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I need some advice on something that only happened a half hour ago,iv had a huge fight with my mother but i wasnt just just ur normal arguement it got kinda physical and she has a complete anger problem i really tried to reason with her & calm her down but no use,Things got broke she even pulled the kettle out of the wall and she den slipped on the water dat came outta it i tried to help her up but she told me to get the **** off her.I blocked the door cause she was trying to leave and i didnt want her to go out upset i want to sort things out so much,but wen i wouldnt move she was pushing me up against the door handle and pulled my hair.I honestly was scared of her and couldnt stop crying tears are rolling down my face as i write this.She left & i dont know wat 2 do i love her so much & makes me sick 2 tink she hates me.2 yrs ago i used to self harm but got help but now i d last few mins iv done it again i never thought i wud coz i was hard to get over it the 1st time,wat am I guna do

i appreciate everyones answers,but i hve to let ye kno i have done nothing to make my mum angry dats why im so upset she flies off the handle for no reason she doesnt listen i have done nothing wrong i have only tried to stick up for myself

Answer 1

first of all do not blame yourself, i know it is easy to harm yourself to try and gain control of the situation but as you know it is not the solution. as has been said you need to forgive yourself, you made a mistake we all falter at times but that does not mean you have fallen back into old habits. clean yourself up, and calm yourself down. if you have a friend nearby or an aunt or family of some sort it may be a good idea to give them a ring or leave a note in case your mum comes back and just go and sit with them for a while. i don't think being on your own in the house is such a good idea. maybe you could go for a walk to use up a bit of energy. your right your mum does have an anger problem by the sounds of it and she needs to sort it out, but that isnt your problem, and you shouldn't allow it to be. All you need to do is to forgive her, your relationship with your mum is imortant, and as has been suggested once you have both calmed down you will need to sit down and talk through what has happened. i can't believe it is easy but you have to be strong, your not alone there are people you can talk to; and if you will believe me there is a God who loves you aswell, who said "i will never leave you or forsake you" Josh1:5, and "comforts us in all our affliction" 2Corinth1:4. and when it feels like there is no hope, He is our hope. I hope you sort things out with your mum, you will be in my prayers.
Philippians 4:3 "I can do all things through Him who strengthens me"

Answer 2

I'm really sorry to hear that you are so upset darling, the best thing for you to do right now is stay out of your mums way for a while, I'm not saying that this is your fault but your mum needs some time to calm down. im sure that when she does she will apologise for what has happened , then maybe you both can talk calmly about what has triggered this episode. maybe she is going through some things that you might not understand and the fact that you got into a row with her just sent her over the edge. basically she is your mother and im sure she loves you so love her back and just give her some time. this will all be forgotten about in a day or so

good luck honey
hope things work out x

Answer 3

Ok. you realise that wot u have done is wrong and set you back. Forgive urself.
As for you mom sounds, like she has a bit of an anger problem. Let her calm down then try and talk to her. Explain you were only trying to help her up and there was no need for the abuse that she gave you.
moms and daughters are supposed to be close and i know it cant be that way all the time but i do think you and ur mom need to talk.
I also think that your mom should see someone especially if shes getting physical.
good luck

Answer 4

There are better places and/or persons to seek help rather than here in Answers. But for what it's worth, I sympathize with you because I know you're going through tough times.
I believe good and constant communication is essential in family relationships. When all persons involved in a quarrel or disagreement have calmed down, it's always good to talk about the issue: the cause of the misunderstanding and not what happened during the fight itself, being truthfull to how and what you think and feel. It's intimacy (i.e. being true to each other) that fuels and reinforces love. This is true in any relationship.

Answer 5

hey hun, self harming will only cause more pain not relief, ( used to it but made myself stop) leave your mum be for a day or so and then go round and talk to her and take it from there, im guessing that she was really upset with you and her anger became the better of the situation. you will probably end up in each others arms crying and saying sorry to each other and it will then be sorted. time is a great healer and it will sort itself out.
good luck x

Answer 6

Your mum will always love you. Its part of being a mum. Even she might forget sometimes, but its there.
She has problems too don't forget. Maybe try and talk to her when things calm down, she probably knows she has anger problems and pointing it out wont be easy, but maybe her hormones, or stress. Just remind her that you know shes always been there for you despite everything and you're there for her too.
Good luck.

My mum left me in care when she left the country when I was 14 and said some dreadful things, but we worked it out eventually

Answer 7

Do not self harm. YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THAT. My mother used to be barking mad and called me every vile name under the sun when I was a child. Now she is an old lady and having run out of energy is much more mellow. How sweet !!! Make sure you are OK, THEN AND ONLY THEN WORRY ABOUT YOUR MOTHER. This is not selfish, just self preservation.

Answer 8

hi there im sorry to hear whats happend between you and your mum.Mother and daughter relationships are really difficult sumtimes its hard to get on with each other and reason with each other.My advice to you is to let things carm down for both of you and take time out by yourself and carm down think about things.Yr mum sounds like she needs to get help with her anger to control it.could it be that your mum has some personal problems that are getting her down? when she and yrself have carmed down talk about what happend and try to come up with ways to help each other so it dosent happen again.But remember you need to communicate with each and listen to each other and try not to get into a row again. good luck

Answer 9

Den and dat???? You both need time to calm down before you decide what course of action to take. No-one can advise you - think carefully and get on with it.

Answer 10

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