I'm in highschool, and I've been dating a guy for almost 2 months now. The problem is that my parents absolutely can't stand him, so we've been dating in secret. It worked fine for a while, but I'm tired of sneaking around and lying to my parents. Plus, I just feel like the relationship is going nowhere. It's not that he's done anything wrong, it's just the way I feel about everything. I want to break up with him, but I don't know how to tell him. Please help!
2007-11-07 00:10:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell your parents and when they ground you, you could just tell him that's that.
2007-11-07 00:13:42 · answer #1 · answered by AussieGent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just told us! That it's not anything personal against him, but you dont want to be in a relationship where you have to sneak around. Tell him that the relationship is not going anywhere and you want to end things before the two of you get more involved, and feelings get deeper. If he is a decent guy, you can still remain friends, and if not, then it's best that you ended it when you did. He may get mad, but you can't let that stop you from doing what you think is right. Good luck to you!
2007-11-07 00:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by MLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do it in public. Not like around anyone you know, but at a coffee shop or whatever, so nothing too weird can go down. (And make sure you have your own ride home.)
When you're done with hi-how-are-you, don't play word games. Say that the relationship has run its course and that while you have enjoyed your time with him, you know it's time to start a new chapter.
From then on, and do not talk **** about him to your friends, and be cordial when you see him -- but also maintain some distance, so he doesn't start thinking you're interested in getting back together.
2007-11-07 00:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how u feel , of course he can't read ur mind , n ur parents can't do it for u b/c u were tha 1 dat was sneaking around behind ur parents bac , lyin' 2 dem , I think dis is 1 dat's all on u , n u r tha 1 dat goes w/ him , so u need 2 b tha 1 2 explain 2 him how u feel , n don't b ashamed 2 , b/c of tha simple fact is is dat ur unhappy , n he needs 2 knw dat dis isn't workin' anymore , n for tha simple fact , u do owe him dat much at least 2 telll him !
2007-11-07 00:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nay-Nay B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him things just are not working out and with your parents against this whole relationship the sneaking and lying you just cant do this anymore and tell him he has done nothing wrong but things are just not working out either way there is going to be hurt feelings but don't lie to him do it right away and get this over with
2007-11-07 00:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol! Silly girl!
Just tell him basically what you told us. Just tell him the truth, that it's just not working out, and that you are tiered of sneaking around. Maybe it will work out some time down the road, but not right now. Tell him you're really sorry.
Good luck. and remember, it's just high school...
2007-11-07 00:14:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already sum it up right here! you are an honest person and the sneaking around is bothering you. talk to him about htis and if he cares about you he will understand. if you can help it, don't cut him off entirely...keep him around as a friend. who knows? maybe your family will see that he isn't so bad in time. and if something between you is meant to be then it is going to happen, don't worry! and kudoes to you for being a good person with a concience. that is so unusual anymore!!
2007-11-07 00:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Kitty Katt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Star. Say everything you said in your question. Be gentle about it, assure him he's done nothing wrong. It's never easy, but it'll be better in the end. Good luck to you!
2007-11-07 00:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you just said. I would see no problem with doing it over the phone. It's the only way I've ever ended relationships.
2007-11-07 00:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Star 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
whilst i have no dating experience, i have aided and had friends confide in me about relationship issues, hope this helps
one of my best friends, dated this guy for three months and she loves him, they spilt up and she moved she then dated sumone else and split up with him,
she now wishes to get bk with him as she still loves him
perhaps u may love this guy and u may only realise when u spilt up.
2007-11-07 00:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by xxxxxxxxx.DDavid................ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly the same, the way you feel. Don't lie it is not going to help and just imagine how would you feel
2007-11-07 00:14:07 · answer #11 · answered by Fox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋