Christian facing alot. Need some help?

Question

Im in alot of pain...having alot of health problems. Im not sure what im up against.. im waiting for the health coverage to go thru.....alot of stuff going on. No friends no family.. just the EX. I cant begin to tell you how my life is...but im hoping someone can help me out ...offer me up some encouraging words. Its times like this that i often think of killing myself...living is to much.....more so when your in physical pain. If god's LOVE is so great and so strong then cant he relieve me of some of my suffering? and if your going to reply please say more then bible verses... i know the word is important but if maybe you can offer me advice from personal experince. ya? Thanks.

Answer 1

My heart aches for you and I so understand because I also have to deal with daily pain which has gotten worse as I have gotten older. I have osteoarthritis and post polio syndrome and the polio problems have caused more problems with my joints. I also suffered with Epstein Barr Virus and Chronic Fatigue which caused me so much grief, especially when I had the EBV and and suffered with one infection after another after another........ for 5 years !! I've had numerous surgeries through the years, all which help for a while and then I'm back to Square One it seems. What really makes this even rougher for you is not having friends or family to help you deal with it all but that in no way means it is hopeless :) :)

If you aren't going to church, find a good congregation where you can get involved in some Bible studies and make some friends. Being a bit more active when you are able will be beneficial to your mental and emotional health and keep you from slipping into depression.

You might also try taking St John's Wort to help you with any depression if and when you experience it. It has helped me in the past and I've recommended it to a couple of friends who also found it beneficial. You can take it for a couple or three weeks when you need it and then lay off until you need it again. If it doesn't help, you need to talk with your doctor about getting a prescription of some sort because you may need something a bit stronger.

There are so many other trials I had a few years ago that I won't go into here but believe me, it was a very devastating time and I sometimes wondered if I would ever make it through but I never gave up on God or blamed Him for what I went through.

Just like Job, the devil has his hand in our lives, too, and will do anything he can to pull us away from God.... but we don't have to let him win. Find a support group where others are going through what you are so you can get support and encouragement from them along with friends at church.

I have found heat to be very beneficial for my aches and pains so if you don't have a hot tub, get in the bathtub if you can and soak in very warm water. I usually let some of the water out after about 15 minutes and add more hot water and lay there for maybe 1/2 hour so the moist heat will soak into the muscles and joints (per my doctor from back home).

I also use the Therma Care heat wraps or a heating pad to help with the muscle pain which many times keeps me awake when I'm trying to sleep. I don't use the heating pad when I'm sleeping, though, because it is too easy to get 2nd or 3rd degree burns so I only use it during the day if I need it and the Therma Care wraps when I'm sleeping. You might also talk with your doctor about going to a physical therapist so they can show you other ways to help with the pain.

I do wish you well and hope you can get some help so you won't have to deal with this alone all the time. God bless you and give you strength and remember, God never forsakes us. He is always there and will help us through the rough times if we just keep the faith.

Answer 2

Please do not end your Life. Depending on the kind of pain that you are in... there may be a way to fix it. Life can be good again, it really can. I went through a long period of being sick every single day. I was very depressed. Sometimes depression can actually cause pain and illness. Please go to an ER. Use the name David Doe, or any name that is not yours if you must. They will treat you no matter what. You can get medicine at no cost. If you do not believe in lying you will have to pay for it at some point, but they will definitely treat you. I am not a Christian so i cannot give you any good Christian advice. I will say though that things CAN get better. They really really can. If you need someone to talk to you can Email me. I hope you feel better real soon.

Answer 3

I see from your profile that you are a 'new' Christian. One of the jobs of your priest is to offer pastoral care. That is to say, talking to and offering assistance to people like yourself who are having difficulties.
So I guess your first call should be to him / her and also to your congregation.
The problem of pain is a hugely difficult one. You have obviously consulted your medics about it. If the pain relief they've given you doesn't hack it - go and see 'em again.
If you've taken all the medication they can offer and you are still in pain, consider going to a complementary therapist. What sort of pain / problem is it? If it's a bad back, for example, medics aren't going to help you much anyway and you're going to need to go complementary.
Some hospitals and doctors offer pain management centres, which might be worth looking into.
As far as God is concerned, and the question of why He doesn't help - that's such a stumbling block for the church - it's actually a major reason why I left Christianity and became a Buddhist. Sometimes, it seems, pain just has to be borne; to be 'suffered out', as it were. In such cases, 'acceptance' of what is in the moment that you are feeling it is the only recourse I know.
I hope something I've said here may help.
Best wishes,
Jon

Answer 4

I too have had major health problems. The pain so bad you can hardly get out of bed. You have to take pain reliving drugs to fall asleep at night, and you wake up with so much pain in the morning your first prayer is why did you not die in the middle of the night. DO NOT GIVE UP. It will get better, but not over night or tomorrow. God is with you, holding you fast . One day at a time, simple joys. I came to realize my body needed a rest and I had refused to slow down and take it easy so my body rebelled and made me slow down. I was forced to take it easy. I was able to smell the flowers because there were some days when that was all I could do. Once I realized this I was able to start healing, It took while for me to see past the pain but one day at a time.
In Christ a friend

Answer 5

I once got an email with an attachment showing drawings of people carrying their own crosses. All of them were walking through the desert, with their crosses on their shoulders, visibly uncomfortable but persevering with them.

One man in the group with a long, heavy cross stopped and said to God,' Lord, it's too heavy. could you please shorten it.' He then got out a saw and proceeded to shorten his cross. With the cross being lighter, he was able to walk faster and was infront of the group. This was not enough though and he asked God once again to shorten the cross and again, he sawed off a bit more.

Now he could move even easier. However he suddenly found himself at a chasm, a wide gap in the earth. He stood there, not knowing what to do. In the meantime the rest of the group caught up and used their cross as a bridge to cross the chasm by laying it over the gap. They were able to get across and then picked up their crosses and resumed their journey once more. The man with the shorter cross however, was not able to continue as his cross was too short to cover the chasm, and he realized why he was first given the long, heavy cross he was given.

I'm sure the cross you are bearing right now will be the very thing that will get you across the chasm.

Be patient, have faith and trust in God.

Peace.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Pain is inevitable. Suffering however, is optional.

Most, if not all of us, have faced deep depression and even suicidal thoughts in our life time. And as a person who has chronic pain and GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder) I may understand a little bit about how you feel. In times like these, I try to concentrate my effort of just enduring, trying to stay positive, and distracting myself with little things I enjoy.

Now look at the first sentence I wrote. It's a quote (but I can't remember who said it)...either way it's true. We will ALL have pain at some point whether it be physical or emotional. But how we let it affect us is our choice. When the pain gets bad, have you tried any kind of relaxation technique like meditation or calming breathing? Distraction can also work well in some cases---that can come in the form or reading, watching a favorite movie, or working on a hobby. There is also another way that was taught to me, for how to handle pain. It's hard to master, but it DOES work. When something in our bodies is not working or is injured, we get pain---that is the brain letting us know something needs to be dealt with. So acknowledge the pain, let yourself feel it as a sensation for moment, and then concentrate on shutting the pain signal off. You can even say something to yourself like "I acknowledge something is wrong; now shut off the signal". I know it sounds a bit silly, or tough, but it does work with practice. Try it.

As far as your emotions go, sometimes we just go through some really rough patches in our lives. Passages that really test our mettle. I think the important thing is to just keep looking forward; knowing in your heart that this bad phase WILL pass. Do things right now that make you feel happy and hopeful; a walk in the park; read a favorite well loved book; finish an old project; redecorate you home; call an old friend; put on your favorite CD, splurge a little on some new clothes or something you really want....all of these actions help affirm you to yourself, and remind you that you are still here, still going. And take the pain and sadness as it comes, one day at a time.

Also, have you tried looking up any local support groups? These kinds of groups are usually free or very low cost, and they consist of a group of people going through similar things and taking about ways to cope. Similar to an AA meeting.

And as far as your faith being involved in all of this---I am not your typical Christian...I am more a Catholic-Universal - Pagan - Humanist, lol. So I am not qualified to shout Bible verses at you, and I'd never do that anyway. I do however, have faith. And sometimes that faith wavers, and I doubt. That is normal and natural. It is also a perfect time to renew and rejuvenate your faith. Faith in God and love is such a powerful and uplifting thing. Lean on it if you can; pray (and I don't mean the Biblical utter worship I'm so terrible praying) I mean really TALK to God. Let your feelings out. Talk about your pain, doubts, sadness. Soemtimes this can help to let these things out, like drawing out poison.

And most importantly,(in my opinion) realize that each day brings new things. Each day is different. You could wake up 3 days from now, and your medical coverage has gone through, you go to the doc and he/she figures out your problem and you're on your way to feeling better. A month from now, you could meet a really amazing person and begin dating them. Life is in constant motion. Remember that, and endure.

This too shall pass.

Answer 8

a year ago last month i got really sick- adnomyosis- hemoraghing to death, severe anemia, seizures migraines, diabetes went haywire, kidney disease, depressiona nd anxiety, fell in a grocery store and messed up my back and knees so couldnt walk, couldnt sleep and due to anemia- i only ate ice cubes. now, a year later i feel much better and got my health on track. it was hard on me as i used to be a police officer and was always healthy and thought of myself as tough. during this time i learned a lot, placed my life in Gods hands and refused transfusions etc. i became much closer to God. people didnt fix me, save me, or comfort me. i layed in bed for almost a year other than going to dr. appts. no-one seemed to care- not even my children. due to my illness i lost my home and all i owned and worked so hard for my whole life. i was even having severe med reactions where i wanted to commit suicide anumber of times. i hung inthere and here i am. i am well now. everything is temporary even life itself. this too shall pass. hope you get to feel better. use your experiences to further the Lords wor, get some good cd's and surround yourself with God every moment of the day. you will be surprised at how manageable life can become after such despair.

Answer 9

I don't know where you live, but in many places that have 24 hour phone counselling. also, you could ask the pastor of your church if he knows of any counselling services that could help you with all your problems.
one word of caution. therapy is a very difficult painful progress, and it's also a slow one. there is no "quick fix".
if you have a psychiatrist, or even a famiy doctor you might want to talk about going on anti-depressants. there's nothing shameful about getting all the help you need.
message me if you like. I'm not a Christian, although I share many of your beliefs. but I love to talk to people in trouble, who have no one else. it help me, too.

Answer 10

I have been where you are at. After 2 heart attacks and 3 heart surgery's with Lyme Disease in the middle I was ready to die. I will pray for you. Now that it is over for now I have grown closer to God, and I appreciate life allot more. Hang in there it really will get better. Amen.