I have a good friend who seems to attract a lot of stupid jerks who think it's funny to kick eachother and drop someone's belongings off a bridge... (I know random). I also hate the verbal abuse that is always the basis of conversation, always making a mean joke of someone. I hate them all (guys and girls) except for one (girl) even though she's pretty violent herself. I tend to start following their mannerisms and joke about violence and stuff like it's funny. It's getting weird for me but now I'm really good friends with this girl. How can I tactfully avoid the morons being morons without ditching the group directly? Is it even possible to use 'etiquette' in such a situation?
2007-11-06 18:31:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Get away from this group immediately, before you get caught up in some thing that will come back to haunt you in years to come, and make you look like you were an active part of this group, or even worse ~ a leader.
I know it sounds cold, but the best thing to do is drop them entirely, find a new place to hang out and see if your friend and the girl come looking for you.
Short and sweet ~ if they come for you, you've got two good friends and a new group. If they don't, they are more suited for the other group and you can watch their lives go down the toilet from a distance.
Groups that spout violent talk and behave in the way you are describing are almost always headed for trouble, and that's NEVER a good place to be.
Get out now, before you become what you despise.
Good luck and best wishes ! :-)
2007-11-06 18:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this girl likes you for who YOU ARE, not who you become when you ar with her & her friends, she will visit with you one on one. Ask HER OUT not the group!
Stay away from them if what they do bothers you so much. Plus if you are starting to go along with them, it can turn into a situation where you are in real legal trouble for the actions you commit with them.
The type of people you are describing rarely head down the 'right path' and end up answering for the things they did/do in the court of law!
The language is bad also I bet! Think about what YOU THINK of the way they sound, do you want to sound like them? You may already. Think about it.
Plus what ever you are attracted to in this girl, you will be able to find in someone else if she isn't willing to change friends. She must act differently for you to be attracted to her? Or is it just looks? If it is looks, there are plenty of pretty NICE girls out there with a future!
I will all boil down to what is more important to you, your morals, or some girl??
2007-11-07 03:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Tonia M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are influencing you so much find another group of friends to hang out with some of the time. obviously you know what they are doing as wrong. what if they get into some serious trouble and you happen to be with them? that wouldn't be good. who cares about ditching the group? if you still like the one girl you can always invite her to go somewhere one on one with you and maybe you'll find out she feels the same way you do about the "friends"...
2007-11-07 02:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Kitty Katt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get away from this situation. You have already noticed that you are adopting the qualities that you think are inappropriate. I think you should invite your friend to do activities with you aside from the group. That is, instead of going along with the group so you can see your friend, plan an activity that you and your friend can do together.
2007-11-07 02:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter who you are, what your personality is or what your intent is, if you hang out with this group sooner or later something illegal is going to happen and you are going to be guilty by association, which could lead up to and includiing conspiracy or accesory before or after the fact for whatever they do......just being yourself and being a good person and not being directly involved won't get you out of it if you are with the group when something happens......ditch them all and then pat yourself on the back for a good decision when you hear they all are in jail for something or hang with them and do the time with them when it happens......it will
2007-11-07 03:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by #1 bossman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to carefully pick who you associate with .
Just be straight forward with her and explain to her how you feel and see how she responds . If that fails it's your decision whether to continue relating to her or not.
2007-11-07 02:38:07 · answer #6 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mostli if you want to join them you just got to be one of them . and if don't feel comtable around them , that probable mean that it not where you belong.then you just need to keep looking for the right group
2007-11-07 03:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by lil kiwi . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋