I am really depressed I take lexapro daily but I feel I'm still sinking what can I do?

Question

I can't talk to my wife because she automatically assumes it has to do with her I can't talk to my psycologist because...well I just can't and I have no friends except my online friends who can not devote all her time to talk to me I'm just really displeased with life in general and I have no idea what to do help please someone has to be able to relate

Answer 1

well medication is only half the answer to depression, you need to be in therapy too. Frankly a conginitive behavioral therapist would probably do you more good than a psychologist.
But if therapy is not in your ability, there is a self help program that I use, it has gotten me off medications and out of the therapists office. If you want more info, email me.

Answer 2

After five years of deep depression and a couple of suicide attempts, I found effexor XR to be the only anti-depressant that worked for me. That's half the battle.
When you are feeling up to it, you need to analyse your life and remove what or who makes you stressed or unhappy. Depressed people tend to attract people who are bad for their self-esteem or people who confirm their belief that they aren't good enough etc. Or they remove themselves from the world. When you feel better you will know what I mean.
When you find meds that work, you will then need to realise that everything in your life is the way that it is because of decisions that you made. You need to have the courage to admit your mistakes, fix them and move on. You might feel guilty, but what's worse, a few months of guilt for letting someone/something go or being happy for the next fifty or so years of your life?
Change your psychologist, no point paying for someone who you can't talk you. :)
Also, if you drink alcohol, even once every two weeks or so, stop that right away. Make sure that you are giving your brain the right nutrients to function properly. Might sound a bit hippy-dippy, but humans weren't meant to function on synthetic crap, so you can't expect your brain to work properly if you aren't feeding it what it needs to work. some people can eat what they want, some can't. Best of luck. Remember that it's your decision to get better and if you hit a brick wall when trying to find support, keep looking until you find somebody who understands and helps. You don't have years of medical training, the doctors do.
The problem with depression is that people think that it's the same as the monday blues, probably why your wife thinks it's all about her. Get her a pamphlet to read that explains it clearly. I've found that saying that it's the same feeling as overwhelming grief except you're not grieving for anything, it's just your chemicals making you feel like that, helps people to understand what it's like.

Answer 3

I take lexapro too and while it helps keep an grip on my mental problems, I relied on other stuff like eating good and religion to keep me going. Talk to your psycologist and your wife. I know that will be painful but you must do it. You may need to take different medications.

Another thing, how long have you been taking Lexapro? It takes Lexapro weeks before you feel the full effects.

Do not give up. Try to find something else to help you. Go out, get a hobby, find a support group, or do something else. Do not be afraid.

Answer 4

Maybe Lexapro is not right for you...I tried it first when I was diagnosed, and it didn't help me at all (if anything I thought I was getting worse). So, I went to another doctor for help and he put me on Effexor XR - I have been on it for over a year and it's wonderful! I am myself again. Maybe you could talk to another doctor about it and see if you can get a different opinion. I also don't think that support groups would be a bad idea - at least you would have someone to talk to that understands....good luck and I really hope that you are able to find some sort of resolution...

Answer 5

Yes. I can relate. Here are a couple of things you should think about doing.

First - who is prescribing your meds? You said you have psychologist, but do you have psychiatrist prescribing your meds or a general practitioner? Sounds like you need either a different dose or different drug, or maybe a combination of two different ones. It takes a while to get the right dose/combo that works for you.

Also, how long have you been taking your meds. It can take weeks for results to be felt. Be patient.

Second - are you drinking? It's ok if you are, but your Dr. needs to know so that he/she can adjust your medication. Just be honest with whomever is prescribing your meds, or else they can't help you.

Third - Find another psychologist. If you can't talk to the one you have or aren't comfortable, try another one. Keep trying until you find one that is compatible. Counseling is important when taking medication. It takes both to take care of depression.

I hope this helps. Above all, keep talking. FIND someone to talk to. Friends, religious advisors, doctors, anyone. Even Yahoo Answers. Don't give up on getting help.

Answer 6

Been there! You need to try another anti-depressants. I was on 3 different ones before finally getting on the right one for me. (Zoloft). You do not gain weight on it either!!! A good psychologist also helps but you must be very open and willing to talk about everything and anything. You can email me or others to talk, It really helps to have a support group. Trust me on this.

Answer 7

I went through some bad depression not even a year ago. It's different for everyone, but how i got through it is just keep thinking of the positive. Help out with others. Charity and volunteering is a great way to feel good about yourself.

Answer 8

Find a support group to go to and switch meds. Apparently Lexapro isn't for you. Remember though, there are no magic pills to help the depressed. The meds are tools to help us cope.

Answer 9

give me an e-mail i can really relate 100% and i would be more then willing to chat any time i can , i feel like that most of the time and its always a good idea to talk to some one that won't judge i could be that person

Answer 10

Speak with your therapist. You need to let it out, whatever it is that is dragging you down and therapy helps you do that. It's the reason why you go there, right? So, let it do its job.