do you think im a loser?

Question

im 20, i am majoring in philosophy and ab english, i only have 2 friends one abroad and one here, i dont go out and drink beer, i dont smoke, i read books most of the time i have read 65 books in a year, i seem to have a lot of people to talk to in school and they ask for advice from me but during lunch time i always just eat alone, many guys text me and tell me how intelligent and briliant i am, but all of my friends have boyfriend s while i do not have one for i seem to attract always guys who are not my type or who cannot converse with me, cause they cannot talk to me about a lot of things and i do get bored easily, at school i make people laugh, but i have no one to talk to at the end of the day to tell all my problems, i have been suicidal at times, what is the use of this beauty, intelligence all of this when i dont have real friends, to be with me when i go out to go to the mall, i dont know what am i doing wrong that i became this loner.am i meant to be alone

Answer 1

nah, nerdy girls are sexy ;) join a group on campus, like a club or smth, where you'll meet other sexy nerdy girls.

Answer 2

It does sound like you have a problem. Part of the problem may be that you aren't giving some of the guys that are interested in you the benefit of the doubt. It sort of sounds like you have set some pretty high standards. ( If you do know of guys that ARE your type, you can always make the first move , too. ) Maybe one person cannot fulfill every one of your expectations. Perhaps you can accept people based on some other good qualities they have like kindness, loyalty, sense of humor. If you want a boyfriend, that is and want to stop being alone at the end of the day.

Answer 3

no, you're not meant to be alone.
You sound like an amazing person. The problem is that most guys are all dull and looking for the same thing. It is pretty rare to find a guy that completely matches what you have to offer, but those guys are out there and they're also looking for someone like you. You just have to be a little more patient, and definitely don't kick the bucket. You will find the right guy someday and as lonely and/or depressed as you feel now, he will totally turn your life around and make you happy.

Answer 4

You know the people you casually talk to in school .. invite them out! You guys can become great friends. So what if you're bored at first, the better you get to know them maybe you'll find some similarities. Call them up, text them, random classmates can become best friends! I complimented this cute boy and now we're pretty good friends. I felt extremely alone at highschool but at the end of the day I can hit them up on myspace or the phone and so can you. You're definetly not a loser.

Answer 5

Have you ever considered enrolling in a "Finishing School?" (charm school) or maybe taking a short modeling school coarse? You are very wise to not go out to clubs and drink alcohol or smoke. That tells me that you really are a wise person. I think you are just a late bloomer. And you will soon come into your own..... But you do need to get your social life "jump-started." Or you could wait until you have completed your education. I do recommend a book for you to read. It cost about $8.00 or less; in paperback. "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider; follow it to the letter and I promise you, you will get positive results. Btw. never, ever, picture yourself as a loser again. You have a lot going for yourself; you know that too, don't cha.

Answer 6

First you need to get ur head out of the books and make friends. The only reason why you may not have true friends is because you need to spend more time with them. Try the friends from school, spend time with them OutsidE from class. And with the boys....you need to be confident and the ones that are your type will come around. When you least expect it. I hope this helps a little. Try and do a make over to boost your confidence, such as new clothes, haircut, nails, etc

Answer 7

Aning:

You sound pretty interesting to me!
Don't be so hard on yourself.

Many of us have considered taking
that "BLACK PILL"! It's a part of the
human experience.

Things will get better, doll!
You are only 20! Quality people will
recognize the quality you possess!

Try Networking with the many students
you know. You will find a special person!

Consider joining up with a large Church
Congregation. Many have Student/
Singles Groups that are quite remarkable.
They stage many interesting Social
Events you may like!

Hang on girl!
Countless people in the future
are counting on you!

Answer 8

Aww your not NO loser, your a very smart young lady that has alot to offer out there in the real world when you venture out into it, you'll be the one with a very good job and be around lots of interesting ppl just like you that has the same things incommon. Try to join events that you like so the same people will be there that you can get along with and have interesting conversations with. Since your really smart maybe you intiminate people and they fell uncomfortable to be around you cause their not on your level and dont know what to say. All you need to do is just socialize a lilttle more with ppl you like to be around with !!!

Answer 9

I don't think you're a loser, nor that you're meant to be alone.
But you have to exert particular effort to create a friendship. Start by inviting a classmate to eat with lunch you. Take the initiative and ask a guy out! See one you'd like to know better? Ask him over for a meal, or to do some sightseeing together. No one has to fall in love or get married, just get together and have a nice time.

Answer 10

u re alone because u re thinking u re better than everyone else. people really don't like arrogant people. and somehow u strike as u re very arrogant. and did u write it correct - u read ONLY 65 books DURING A YEAR? my 12 year old reads more in a year. and lots of people do not go out and drink beer. it is not good for a girls to drink beer. it doesn't mean they sit at home lonely. so u not smoking and drinking beer has nothing to do with u being alone. your arrogance does. and u can not conversate with them cos u re boring and u don't know how to lead a small talk, not cos they ALL are stupid. how come they all are sooo stupid around u and yet the go to the same school?

Answer 11

It depends on what you want from life AND how serious & willing are you towards achieving what you want from life.
If you know somebody who is of your type, be proactive, go and talk with him, make friends with him. You will have to take the first step if you (really) want something. Don't feel odd if you haven't done this before, just try it...get involved in stuff which you haven't ever done...It might help.
Good Luck!!!