do you think it's OK that gay's adopt children?

Question

PLS NO HATE MAIL'S & NON-SENSE STUFF .. kindly explain the reason why you think a gay couple should or should not adopt a child or children.. what possible failure or sucesses do your forsee in such an arrangement ?? and should they be allowed to adopt the child of their own sex?


ps :- jerks who can't understand homosexuality and have stupid , disgraceful comments , can keep those comments with themselves.. we don't need them..!!!

1. " love is not discriminating" , yeah right , but the governmnet bodies hardly ever recognise that .. for ex in many countries single parents , especially men can adopt only
boys, but not girls and women can adopt both .. thats discrimination .. i know, but its there ..
2. those of comments like "I SHOULDN'T HAVE PROBLEMS ADOPTING " are really really .... duh........ KINDLY DO NOT PRESUME AND DON'T JUDGE!!
i hate the fact that so many people just simply assume i am a gay .. just because i asked the question ...

Answer 1

I have a homosexual brother....
And honestly, he's a great guy, so I have no doubts that it'd be fine if he adopted. It's just like any family. Strait or gay, it depends on the people doing the adopting. IE: If they are abusive, negligent, etc.

Answer 2

Well, personally I think it's fine. As long as the parents go through the right procedures as a woman and a man would.

As long as the adoption is open and the parents have done the research about the effects on adoption on a child, then I don't see a problem.

Having two mothers or two fathers is fine, but I guess there's the issue of growing up. A girl for instance growing up with two gay men may find it difficult talking to them about puberty and so on, so this should be addressed, by maybe encouraging a trusting relationship with another female relation or ensuring that she has strong friendships at school etc. would help this, and the same goes for boys with a gay female couple. Boys often long for that "bloke" time and so again, by encouraging him to spend time with male cousins and/or uncles and ensuring he has plenty of friends would help with this.

I think it is fine as long as the parents understand what adoption entails. The costs, money wise, and on the child who is being adopted.

The best adoption possible is open adoption, where the child can know who their birth parents are and they can exchange information. This prevents such a traumatising adoption, they may still question themselves and go through grief but the confusion of the unknown won't be an issue.

Answer 3

No.

According to the American Psychological Association which "has done a ton of research in the area of gay and lesbian adoption," it has been found that, "...there [is] little indication that it has a negative effect on children." But then again, the APA can't find evidence for issues arising in regular adoption either. Not very perceptive are they?

The problem is that gay adults feel entitled to run an experiment on children. The APA is happy to observe. The agencies are happy to provide children (they make money on it after all). Nevertheless, we really won't know how it all turns out until a "statistically significant" number of these kids turn 35 or so.

Gay adult may feel insulted by this position; "are gays second-class citizens," one might ask. But anger is misplaced. Adoption is not about an adult's rights. It is about what works for the child. Experimentation on living creatures is not desirable.

I will suggest one idea. Allow gay adults to adopt older children from foster care. Then the child can make an informed choice as to whether they want to be in that family.

Answer 4

Wow,....sad that when there are soooo many kids that need a home that this question remains. I've heard this before and I understand that there are narrow minded people out there. Mind you these are the same people that are begging to have Americans rights taken away! I know in the state that I live in there are close to 5,000 kids waiting! Should they continue to wait? The only foreseen problems would be can I have the car tonight or I don't want to do my homework tonight. I've adopted twice now. I'm not gay,.....but I know that a strong untied couple with caring hearts make the BEST parents.

Answer 5

Yes homosexuals should be allowed to adopt, your sexual preference is not want makes you a good parent or a bad parent. A child needs love, knowledge, and discipline and if someone is willing and able to provide these things and a stable healthly home life then they should be able too. A home and good parents/parent are needed for so many child who enter and have been in the foster care system for years. Yes, they should be allowed to adopt their own sex, what better way to understand a boy or girl then from having experience as one firsthand. I don't really see a downside to homosexuals adopting, the only thing I would say is they is can make for difficult sitututions with friends, peers, and in school so I think the parents will have to provide face these issues head on and provide the best nuturing and honest enviroment possible.

Answer 6

All children deserve a loving home and family. If gay couples can provide a loving, safe environment and family, there is no reason that they should not be allowed to adopt. I have plenty of gay friends who actually have better relationships than most couples.

Answer 7

It should be okay.
the most important issue here is providing a home for a child. I guess the government, prefers to have children grow alone and with no affection in an adoption center.

As long as the home is a healthy environment any one should be able to do adopt.

just like a single parent can raise one is fine.

Whats important in adoption is giving the child away to caring person; gender should not be an issue.

Answer 8

Since I'm not clear if it's OK for anyone to adopt, I think this is a trickier question than you realize. But assuming it is OK, I don't think a person should be discriminated against based on sexual orientation.

The "family is one mother and one father" garbage is one of the justifications that leads to more adoptions in the first place. (It also makes me wonder what we should do when the adoptive parents get divorced? Should they have to give up their adopted children?) Anyone who argues that a gay couple could not have a child naturally... Well, an infertile couple can't have a child naturally, either. So maybe they shouldn't be allowed to adopt, too?

A child can be raised by a single parent or a couple, regardless of their sexual orientation. What matters is the child.

Answer 9

Why not? What would be the problem with it. Gay or not we are still humans. And last time I checked it is ok for humans to raise a child. Not all families have a mother and not all families have a father and those kids come out just fine. So think of it this way wouldn't 2 mom's/dad's be better than a single one?? My best friend is gay...she onced tried to get pregnant by a friend whom is also gay because they both wanted a child. It didn't work but her friend fostered a child and so far after 3 years there doesn't seem to be any problems or insanity from the situation. Have you seen that show My Two Dads...I don't think they were gay but they raised that girl w/o problems. Does this make any sense... should've asked this earlier when I was still some what awake. lol I think it's ok. ♥

Answer 10

I think it's okay.

Society is far more accepting towards homosexuality these days ... that would have been my only opposing reason - if the child would have been discriminated against, by society.

Not allowing same gender adoptions is basically accusing them of pedophilia and would be completely unjust. Heterosexual couples are allowed either gender, so should homosexual couples.

The decision for allowing adoption should be based on the individuals in question and their situation ... not their sexuality.

Answer 11

First, let me say that I love most gay people I meet. I think homosexuality is normal and natural. And I don't like adoption except for the most dire situations.

So, if I were Queen of America, there would be very few adoptions, very few. That said, I believe adopted kids lose a lot-- they lose their entire families, their heritage, etc.

I think they should be matched with what they LOST. Which is a man and a woman. I really do believe that men and women offer unique, individual sex-specific things to a child. And that children lose out when not raised in this arrangement.

Foster kids are different, because I believe there is actually some choosing of parents by the children.