I was dating this guy. While I was with him I fell in love with another guy who had a girlfriend. Lets call him Bob. Bob fell in love with me too. We both dumped our boyfriend/girlfriend and now we're together. I feel really really bad because Bob's gf is sad about their breakup. Is it my fault? Bob and I kissed one time and then I told him I didn't want to see him unless he broke up with his current gf. Am I a bad person? Will karma come back to get me for dumping my ex and 'stealing' someone else's bf? HELP!
2007-11-07 02:52:37 · 11 answers · asked by Shana H 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh teenage drama....you're fine and your not a bad person. Don't worry about it.
2007-11-07 02:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by mandynjoseph 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he couldn't have been that happy if you "stole" him away, could he..... From your description, it looks like bobs relationship was going to fall through sooner or later. Most breakups are bad- I'm sure Bob's ex will get over it- and you have given her time to adjust and find someone new rather than spinning out a "go nowhere" relationship.
As for karma, Yes you caused pain- but then (from your description) you have caused healing. the only matter here is weather the pain outweighs the healing, and weather your description of events was or is accurate.
2007-11-07 02:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Randathamane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really because if Bob loved really loved his girlfriend he wouldnt be kissing you and he wouldnt of broken up with her. It's kind of messed up how you knew he had a girlfriend but i think when two people like each other, you cant really help it. Just dont be surprised if Bob does you how he did he last girlfriend and he shouldnt be surprised if you find someone else. You kno. Good luck
2007-11-07 02:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by p3bbl3s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I left my husband and after started dating his ex roomate who i dated prior to my husband and it broke his heart. He was always telling me i would do that though it could have been subconcious, but he also knew that i loved my ex and if he ever gave me the time of day i would go back in a heartbeat. I did, i felt bad for a little bit but the feeling i get with him is so strong it takes me over. you are not a bad person peoples hearts can change in an instant...you are only human and love is a complicated game to play. nobody gets it right the first time. Inever thought i would leave my husband, but i did and i never thought i would get to be with thte man of my dreams, but here i am....its not your fault for haveing natural feelings.
2007-11-07 03:02:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is in the wrong from what I am reading, you both handled this in an adult manner. Staying with the other partners would have been the wrong choice, it would have deceived them and kept them from moving on to their potential soul mate. It is healthy to have empathy for the other party, but she needs to heal on her own, as does your ex-partner. All new beginnings have had their prior endings, it is best to let those things be and continue on....focus on the future you both want now, live it day to day and see what happens. Watch "Serendipity" and hope for the best. God Bless!
2007-11-07 03:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what you guys can't feel bad for following your heart it might be a shady thing to do but would you rather be with someo one you dont love or be with the one u love? I think that she should be fine. She wasn't with the one and now she has the chance for some else to find his way into her heart. and as for you, you let your self be happy and congrats that you both found love, and for ur x hook him up with ur bf's x
2007-11-07 03:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by ARCE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until people are married, they are searching for the right partner for each other. I think you should not actively break up someone else's romance. But if a guy decides that you are the right girl for him, that is HIS choice. And that is what dating is all about. You are not married yet.
2007-11-07 04:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're not a bad person..... you're just a woman!!!!
hehe na im just kidding.....
NO ur not a bad person..... neither of u are.... nobody can control his own heart..... BUT ure a bit bad wen u kissed a guy that already had a girlfriend and u had ur boyfriend.... next time (hopfully there wont be one) try "clearing the field" before swinging your bats;)
2007-11-07 03:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T WORRY he was more into you so he left his girl no big deal. If he was happy with her he wouldn't have left. His ex needs to go hook up with some rebound hotties
2007-11-07 03:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by thumper j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your a bad person but karma might.
2007-11-07 03:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by bettyaboop510 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say "All's fair in love and war", it's not like he was married. Married people should be off limits.
2007-11-07 03:02:32 · answer #11 · answered by Maria b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋