stressed, exhausted, crying everyday, hopeless and can't go on anymore?

Question

I've been married only 5 months and we have lost our home (apartment) due to mold, our landlord wont give back security and we are now living with my parents and have NO money (I work full time so does he). I'm exhausted, stressed, crying everyday, my entire body hurts so bad I can barely move a muscle. My face feels "tingly" I really feel like I'm going to die (kind of wish I would too). I feel like I need to take time off work, like a month or so just to save my own life. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. My husband said he wants to divorce me because things aren't working out and we can never be alone. I can't go on anymore and I have no where to call home and no where to turn and no energy left. Please help, I don't know what to do.

Thanks Josi I'd also like to add my husband will not work with me, talk to me or even really come home. I'm on my own here and its just making everything worse. Some sleep would be amazing!

Maybe I am resisting life and I should just give in because I guess whatever is going to happen is going to happen whether I worry myself into a very early grave or not. I think I'm just so tired and frustrated I'm losing control of my emotions. Thanks for the answers all

Could be hormones too as I just had a miscarriage when we had to move and my husband began not speaking to me

Answer 1

Explain to your boss your current situation in confidentiality ONLY. Ask for a leave of absence and any advice on help that your job would support or provide--( a hotline, counseling) etc. Take some time away from your hubby and get yourself straight because he is not being supportive or understanding. Please take care of yourself and take it one day at a time.

Answer 2

It may not be feasible to take a month off, but you could probalby take a week off, especially of you go to the doctor and get a note. You sound like you have some form of depression, and may benefit from some medication, at least for awhile. Get some rest, as exhaustion will make you feel terrible even in good situations. When you've got your head cleared a bit, after some sleep and rest, make a plan on how to proceed, like 1. Go to doctor,take off work get some sleep. 2. Talk to husband calmly, find out how he is feeling, and work with him on a plan and a timetable for getting your own apartment again. 3. Look into getting your money back from landlord. Once you have a plan in place, hopefully things will start to look up. Just remember that this will not last forever, no matter how bad it seems right now. If you ask God to make himself real to you, he will, and you can know that he will be there by your side with you as you are going thru all of this.

Answer 3

Call your local city or town government and ask for the phone number for Tenant Rights or the ombudsman for tenant rights. That person can help you with your problem regarding your mold situation and the landlord not giving back your deposit. If there is a Building Codes department, give them a call too and let them know this building needs to be inspected. NO one should have to live in mold. You may also want to contact a lawyer; try Legal Aid, they will take your case and probably help you for free. You need an advocate, a professional advocate to help you dissect these problems and therefore, deal with them. There are a number of agencies who will help women in distress; that's you right now, dear, and you need to just pick up the phone and start dialing, asking questions, and getting help so you won't feel so overwhelmed.

P.S. If your husband says he wants to divorce you, that's very tough to take. It's easy to say, but hard to do when people tell you to "just" leave him. If you have a job, you can probably find a room somewhere until you can get up and on your feet. Start there, take baby steps for now and soon you will see that Life is manageable after all. Good luck!

Answer 4

You do have a home with your parents. And your husband should be grateful for that. It is never easy in the beginning and takes allot of work, especially in your situation. You need to sit down with your husband and build a plan for moving forward, I'm sure that he is also stressed and is just a frustrated as you are. Focus on the problems at hand and work on them together. You don't need money to love each other and can always go for a walk together just to get out of the house. In time you both will be able to look back and appreciate the hard work that you both put into it. Keep your head up, life isn't meant to be easy otherwise it wouldn't be worth living it...

Answer 5

Wow. That is a lot going on. No wonder you fee like taking some time off. You and your husband need to figure out if you will stay together. Look for another another apartment. With both of you working, you should be able to afford it. Is there someone you can talk to let out your feelings. You should be doing that with your husband and him too. See your doctor for a note for some stress leave. Even if it is for a week or two.

Answer 6

I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason. I am a property Manager and if you had to move due to mold in your apartment #1 they should give back your deposit and 2 you could be suffering from contamination to mold that can affect your health terribly! Go see what kind of legal right you have. You have a computer do some research and if your new hubby wants to bail out let him go.... he obviously cant be there for you "for better or worse" so cut your looses and move on his dead weight and bad attitude are probably holding you back from getting what you need. LOL

Answer 7

First of all, your husband really isn't supportive, you're supposed to be a team, there's gonna worst bumps ahead...You looked clinically depressed to me, you can get medecine for that, just to help you get some stability in your life, I can't believe your husband wants to divorce you, I'm sorry I'm sure you love him but he's an ***. When I feel stressed out, I love to get hugs, ask your mom for one! Maybe you can ask for a friday off and spend a weekend alone, taking warm baths with essential oils, sleeping till 11, and staying in your pjs all day...If you think about comitting suicide, please contact the hospital, tell your parents and friends how you feel so they can help u too... wish I could do more, good luck and god bless!

Answer 8

Forget about what you're husband wants, and think about yourself for a minute. I suggest that if you can find any free time at all, to go somewhere quiet like a library and just sit and not think about anything. Just sit somewhere and be still.

Or maybe go eat something satisfying(comfort food) and take some time out for you, so that you can relax for a few minutes. Get away from everything and you'll see things clearly.

Answer 9

#1 take care of yourself seek medical advice as soon as possible, #2 your community probably has help for a person in your situation be it mental health, getting shelter, or whatever you need but get the help. as for your husband have you guys gotten away for a short time to talk this out maybe he is feeling the same way you are. please get some help for your sake.. good luck

Answer 10

You're resisting life, that's why you're stressed, but the possibility exists to say yes to everything.

I recommend surrendering resistance and embracing life just as it is.

In fact, this is such a good opportunity for surrender, you should be thanking God it happened.