This has never crossed my mind until now but she is 2 and 2 months and I began to think that one day it will not be appropriate for her to take a bath with me or her father which we often do now.
How much longer do you think it will be ok to do this?
2007-11-06 19:36:37 · 31 answers · asked by cigaro19 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She is a very talkative and bright child she knows that daddy and brother have a willy and mummy and she doesnt
2007-11-06 19:51:04 · update #1
Having read some of the answers posted, I think it's absolutely tragic that something as innocent as a child jumping in the bath with a parent comes in to question.
Children these days seem to be forced to grow up too fast.
I think my youngest was about 6 when she last jumped in the bath with me (a while back she's nearly 13 now) but there was never a "cut off age", we as a family have always tried to allow our kids to be just that, kids.
Many a time when they were younger, they would come home from school and you would find a pile of clothes on the floor and a body streaking past. They are innocent!
I believe that there isn't a right or wrong time, both you (mum or dad) and your child will know when it's time to stop. we don't need the political brigade interfering.
It's a big bad world out there, let them enjoy life without concerns or forced inhibitions.
Do what you feel is right, don't let other people dictate what you should and shouldn't be doing.
Hope that helps
Danny
2007-11-08 13:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by Danny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some people are WAY too paranoid. Three is still a baby and to suggest that the child should no longer bathe with parents is ridiculous....as long as the child is happy it's ok. I think that beyond 5 or 6 then bathiong with Dad is probably too old..but not with Mum...whatever you feel hapopy with....I think kids start to show the need for privacy at a certain age and you'll know then.
2007-11-07 03:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Difficult one, eh?! My 11 month old always goes in the bath with me or my girlfriend. It's crossed my mind that at some point it won't be appropriate. Best thing to do is think back to your own childhood and a point at which you would have felt uncomfortable having a bath with your parents. I would say that beyond 5 or 6, as they develop a sense of self, it's possibly no longer appropriate. In the meantime chill out and let her enjoy bathtime with daddy and mummy!
2007-11-07 03:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any problem with this for at least another 2-3 years. I don't bathe with my son but thats my choice because I like hot and deep and when he's in bed so I can relax. He either bathes by himself with my at the side or with his dad, my son is 2yrs 6months. I used to share a bath with my younger brother and sister when we we're growing up. People make too much of innocent things these days.
2007-11-08 12:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little girl is 5 and will still bathe with me not with her dad however she did bathe with her dad till she was 3 or 4, I think it depends on your family as too what you feel is the right age to stop bathing together, I personally dont mind having my daughter in the bath with me and dont feel I will be bothered for at least another yr
2007-11-07 08:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by mumoffour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always heard four years old. If it's uncomfortable before then, such as your child staring at privates, then discontinue it then. My son is 3, and I cannot imagine taking a bath with him. I had to stop taking showers with him sitting on the floor at about your daughters age because he would talk non stop about my privates and I knew it had to stop. My oldest never paid me any mind at that age. So I'm pretty sure you'll know when it's time to stop. Best of luck!
2007-11-07 11:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by Amy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 year old still takes a bath with me at times. We are both girls so I don't see an issue with it. She does not ask questions about my body yet.
My older 2 stopped by 4 years old.
None of us shower with the man of the house. Although sometimes I think about it.
I think its a personal choice. Theres no harm now if shes comfortable with you. I might stop with daddy soon though, as he is built different.
2007-11-07 03:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We don't bathe together but we do shower together and my daughter is 5 and son is nearly 3. To save time sometimes I just chuck them in the shower with me. My husband hasn't felt it appropriate for him to shower with our daughter since she was a baby but I don't really care to be honest. I'd say within the next year or two I won't do it with my daughter anymore.
Anyway even when i'm in the shower by myself they still come in 50 times to ask for something so they see me naked anyway. My good friends 9 and 6 year old boys still bug her when she is in the shower and they don't feel embarrased seeing her...yet!!! They will even grab her tampons if she yells out for one!!
I think it is a decision that you should make, but bathing together past age 3-4 is probably not so great, but if its just a quick shower then thats okay till probably 5-6 yrs.
I think anyone who says you shouldn't bathe with your own children is totally wrong. If they were like 13 I think it would be strange but a toddler? thats ok.
2007-11-07 03:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what feels right for you all. if you stop your daughter bathing with you when neither of you have a problem with it she may feel she has done something wrong. do you feel pressured by outside influences. she is still a baby and enjoys playing in the bath with her parents. she sees this as playtime and i bet for her dad this is their time to play and talk. my husband gets in the bath with our 3 year old son and our 18month son. if they are all in the bath together my 7 year old daughter trys to get in too although my hubbie does get out them cos theres no room. if you bring your children up with no embarrassment over their or your bodies you will find that they will open up to you more freely in the future. once your child or the adult feels uncomfortable with bathing together stop then. but not now. enjoy your baths with her , i bet she loves splashing around with you.
2007-11-07 05:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by cez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not do it at all these days, even the most innocent thing such as this could be misconstrued, some people see harm or wrong doing in everything and would report it if they knew, I used to bath with my children more than 25 years ago, there were no ridiculous people spouting that it was wrong then, no PC brigade to dictate to you how you should manage things in your life, these days you never know what situations you could find yourself in and have your children taken into care.
2007-11-07 04:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by GOD 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋