Some of you know I had a friend / co-worker have a very serious accident last week. She passed away yesterday, and this morning we had a moment of silence during which we were asked to pray for her soul. It didn't bother me. Normally such things irritated me. I do believe in God, but public prayer isn't my thing... still, I just sat there, glassed over, and wasn't bothered by the work prayer thing. How would you all have felt?
2007-11-07 00:39:05 · 27 answers · asked by ZombieTrix 2012 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why would it be repulsive to anyone to take a quiet moment of prayer? This was quiet. There was no public display. You sat there with your eyes glassed over with held back tears & just sat there and thought tenderly about your friend. This was touching.
2007-11-07 00:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
Maybe God was trying to show you something with that. I don't mean your friend passed away just for you to learn something, she had to pass away, that was her moment, however, God worked in a way that you could make part of it, so that you could feel and see the situation under another perspective. Maybe public prayer never touched you so much, because you were not so close to the emotion it can give you. With the passing of your friend, you had the chance to experience this in another way, with your emotion tuned in. That said, even if you don't like it, try to respect others. Prayer has a different meaning to everyone and we can't just catalog them and determine what is right or wrong. Maybe we all should think that everything is right, according to one's emotion in the moment.
May God receive your friend and make her understand and accept what is going on in a smooth way. Sometimes it might be difficult for someone to accept death, especially if she was young and died in an accident. She certainly needs prayer, so that she can receive all the spiritual help she can get to do the transition. People say they are resting, but it is not exactly that simple, she might be confused and sad. Her family needs to help her by praying and accepting it with love in their hearts. They need to "let her go" so to speak.
Peace!
2007-11-07 11:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by Janet Reincarnated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A coworker's death is something way too serious, for people to keep fighting over prayers. I'm sure some of your coleagues felt the need to make that prayer, and I think it's something you just can't deny them. When someone dies, those things become very not important.
I think I would tolerate any kind of things I don't believe in, in a such situation, and any kind of things I disaprove
2007-11-07 08:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by larissa 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I prefer to see a moment of silence as an opportunity (internally) to pay my respects, acknowledge the event and reflect on what happened. I do not pray in these events because prayer, like funerals, isn't for the prayee as much as for the person praying.
I'm sorry you have lost a friend.
2007-11-07 10:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by Peter D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Creatrix....
My Belief is that when a person has passed, their "soul" has no more need of prayer and doesn't do any good to do so....their time for prayer is while they live, NOT after they have died.
I much prefer how it has always seemed to be handled in my school days and in every place of employment I have been in: Being asked to give a few moments in silent respect in memory of the person and our sympathy and well wishes to their family and friends..... This way, we are privately able to pray for their surviving loved ones as well as have a moment to reflect on memories of the individual that has died, and no-one is "offended". :)
2007-11-07 09:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by ForeverSet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was a very nice thing to do....all of the co-workers need some type of closure / acknowledgment of her interaction to their lives...
as co-workers when some one is injured or another problem we do pass the hat for $ to help out in time of need....To have a group prayer when someone we all knew has passed away is a good thing...
I would hope to be remembered in such a kind fashion by my co-workers.....
to be ignored after passing away would be so very sad....
2007-11-07 08:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by coffee_pot12 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
CSE,
A moment of silence allows others the opportunity to reflect on the person and allows those who have religious beliefs to "pray" if they choose to do so. It is probably the best way to handle such a situation and does not infringe on other's wrights in my opinion. I personally feel it is the best alternative but I would NEVER have suggested Prayer in the statement at all! Have a great week.
Thanks,
Eds
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2007-11-07 08:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by Eds 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm... How very difficulty life can be sometimes. Taking a moment of silence to recognize the loss of a co-worker is appropriate. To be asked "to pray for a soul" is not only inappropriate but additionally it is offensively ignorant, impolitely opposing and very possibly illegal.
I would have reacted as you did... silently... and I would have appreciated the good intentions expressed by the prayer group, but the experience would have left me a bit angry over the idea that there are still so many people who fail to recognize the hopelessness of ever being rescued from our shared reality of existing in a godless universe.
I truly hope that you'll rid yourself of the trauma you've suffered over your friends death and that you'll do that just as quickly as you can; and, I also hope that you'll continue on in good health without any long lasting illness from the sadness brought on by this event but instead recall the most pleasant memories of life with your friend and enjoy each them fully and in warm fondness.
Please accept my personal sympathy for your moments of suffering and take my best wishes for your future happiness.
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2007-11-07 09:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, the moment of silence, prayer for the dead person`s soul, journey of the soul to heaven or hell after the physical death etc are all for our mental satisfaction. All these have no connection with the dead person. When the cell function of the body of any life form stops, it is the total end.
2007-11-07 09:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by Gee Waman 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think I would have been bothered by them mentioning prayer because I would have been to busy being sad for her and her family.
(Though it is sort of inappropriate to say something as specific as asking people to "pray for her soul". They should have left it as just a moment of silence.)
2007-11-07 09:52:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jess H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋