Why do I find it difficult to look people in the eyes when I am talking to them?

Question

I find each day getting harder and harder, Iam hoping someone can help me???

I can no longer look people in the eyes and when I do I always find myself looking down.
This is not shyness this is living hell !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have a family plus friends who I try an avoid, I even hate facing my sons school Teachers to the point I avoid taking him to school.
I just told my husband after 10 long hard years.

p.s this not a sexual thing because I do this to women or men
Save me before I go crazy.

Answer 1

Maybe you feel as though others are seeing more of you when you look into their eyes, like your eyes are the windows to your soul so to speak. You may feel that people are looking right through you.

Try looking at their nose or at their forehead when your talking to them, then you won't be forced to look directly in their eyes when your talking with them. They won't know that your looking at their nose or fore head, but they will feel that they have your attention and they will also feel that you don't have any thing to hide from them.

As time goes on and you become comfortable with doing that then try looking at their eyes and getting use to that. It's really good if your look at peoples eyes, you can tell a lot about people when you look into their eyes.

If this doesn't work for you then you may want to speak with your doctor. Since you may have some kind of anxiety disorder that is causing you to feel this way, it may be able to be controlled through medication.

Answer 2

Go to the mirror, sit directly in front of it. Look yourself directly in the eyes for as long as you can. Smile, learn who you really are and how to like yourself. Do it several times a day or at least every day. You need to see what other people are seeing. I'm sure you are no different than any one else. You have beauty & you need to realize that! This is a therapy, to help you see inside your own soul, your own personality & your selfworth . Very soon you will realize you are perfectly normal and people might actually like to look at you. I kinda had to do this myself years ago. Now I can look anybody in the eye. They are no more special than you or me! They are the same so stop cowering down. Stand up look around you are missing alot!

Answer 3

Mandy...try looking people in the eyes while you are listening to them...the fact is you probably already do this...it is only polite and I bet you are a good listener...Then just look at someone and say something easy like good morning or hello...then if it gets uncomfortable...look away...all you need to do is practice...good luck Blue316

Answer 4

Sounds like you are very shy and need to go out more.
Young people find it difficult to look me in the eyes as I am physically disabled and they don't know what to say.So you are not alone.
You need to speak first to people.Ask them a question most people like talking about themselves.
Don't wait to be spoken to!

Answer 5

i cant look directly in someones eyes either....when ur talking to someone..dont think..just talk..it'll be easier