Do restraining orders EVEN work?

Question

Im not going to go into detail.

I threatned to get a restraining order against a person. They threatenly replied with...

"a piece of paper isnt going to stop me"

He has become dependant on me, he has no friends, i know it was a mistake of me letting him back in my life after all the times he hurt me.
I learned the hard way.
I need something that will 100% garuanntee him out of my life.

Answer 1

They can work. Definately will not work if you don't file and get one.

When you have the order you need to call the cops as soon as he gets too close.

He has already made a threat, as you quote. Go to court, get the papers. Having a marshall serve papers on the guy will make an impression on him. He might get the message. You need to make the message and serve him the papers.

Then if it doesn't work, and you defend yourself, you will be on good legal ground. If he comes after you without YOU reporting this first you will not have has much legal weight behind you.

You need some "brothers" to talk with this guy. You need to NEVER! speak to him again. Ignore him. Stay away from him. If he comes to talk with you just call someone to witness, and dial 911. YOU need to be FIRM nad Safe.

Answer 2

A restraining order is exactly what he said it was, A PIECE OF PAPER! It is an order by a court, but in reality will only keep the honest people honest. It will still be up to you to call the Police when the order is violated and press further charges, Even then it is possible the person will be out on the streets within a few days ready to violate the order again. Even so I suggest you get the restraining order and help enforce it.

Answer 3

Restraining orders are a tool for law enforcement. They are just a piece of paper. If the guy is dead set on hurting you, he will. But, this is why you NEED to get a restraining order. If the dude shows up at your door and you call the police and the police actually contact him, all they can do is tell him to leave. If you have that restraining order, they can arrest him. If he leaves before the cops arrive, the police have to take a report and a warrant can be issued for his arrest. Restraining orders are also evidence that you tried to take care of the problem. If he breaks down your door, you have the right to defend yourself. If the guy has a valid restraining order against him and he breaks down your door and you fear for your life, by all means, defend yourself. Defend yourself anyway you can. Without the restraining order, it might come down to his word against yours if the cops arrive during your fight. Get the restraining order. And once you have the restraining order, never contact him. Restraining orders often restrain someone from contacting you directly or indirectly. So, no more phone calls, no notes on your car, etc... Call the police when he violates the restraining order in any way.

If he continues to cause problems once the order is in place, he might be looking at a felony stalking charge.

Answer 4

Going legal on a guy that is a problem will be the only way. Let me tell you that the law is very harsh on men that intimidate and threaten women. There whole out look on this issue should scare the hell out of him. Only thing is that you will need witnesses to confirm your story. Another way is to go to the police and try get a cop who is sympethetic to your story. Ten too one he will go chat to the young boy and let him understand your worries. But going legal in court with a restraining order would be the best. Keep book of all ofences he has commited against you and convince the judge that you are scared for your life. Good luck my friend this is a serious problem that you have.

Answer 5

Well that paper does not really do nothing, It does set a high standard of protection and seems to give you a lot of protection. But it only works on people who are more calm, and sorry for what they did and want you to live your life knowing that you will be alright, But like that guy you talking about your best and most protection is to move do a different location then you will be fully safe as long as you don't share your information with him no more, Also make sure that any friends that you have that's friends of him you let them out of your life too. Hope this was help full

Answer 6

I they are violent no a restraining order isn't going to protect you but it might deter him. If he is just harrasing you like ringing or messaging and he does this while you have a restraining order then he is in breach and the police can act on it. But if he attacks you its to late for the police to help but they can get him easier after. Get one just so you feel you will have justice if something does happen. Best of luck its scary i know how you feel. It seems like it will never go away but somehow some day it will. It did for me but it takes time!!

Answer 7

You can make it work by reporting to the authorities when the restraining order is violated.

The police can then nab that person, for violating the restraining order which is an order from the court.

Answer 8

get the restraining order, call the police, hey were only human but how many time's are you going to keep letting this happen. you know the old i'm so sorry it wont happen again. youmight have to do what i did move out of the state. hope that doesn't have to happen, find out if this guy has done this before. talk to a cop, then talk to the da; it took me 3 1/2 yr's to get the eviedence i needed for a convition. still had to move out of the state. i still live in fear if they find me; but not as much cause right now they know what state i live in but can't find me cause to many people. i carry 2 knives in my car and used to be a butcher a good trade, but very costly trade to explain to police if i were to hurt someone. which i wont cause i just can't take a life nor inflict bodly injury to another person. one of my cop friends told me that i had to give up everything i knew familiar to gain the freedom of peace. i did it cost me dearly. you can fight back try going to a shelter where there are battered women talk to a counselor. they may be able to help. try to find a rommate preferably a male roommate most men are not likely to attack a woman if they have a male for a roommate. i know i had a gay roommate men wouldn't even talk to me when they found out. that was good for alongtime.

Answer 9

I always wondered how they could work. It is illegal to hurt or kill another human being, so how respectful will the person be of a restriction of a lesser degree if they are willing to do the others?
They should be forced into counseling to examine why they are so controlling and unable to let go.

Answer 10

You should get the order, then if he does come around you can call the police and you'll have more power with it then without it, plus it lays the groundwork, in case the threats get worse, You should get the order and you should call the police every time he does something so that it's documented.