I am very excited and will be getting engaged in the next couple of weeks. I want to start thinking beyond the ring and the dress and the ceremony. I want to be a wife that my bf/fiance can be proud of.
What kind of qualities are important for me to have? All answers are welcome!
2007-11-07 03:24:50 · 12 answers · asked by Benji's Mommy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A male friend of mine said last week that women marry men with the idea that they can make them the perfect man, and men marry women hoping that they'll never change. A big generalization, but think about it...what qualities does he love about you now? I imagine he would be happy if you kept those qualities as the years go on. I know my husband hopes I always stay independent and don't turn into a Stepford wife that just does what he wants. Being a "good wife" just means loving your husband and taking care of your family's needs, whatever those might be. They are different for everyone, and you don't need to measure up to anyone else's standards. Good luck!
2007-11-07 05:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by dingding 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, no one has mentioned it...so in addition to the great answers listed above I will add Communication into the mix.
It's a deal breaker, believe me. Keep the lines of communication open and honest and the two of you will be able to work through your problems together. You will fight, even if you never have before. There will be times when he is not your favorite person and you'll need friends and family to lean on. But just talk to each other....about everything!!
And never go to bed angry/hurt/disappointed.
Wishing you all the best!
2007-11-07 05:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by lilfrisco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the book His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley. It's a long time international best seller. Harley lists, discusses, and provides exercises on the top five needs of men and the top five needs of women. Meeting each other's basic needs is important and helps make us good husbands and wives. It goes both ways.
Ok, in case you're wondering,
The top 5 needs of men:
1. Sexual fulfillment
2. Recreational companionship
3. An attractive spouse
4. Peace and quiet
5. Admiration
The top 5 needs of women:
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Honesty and openness
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment
You don't have to agree with Harley, and sometimes the needs are interchangeable. But a great place to begin.
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2007-11-07 03:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2017-01-05 02:28:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is particular to each individual relationship. I think this is a great question to ask your husband-to be. Each of you make a list and save it. Then check them periodically to see if you are meeting eachother's needs. You won't meet all of them all of the time, but at least you'll know what he's looking for and vice versa.
2007-11-07 03:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by Deanrijo 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
He already wants to marry you. I think you already know how to be a good wife.
Remember. The way to a mans heart is through his stomach!
2007-11-07 03:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥Soon to Be Mrs.F♥♥ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just be a good partner. Be fair and understanding and considerate. Dont try to change yourself or your partner.
2007-11-07 03:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by Diane M 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Slow down. You obviously already possess those characteristics that he wants. That's why he wants to marry you.
2007-11-07 03:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by nyjae 5 · 9⤊ 1⤋
FYI-I'm 21 , been maried 4 years-my husband loves to be admired by me, stroke his ego alot:) he loves how much i love him and will fight for him..meaning, being possesive of him. I think you should also let him be the man of the house, let him make the final call on things, make him feel he is smart enough to do this. tell him how hott he is, they like to hear just like we do:). when you have an opinion, dont nag about it. say your opinion and stick with it, but no one wants to hear the same rant over and over. never say no to intimacy with him, always be there for him, dont be a prude.:) would you like a man who said no to intimacy with you sometimes??probably not, so always be there for him, adn he will for you. if you done work this is easy, but if you do work..by all mean, he should help:)-make your home a place of refuge he can go to-keep it clean. be happy for him, no one wants to hang with a emotional wreck. If he starts yelling at you adn being rude about soemthing, dont sink to his level, if one spouse would learn to defer, marriages would work better. plus, if you have kids, they dont want to hear mommy and daddy arguing and being mean to eachother all the time. you can say almost anything as long as you say it kindly,well kind've:). but yelling and calling names wont work, no matter how badly you want to say them. love him with all your heart and all these things will come naturally:) and with you loving him like that, he will love you all the more..good luck!
2007-11-07 03:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by blakesgal 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Don't nag, dont complain about chores(no one likes chores, everyone knows, no need to complain), don't stop, slow, or alter sexual activity unless altering for the better. Don't assume you can change your husband, it never works.
Here's a valueable tip, hungry or undersexed men are cranky. If you want to fight over something, fight over something other than cooking, food or sex.
2007-11-07 03:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by billgoats79 5 · 2⤊ 6⤋