please help me!!!!!! my 2 year old is dangerous?

Question

omg he has a temper, and ive tried all that good parenting stuff trust me..... and he getting worse, yesterday he knocked down a vase with flowers in it because his brother and him were fighting, again this morning he seriously knocked down the TVoff the tv stand yea it's a dora the explorer on so its a kid one and not that big.... but still, i need answers on what to do here, im scared he gonna hurt himself or someone around him.... Please , if you need more info about him to trying help me resolve thin please feel free to instant message me.. thanx.

Answer 1

You need to be way more strict. The next time he even comes close to throwing a temper tantrum, get down on his level, hold him by the shoulders so he is looking at your face and use a low tone, calm voice to tell him "no hitting" or "no yellin" or "no throwing" or whatever he did at that point. Then tell him what to do instead "you need to be nice to your brother". Then take him to a time out spot and make him sit there for 1 to 2 minutes. You may have to sit there at first, or he will get up. Don't talk to him except to tell him to sit back down, and don't make eye contact. If he screams and throws a tantrum, ignore him.

Try to catch him right before he does something, not after its too late. You can see him escalating, stop him and make him sit in a time out.

Time outs work, but they take time. It took a good month for my now 3 year old daughter to stop hitting and throwing things, but once I sent her in a timeout every single time she did it, she stopped. Now she's much better. My 2 year old throws temper tantrums all the time, I just send her to time out and ignore her. They're getting better, too.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Ok...to all those people saying "therapy"...please. Maybe you guys have gifted 2 yr olds that understand what a psychologist is trying to teach them...lol Anyway, here in the real world, your child is two. From my standpoint, he's acting out for attention....and things are getting way out of hand. I agree that his dr. might need to take note of this to see if there is a medical reason...but honestly, 2 yr olds are into everything anyways. I can't even imagine how many breakable things I've lost to my children when they were little (that's why now I have nothing breakable within reach). And siblings fight and get angry w/ one another.

You just need to get a handle on this. Make him take time outs....if he won't sit there, you will actually have to hold him there. Our daughter (now 3) is the only one we had to do this too. She would take terrible tantrums and trying head banging or scratching herself so we would pet her. We had to actually hold her down in timeouts so she wouldn't hurt herself. After a few times of that, she quit. When we told her to sit on the couch, she sits on the couch. She may give you the sad looks, but no more hurting herself at least.

Just don't give up, because yes...if this is not handled now, it will only get worse.

Answer 4

with mine he was the same way... we had to literally put him into time out and yeah we did spank him but it was a light lick everytime until he got the point. He was even at first saying ha that didnt hurt but if you get it just right where it stings but wont leave a mark is the best thing to do.... Now if your not into spanking then the time out thing is best. Find one place each and everytime to give him a time out whether that be a seat or place him in a stool in a corner with his back facing the wall ... it should calm him down.... i think that people sending kids to there room where the adults cant see them is just an open invititaion for them to get a little more crazy... JUST BE CONSISTENT AND HE WILL GET THE MESSAGE... i hope that helped

Answer 5

First, keep your emotions in check, tough as heck sometimes I know, but it will help him cool off sooner.

Now, if he throws it/ breaks it etc... (and it is his toy tv whatever) TAKE IT AWAY and do not give it back.

Set him in time out until he calms, then talk BRIEFLY more than a couple minutes and he is gone... short and to the point. "We will not... throw toys..break toys..hit..push"...whatever the "crime" was, "and if you do, this will happen." Replace the word THIS with what will happen. ie: you will loose that toy. I will take away.... treat, desert, fav toy.. whatever the punishment.

Consistensy and remaining calm are the key here. He will cool his jets as long as you do that.

If he won't stay in time out, put him in his room. Remember not to leave him in too long or the punishment will only make him more angry.

My oldest son got down to only a bed and dresser in his room b4. There is no law that says they have to have every toy tv etc under the sun, they should earn them. Not too early to enforce consequenses...he'll figure out quick!

Visual aides work well. We have a behavior chart on fridge.

4 or 5 blocks of diff colors each one represents privleges. They move down the "ladder" as they misbehave. Catch them being good..they move up.

1. Top rung is ALL priv/ deserts snacks etc. and all below
2. TV/video games - and all below
3. all toys/ outside - all below
4. toys or books - all below
5. bottom is room only. (without toys tv etc)

Adjust for your boys. Give them each a magnet that represents them and where they are, have them there when the magnet moves up/down the ladder.

I hope I explained this well.

ANy method u do use, keep for at least a month or you are not giving it a chance to work. If you don't stick with a method long enough, he will know if he resists you will give up. Kids are scary smart that way.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

Wow! That's some temper he has. He has anger issues, and needs to learn how to properly express himself. I would say to watch out for things like ad/hd in the future but he could grow out of it. In the mean time, don't freak out when he is getting into a tantrum, talk him calmly down because that can ignite the fire sometimes. Be consistent with your punishments. Make sure he knows you are a rock and he is not going to get away with things like that.

Answer 7

They don't call them the terrible twos for nothin! The people who suggest he needs therapy are out of their tree. He is acting out and all you need to do is figure out why and then work on controlling the behavior. I have a 3 year old that's a wild man and his 2nd year was exhausting. What I figured out was that it was just his way of fighting for attention. He has 3 older siblings and was just acting out to get his piece of me! I would make the effort to give him more one on one. Set aside time to just spend with him alone reading, talking, playing. You also need some kind of punishment system. I use time out based on age. In your case, two minutes is plenty. Explain to him what time out is, and why he's in it. He's two so you'll need to explain this over and over until he understands. It's worked here and my little wild man is a little calmer but still has his moments. Be firm and you'll see changes rather quickly. Good luck :)

Answer 8

What's the family situation like? My 2 yr old did the same things when my now ex-husband left. You can email me with more details and I'll respond. It really depends on the circustances around him. Is there a baby? Will there be? How many other siblings and ages? Is dad around?

Answer 9

He could be ADD or have Bipolar disorder...Just call your local clinic or his pediatrician and get him an appointment to be tested for either or both. Make sure everything he could hurt himself on is put up and nothing breakable or very heavy is in his way in the mean time!

Answer 10

I would have to agree with the last poster...if he doesn't have a male figure around he needs one...one that is going to be steady...my son is three and on his way to being a terror...I've made sure to make certain male figures in his life important...for instance if he starts acting up I tell him I'm going to call his father or his grandfather...even though they're not there around the clock he knows that if I call they will be there...but this advice is only if there is not a constant male figure around...