Do you have funeral plans already?

Answer 1

No. Though I have thought about creating a "living will".

I've seen far too much that can happen to someone when they get hurt or ill not to.

My mother died of cancer in 2004. She had expressed certain wishes before she got sick that were not followed out after she did.

As well... after my car accident, I remember being in the hospital and the doctors and nurses coming into my room daily testing my brain. They used to ask me simple math questions to try to see if my thinking came back.
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One day a nurse came into the room and asked me what 4 plus 3 was and, after thinking about it long and hard for about 10 minutes or so, I told her with complete conviction that it was 10.

Mind you, the brain damage was only temporary and my sense of smell is even almost recovered. I lost it completely for about 6 months, and then it slowly came back over the space of two years. The first time I tried apple juice, and it tasted the way it should (about 6 months after the accident), I cried.

I've had alot of time to consider the implications of it all and I've come to the conclusion that I'd rather die than live the mental life of a child for the rest of my life. I'd rather die than live life with horrible mutilations (I also have a metal rod in my leg holding it together but it could easily have been much worse), like the loss of both legs and arms, for the rest of my life.

And I don't want to force my husband, whom I love more than anything in the world, to make such a decision as unplugging my life support, because my wishes aren't written down and known.

I don't want to force this wonderful man I love so much to take care of me as he would have to a child.

I just love him too much and its just not fair or right to make him suffer that way.

And so yes, I'm thinking about a "living will". After I'm dead I won't care what happens, but I can't live that way and I can't force others to have to take care of me either. Even if they want to do it, its wrong.

My husbands grandmother has now gotten to the point where she needs almost constant 24 hour care. Now, his aunt is a nurse, and she's been working a full time job and taking care of his grandmother. Its starting to take its toll as she now has migraine headaches almost every day and it sends her to the hospital about once every two weeks or so. This never used to happen until his grandmother got this bad.

And its not fair to his aunt. She's a wonderful lady that has had no life at all of her own for at least 10 years. Even she has said that she can't do it for much longer and my husband has come on her more than once just bawling her eyes out in a chair.

Its not right. Its not fair. I can't do that to someone I love, or myself, I just can't.

Answer 2

Yes. After seeing the arguements over my Grandmother, mine is completley planned out.
I have the music ready, I have the bible verse I want used prepared, I have it all ready to go.
There will be no guessing what I would have wanted and no fighting about it.
I don't want my survivors being angry because someone sang 'Amazing Grace' instead of having it played on bagpipes (like Grams funeral)

Answer 3

No funeral. Cremation, then into the sea. If friends or family want to do a memorial service, that's fine. Ashes to the fishes.

Answer 4

Yes. I have instructed my wife and close friends that my wake and funeral are to be celebrated as a "Promotion Party." After all, that is what happened. I've been sent for by the Big Boss, and I've been promoted to upper management. Amen!

Answer 5

Yes.
We are paying for it right now so that when we get into mid life we don't want to be worrying about it.
It's was so upsetting. I was pregnant with our second daughter at the time when the man came to talk to us. He gave us a binder with coffin pictures in it and what type of fabrics you can have and pillow colors lol, it was like choosing new furniture for your home, in a creepy kinda way.
He got right down into what we are paying on and this includes, [shiver] embalming, makeup, okay i got the creeps again!
I was glad to just sign and not think about it again lol
We don't want our kids to be in debt for our deaths like we will be for my mother and like we are for his parent's.
We are paying on his father's right now and it's not cheap or easy, especially with our own mortgage and 3 children one of whom is special needs. But we have no choice in this matter because no one else will help.

Answer 6

No. I have absolutely nothing in writing. I should even in my 30's. The Bible says we have no promise of tomorrow. Also, my husband is quite a bit older than me. I wish we would get that taken care of. Do you have your plans? Since you asked the question.

Answer 7

It is in my plans to die one day and to have a funeral, but that is as far as it goes, so far.

Answer 8

I'm going to have my family chuck my body into the nearest large body of water and spend whatever money they were going to spend on a funeral on something nice for themselves.

Answer 9

Yep. I will donate my body to the University hospital and let them have whatever organs and tissues they need. Then, I want the rest to be creamated and made into a reef ball.

http://www.eternalreefs.com/

http://www.artificialreefs.org/Articles/Human%20ashes%20in%20concrete%20become%20marine%20habitats.htm

http://www.artificialreefs.org/Articles/News%20-%20Oddly%20Enough%20-%20Human%20Remains%20Used%20in%20Artificial%20Reefs%20(AP).htm

Answer 10

no...but my mother does...she honestly wants to be cremated, then mixed with potting soil and divvied up between pots, plant a flower in her, and each of the kids and family members gets one. I told her that she should never ever ever tell anyone that again, but she insists.