry her soon and move her in with you? This meaning that you could get over your ex you supposedly loved even though you say you don't now in just knowing someone personally for 3 weeks????
2007-11-07 04:05:18 · 7 answers · asked by mjust41 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
And another thing that bothers me is her rubbing this all in my face and says shes moved on and that she doesnt love me.....would it take you meeting someone else to realize you didn't love the person you were with? I would like opinions on that too bcuz to me I don't think that is right. And she is 28 yrs old. I am 26. And the ring she supposedly got from her gf...she paid for with her own money!!!!! And she only left me 3 months ago and the first 2 months...she kept telling me she loves me and misses me and wants to know I am serious and that there was no one else then bam all of a sudden this! Another part to this question is.....She has bipolar and to me doesn't act like herself at all...in the 5 years I have dated her, I have never seen her this cruel...cuz another mean thing she said is..."I dont love you, get over it" ....she is also spending money like crazy and not paying off the bills and that is something she would get mad at me about...do you think this could be bipolar?
2007-11-07 04:05:49 · update #1
Why I am asking is cuz I don't understand why she is doing this....and cuz I still LOVE her. I personally don't think someone could spend 5 yrs with someone and then move on in 3 wks to a month. She's really messed up my mind and that's why I am asking for opinions. :(
2007-11-07 04:06:15 · update #2
Wow. I hope you realize that this is not about you. Whether or not she is bipolar, I can't tell you. I can tell you that her behavior indicates that she needs some help. The fact that she is acting out-of-character, spending money like crazy, etc., suggests she may be in trouble. People who are suicidal tend to do some of these things. Please urge her to talk to someone. If you know any of her family, please enlist their help. I believe you do really love her, so you can't just stand by. This is not about your ego or your hurt feelings, or her feelings for that matter, it could be about her very life. Please do what you can and good luck.
2007-11-07 04:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by mamalissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible because life is a constant evolvement of change. Five yrs together is indicative that there was true love between you, and its a fact that neither of you can deny.
There is going to be a lot of dirt tossed around for awhile and hurtful things said between you. However, try and salvage yourself from any further damage and move on. Bipolar behavior will continue to surface, and since you seem like a level-headed person, leave her alone and concentrate on you. You will always have a soft spot in your heart for her but its time to place your energies on you so that you grow from the experience and not be bitter.
2007-11-07 12:21:23 · answer #2 · answered by curiousN 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not being mean here, but trying to give you some perspective. You still love her, but she obviously doesn't love you anymore, for whatever reason. It doesn't matter if she thinks she's in love with this new guy or not, or even if what she's told you is true or not. The message here is that she has moved on from the relationship the two of you had, regardless of whether or not there's a new man in the picture. You need to, too. Best wishes to you.
2007-11-07 12:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm knoing someone for just 3 weeks and saying shes moved on and got over her ex... thats not true!
Its really hard to get over someone you truley loved! iv been there myself.. so i know.. just like many others!
And as for her rubbing it in your face, i think shes doing that to make u feel jelous! so take no notice.. just take time being single and sooner or later you'l get over the ex in your own time.. just dont rush into anything to soon.
2007-11-07 12:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
she got too comfortable with you and this is something new and exciting... if you show her that you are stressing over it, this other girl will continue to be exciting.. if you walk away, she will realize that she really does love you (if she does) and if she doesnt come back to you after that than why would you want to be with someone that doesnt love you anyway?
2007-11-07 14:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if it makes sense or not, she's still doing what she wants. Stop torturing yourself, cut her out of your life and move on with yours. This kind of thinking will get you nowhere except more depressed.
2007-11-07 23:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that you still love her. but she doesn't want to be with you. my best advice would be to give yourself some time to heal andmove on.. find someone who wants to marry you.. Good luck.
2007-11-07 13:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by dietitian4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋