Well here's the deal, my sister is now an adult and my parents own a small townhouse near where we live and they rent it out. So what my parents are doing is they're going to let my sister move into the townhouse with one of her friends and her friend will pay half the rent while my parents pay my sister's half. They're also going to furnish the apartment for her, but she has to get a job for food and regular expenses. They'll do this for all of us (3 kids) and I'll be moving out soon. I got kind of annoyed when I heard my sister was moving out completely covered, and she was taking heaps of our stuff with her like my computer desk (i'm getting her old one). Am i being selfish, or are my parents going over the top? Help, opinions? Selfish sibling a.k.a me?
2007-11-06 18:05:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You're both very lucky that your parents will help support you like that. AND, you're both very lucky that they'll still make you pay for some things and not be completely spoiled brats!
You shouldn't make a big deal about it. Did you pay for the desk? I'm guessing no... so it's not actually "yours," I'm sure. It's fine to get a little irritated, but nothing you mention warrants getting pissy about.
All that aside, are you getting pissy because she's moving and she won't be there with you anymore? I hear that even fighting sibs get kinda sad when one moves, and that tends to be expressed as simply pitching a fit.
2007-11-06 18:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by napalm_bunny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard being the one left behind, and also your parents are making some decisions about things that you have always seen as *yours* (like the computer desk), which can be hard to handle.
Now's a good time to have a talk with your Mum and Dad, and let them know you are feeling a bit down, and a little conflicted about your sister's move, and about their support for her.
Your folks sound like good people, so you can talk to them without risking that they'll treat you badly.
When I left home my parents were not able to help me financially at all, and that is a frequent experience for older people.
But that did not stop them WANTING to! So yeah, from one point of view your parents are going a bit over the top, but from another, they are setting your sis, and later you, up with a good start for life.
If you'd like to do it differently, you might like to think about getting a part time job and paying some of the rent yourself when your time comes.
But don't get in the way of what your parents are doing for your sis, or what she is taking from them ~ everyone has to learn their own lessons around that stuff!
Best wishes :-)
2007-11-07 02:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. what is your sister going to learn about sustaining herself????????
I think your parents are doing WAY too much for her, and probably will for you too.
When you move out, it is better for a young adult to struggle a little to learn how to make it on their own and then KNOW they have their parents to fall back on .. if they need it... but for your parents to just go out and cover your sister, and you in the future..
well ... it's not good. What will you or her learn from it??
As for being selfish..... be grateful for having a computer desk.. even if it's old.. so many people make do with tables or other.. but not everyone has some of the things you take for granted and our complaining about.. like her taking your computer desk and you getting her old one.
If it really bothers you then you have the comfort of knowing you're parents, (since they seem to spoil you guys).... will obviously comp you somehow..
but in all seriousness.. if you really want to grow up.. when your time comes to move out.. if you're parents get you a placelike your sister.. then don't let them pay your rent.. get a job.. work and pay your own rent, and insurance.. and go to school. If you need help at some point, then go to them and ask for help.. but to not even try to stand up on your own two feet.. how sad is that?? how helpless will you be when they someday pass on??
2007-11-07 02:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by Chris 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why bother having your sister move out if they are going to pay her way anyway? While it's nice that she can live in the townhouse with her friend they should be responsible for the rent, utilities and maintaining the property. So, keep this under your hat for when you move out and hopefully you get the same "deal". In the meantime save your money and hope that your parents give you as much as her !
2007-11-07 14:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably pay them back if they give her heaps, but I can understand how you feel she should make her own way rather than taking stuff from her parents e.g money, desk when she's meant to be an independent adult, not a dependent adult. Don't worry, when she's gone you get less worries because everything is shared for 4 not five.
2007-11-07 02:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they plan to do it for all three of you, I really don't see why you're griping.
2007-11-07 02:13:33 · answer #6 · answered by WhenInDoubt 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋