2007-11-07 00:11:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's not a contest to me however I do have STANDARDS & what WE want. I shouldn't have said miserably poor -- more so not having the extra money to do things..
2007-11-07 00:24:31 · update #1
I ONLY worded it that bc I felt the largest budget problems are with people doing everything themselves. Perhaps poorly worded but I'm happy for those of oyu that have a ton of help--your blessed. :)
Please don't assume *I'm jealous*...I'm in my late 20's and both of my Parents are on a fixed incomes now...tradition goes out the window when a fixed income comes into play!
2007-11-07 02:04:42 · update #2
I'm not having the most extravagant things--and I'm making several items myself--I believe the stress comes in when both of your parents have (11+ siblings!) Ugh. I was more venting then downgrading others.
2007-11-07 02:08:18 · update #3
I'm just going to face the fact that there are very ignorant people on here that specifically think smart-alecky is a word...LMAO! Get a life moron!
2007-11-07 06:08:27 · update #4
I know what you mean, I understood the meaning of the question, it made me laugh! We saved for 6 months and didn't have any nights out or buy any new clothes etc in that time, we worked really hard and had the wedding we wanted, it was just perfect for us. It is now 2 months on and we are just about coming even now, nothing left to pay for and this is the first month we have had any spare cash at all, it was worth every single penny and I am so proud of us for saving up and doing things in such a grown up manner.
2007-11-07 03:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very excited about my upcoming wedding (Dec 1st) however I understand how a person could feel like they are poor while planning. First off it cost so much for just the simple things when you mention the word wedding, the price seems to go up! We just want a simple wedding with just a few people... but we still want it to be elegant. I went to 2 weddings in the last 2 months and they were pretty over the top... But I find that everything that could add on an expense in our lives right now is happening.... brakes on the car that normally cost around $150 ended up costing $340 ... got a speeding ticket $165... I lost more weight so I needed an additional alteration to my dress... It makes it all come out of the wedding fund, so to speak. Keep your head up and remember that this is for you and your soon to be husband, not a show of how much money you can spend. GOod luck
2007-11-07 01:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by daniegirl917 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering if 2 years will give us enough time to be able to afford our wedding - LOL. We are in our 30s and we help our parents financially right now.
I totally catch your drift and those that have other sources of paying for their weddings are very lucky (hopefully they know that and are appreciative!).
I am skrimping and saving by doing as much myself as possible. Also, knowing 2yrs ahead of our plans allows me to take advantage of sales of items we will need when they come up.
I found a craft store going out of business and got print-your-own invitations for 50% off. We are doing Halloween theme and I just picked up our favors at 50% off. These are areas where I can save, but I know the reception is going to be a big expense. My fiance & I really want to have a nice reception and great food and just a great happy party and we've got to pay the price-tag that comes with it.
2007-11-07 02:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am trying to do the best i can with a guest list of 200 ppl and 10,0000. I believe we are spending the money where it counts, Food, hall, entertainment. But it is putting a damper on having fun for a year. We are able to go to movies here and there, but we try to stick to the mantinee hours, due to price..... Other then that we really cant afford to do much else right now.... It does suck a little, but its ok, cause i think it will all be worth it in the long run.... whats nice is this coming may he no longer has a truck payment!! wooohoooo! so that means extra dough, but for now not so much!! :-(
I feel your pain.....
2007-11-07 00:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by Gotta luv it! 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeah...I'd like to have a nice gathering for the people who have loved and supported us over the years. Even when I've axed lots of the "traditional" wedding costs (tuxedos, over-priced bridesmaids dresses, corsages, boutonnieres, etc.), things are still expensive! I've been looking at a lot of the different "budget wedding" sites and on Y! answers for cost-saving ideas.
2007-11-07 00:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by mellowyellow5 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It does take a little bit of penny pinching. We paid for our own wedding and we did have to sacrifice some things in our life to pay for the wedding. When everything comes together on your wedding day, it will be worth every penny. Good luck!
2007-11-07 01:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by vaya 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't let your jelousy and bitterness that you are paying yourself mean you start looking down on people who are getting outside help from their families or are lucky enough that their parents can afford to help. Sorry you aren't but they are just as ready to be married as if they were footing the whole bill.
2. The only thing we aren't paying for is the bar tab (we were going to have dry since thats what we could afford but HTB's family insisted on alcohol). And yeah, sometimes I wish we could drop a few bucks and have a good time instead of saving. However, I know it's important to NOT letting having a wedding affect our relationship so one paycheck of the month we go out and have a fun date-night.
2007-11-07 01:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Honestly! When did it become such a bad thing to follow tradition?!? There's nothing wrong with the parents pitching in or even paying for the whole thing! Why does everyone think it's in poor taste to have the parents pay for a few things? If anything it's etiquette!
EDIT: You could've avoided such confusion by leaving out the smart-aleky "For people that don't have Mommy & Daddy paying". That was just uncalled for. You made it sound like people who had their parents pay for their wedding are cheap and asked for them to do it as a handout or something. It's fine that you're paying for your own wedding and everything (more power to ya), but don't try and make people who had a little help with theirs look bad.
2007-11-07 01:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Yes, I can relate. It turned out nice though. We went to Gatlinburg and got married in a mountain Chapel. We had a pretty cake, nice pictures and a mountain view. My husbands family had a family reunion planned and came up so we had lots of family with us. We also paid for everything up front, in payments. I would suggest it for anyone paying themselves.
2007-11-07 01:13:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I keep thinking "we can't afford that"...but we're paying for the wedding and building a house right now. We can afford what we're doing, I just keep seeing the money we're spending and its a little overwhelming. We just paid $60K cash for our land, then a few thousand for plane tickets, then more for this, more for that....I'm just not someone who spends money like that, so its a bit much for me to handle.
2007-11-07 01:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋