Question about Mormon foster parents?

Question

My son is in a foster home due to His failure to thrive Due to a cleft palate & lip. He has a Feeding tube In his stomach also. I want to know If Mormon foster parents also do their fasting & make the foster kids do it aslo. my son is only 2 years Old & has been with the foster family for the whole 2 years & still only weighs 22 pounds. Im not sure If they are making him go through the same thing ( fasting) they do everymonth but If so.. is that safe On a baby that Is supposed to be getting nutrients everyday? & Is it legal to do that to foster children.. I dont think anyone Knows.. & these foster Parents do keep a lot of secrets that we find out about. My son is special needs & I need to know How to help Him. I need to know what to tell my lawyer this week. Do they make everyone In the House do this> Including babies that are foster kids? again my son is only 22 pounds?? whats Up?

also.. My son has been hit By the foster family & was caught at doing it.. But the fostermom got away with all this.. how can i protect My son? Im in a court battle with this fostermom Over my son. For custody. i Just want to protect My baby Boy.

we Lost Our son due to his failure to thrive from his cleft palate & lip. It was assumed that we did not know how to care for a special needs baby, even tho my husband & I were Never charged with abuse or neglect.. it was stated that he was taken because he just would not gain weight fast enough for the doctors

Answer 1

My daughter was failure to thrive for the first 3 years of her life. They tried to place blame on me for because I was a young unmarried mother.
They stuck DCYF on our family and everything.
I wound up changing her doctors and taking her to a genetic specialist. This doctor actually found that she was small for genetic reasons nothing that I or her father caused. They also found that the doctor had missed a serious diagnosis of kidney and bladder issues which had caused all of her organs to become enlarged.
You need to talk to your lawyer about the issue when it comes to fasting and if your son has to participate in this part of the family's religion.
Also it needs to be pointed out in a court that if your son was failure to thrive due to your care he would be cured of his problem. He is obviously not cured.
I would find out how much rights you have for his medical care through the state. Start requesting that his cleft plate be repaired. Ask for the genetic testing. Its amazing what they find in it.
If you have medical evidence it shouldn't be that hard to prove your fit.

Answer 2

I'm a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon is a nickname for us). In general, members of the church are encouraged to fast once a month where possible and donate the money that they didn't use for food to help the needy. Of course, different families can have different fasting practices, but fasting is not required for all members of the Church. The Church allows every person to make a personal and family decision about whether to fast. Children, people who are sick or pregnant, or people who otherwise need to eat every day don't usually fast regularly, I think. If the parents are requiring the child to fast it would be their own family policy. I would not expect people to withhold nutrition from a child who is malnourished and needs food on a regular basis. Most latter-day saint families as far as I know do not require very small children to fast.

I am concerned about your belief that the child has been hit, however. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints certainly does not teach its members to hit children. In fact, the leaders of the Church regularly preach against abuse and it is considered to be a very serious sin. So if these folks have hit your child please do not consider that to be a reflection on all members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

I appreciate that you are concerned for your child and I think you should definitely mention your concerns to your lawyer. Please remember, though, that foster parents are screened and the agency has placed your child with this family in the hopes that your child will thrive. I certainly wish the best for you and your family and hope that everyone involved will do well.

Answer 3

No, Mormon's do not force 2 year old foster children with a feeding tube to fast. The fact that you are asking this question shows you are grasping at straws. If this family really were abusive, you'd have enough to go to court and get the child out of their home, but since you lost custody, and they got it, I think you should worry more about yourself, and what YOU need to do in order to get custody back, instead of trying to figure out how to smear the only parents your child has known.

Answer 4

No they will not have a child 0-8 fast generally -- my children fast only after they turn 12 and only for 2 meals a month.

Answer 5

First, children are not forced to fast.

Second, no one who has health problems like this child has is forced to fast, even adults.

If this family forced such things on their foster children, even those with health problems, they wouldn't be foster parents.

In our church, fasting is purely optional. No parent worth their salt would force a young child to fast. They have to make that choice on their own. A 2 year old, even uncommonly healthy ones, can't make the intelligent, informed decision to fast.

Please, rest easy!

Answer 6

When you're LDS, people who are frail or unhealthy, pregnant or nursing are exempt from fasting. I can't imagine a family making a little boy with Failure to Thrive fast.

Answer 7

you seriously need to take everything to your lawyer about this and the weight of your son. I do hear of mormon children fasting but not often.
I dont mean to pry but why dont you have custody?
You should address your concern and take legal action!