and had been looking at pussy, ****, sex and dogging, couldn't believe this. I spoke to him about it and said I wouldn't mind if he had been looking I'd just rather know as I don't want any secrets between us, he said well its probably a hacker as someones already hacked into your ebay acc, which they have and we don't have a virus protector and lots of pop-ups on comp, but I looked on youtube last night and in the drop down bar I saw the words sex , ****, pussy, dogging so it i know it was him, its eating me up as I don't understand why he'd want to look at something like that, we are very active and I;m no minger but I don't know whether to mention it again now, he hasn't been on it since but it bugs me, should I just leave it?
2007-11-06 21:43:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Youtube doesn't have anything real real bad on there! The titles may sound bad but they don't allow certain things like PORN to be on there.
2007-11-06 21:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, YouTube is not a pornographic site. (They expressly do not allow porn, and they do a pretty thorough job of removing it when it's found). So it's too bad that your boyfriend is keeping secrets from you, but he's obviously not into anything very hardcore.
In any event, if you're in an active relationship with someone, you really should feel open discussing things like what he wants to look at online. If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him. If you have big differences in that regard, maybe you and he are not a good match.
(And no ... it wasn't an ebay hacker.)
2007-11-06 21:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by SWM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, exactly, do you think you are entitled to a veto on this? As long as it's not compulsive (hours a day), it's just a guy being a guy. If he's looking at gay porn, then you might be concerned, though.
It's definitely not a good sign that he went into 'lie' mode immediately. You and he obviously have control issues not very far under the surface, and unless you get that out in the open, and one or both of you shifts on that considerably, I don't see much of a future in this relationship.
2007-11-06 22:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by johnny_sunshine2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have to realize is that all men are pigs. If they have the chance to look at porn more often than not they will take it. It is by no way a reflection on you, it is just that men like to see images of people fornicating, don't ask why because I don't know, we just do. He probably won't do it again, or a least for a long time as he has been caught. You honestly have nothing to worry about.
2007-11-06 21:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy that "boys will be boys" mentality on this one. At the same time its important to remember that to him it doesn't mean that he isn't satisfied with you either. This is an issue that he really shouldn't be dodging with the hacker bs. I know hackers and believe me, no one hacks an account just so they can type in futile searches into youtube. They hack to spam ads on video comments. If this really bothers you then you need to talk to him about it and be honest with him. He should respect your wishes and stop it immediately, if he doesn't he isn't worth going out with.
2007-11-06 22:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by barry11188 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The internet is full of so much and sometimes X rated stuff is fitted in where it should not be but also each and everyone of us is curious about almost everything and if something unusuall popped up we will glance at it but seldom do anyof us make a habit of it as wehave our normal lives to live with nice people like yourself ~~
2007-11-06 21:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the man look at porn.. Either that or be better in the sack?
2007-11-06 21:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by Shinny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it go. Boys will be boys. Might spice up your life if he gets idea's.
2007-11-06 21:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Wolfsheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't be shocked, most guys (or at least alot of us) will do that even when they have girlfriends
2007-11-06 21:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a guy thing.
2007-11-06 21:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋