Girls: How do you feel about synthetic diamonds instead of real diamonds?

Question

If your engagement or wedding ring were synthetic diamond instead of real diamond, would you be offended? Would you not care? Would you be happy?

On a different note, would you rather have your ring be a complete surprise (and risk not liking it), or would you want to pick it out yourself?

Answer 1

well, I would prefer a real diamond but there is nothing wrong with having a synthetic one. I might be offended if the man had alot of money and bought a fake diamond, but if thats all he can afford it doesn't matter. It's the thought that he loves you and wants to marry you that counts. and yes i would be happy!!!! I mean, you could always buy a real diamond when you guys get more money if you wanted too. And before me and my fiancee got engaged, we went to the jewlery store and i just mentioned ones that i liked and that we could afford. he got it for me and suprised me like a week later. it's a small ring, almost a promise ring but i dont care. it's all we could afford and i love it. i can always upsize later on:) and as for "filthy rich" get over yourself, you would be lucky to get any ring with that attitude! good luck, and best wishes to you:)

Answer 2

There seems to be a misconception here: Cubic Zirconias are not fake. Moissanites are not fake. These stones are gemstones in their own right, so please do not call them fake diamonds.

Lab-cultured diamonds, on the other hand, are diamonds. They are synthetic, they are cultured (or whatever you want to call it), but they are diamonds. They are not fake too.

I can't bring myself to getting a mined diamond. The amount of destruction that comes with it is just too much. Also, I can't stand how De Beers tries to manipulate people (especially gullible women). No way am I going to fall for that.

However, I think it's disingenuous if a man buys a diamond simulant (CZ; moissanite) and tries to pass it off as a diamond.

I am wearing a simulant (CZ) as part of an experiment; I wanted to know how long the stone can last. It's been a few months and it's still beautiful; no cloudiness or chips. A good, expensive CZ can look much, much better than a cheap, cloudy diamond. Almost all of them have a perfect cut and you have a wide array of sizes and colours to choose from.

BTW it's a myth that diamonds last forever. They do chip and shatter if you abuse them.

Answer 3

I'd be more upset and offended if I had a real diamond. If it was a Polar diamond, it would be ok since it's not a conflict diamond that people are being killed over just to make trillions of dollars for DeBeers.

The thing that would offend me mainly is I would think the guy didn't know anything at all about me or my likes and dislikes if I were to receive a diamond. My father is a retired gemologist so I have been to my fair share of jewelry shows and seen diamonds up close and I'm not impressed by any of them. If I have to have a clear stone, I'd rather have a CZ anyday because I personally find them to be sparklier and I can't imagine why anyone would pay what they do for a diamond. Personally, I'd rather have something like an opal, garnet, sapphire or something along those lines. To each their own.

My mother was given a real diamond by my stepfather and it is so tiny it literally looks like a chip. But she loves it so that's all that matters. If I'm going to have any stone on the ring, I want to be able to see it. It doesn't have to be 5 carats or even 2 but I don't want to have to pull out a microscope every time.

As far as picking it out vs being surprised, I'd be fine with either.

Answer 4

Well, I personally wouldn't be offended if the diamonds weren't real; real diamonds are nice, of course, but in the end, whether or not the diamonds are real aren't going to me me happy--or unhappy--in a relationship. What about just getting a gold band--or something with an engraving in it--as an option instead of synthetic diamonds? Personally, I'd love to have a ring as a complete surprise.

Answer 5

I can't stand the diamond industry, so I knew I didn't want a diamond. They are responsible, by the way, for the propoganda that anything other than a diamond isn't "real". It's stupid. I have a Moissanite wedding set and love it. It's almost as hard as a diamond and much more refractive (sparkly). You can get them at Penney's, Target or Kohl's. I love telling people that Moissanite was discovered in a meteor crater in Northern Arizona (where I live) and since it's lab created, that no one in Africa had to lose any limbs over it. I picked my ring out in advance...if you've already talked about marriage, than just the proposal itself will be a treat.

Answer 6

Personally, I would prefer if my fiancé gave me a synthetic diamond, because I would not want to take the risk of a real diamond turning out to be a conflict or blood diamond. There are laws to prevent this from occurring, however they are poorly enforced and even if a real diamond is not a conflict diamond, chances are it came from a company that buys up conflict diamonds and then holds them to inflate the prices of diamonds world wide. Unless a diamond is synthetic, from a few Canadian mines, or mined in the US, chance the diamond has at least a link to blood diamonds.

I would not want a stone that was real but cost a child in Africa her hands, life or freedom. Besides synthetic stones are molecule for molecule identical to "real" stones, the only difference is they were not pulled out of the ground.

Answer 7

I don't care what the girl says, you are crazy to buy fake diamonds. First of all any girl that says they don't care isn't telling you the whole truth and they will call you on this later during an argument.
Secondly, a fake diamond is worth little to nothing later while a real diamond, even a small one will appreciate in value.

Finally, i don't think it should be a complete surprise. You may not want to tell her when it is coming but you should ask her for her opinion on what she likes. She has to wear it and I'm sure she would want something she finds nice. When you are in the mall just stop by a jewelry store and ask her the designs she likes and doesn't like. Once you have that you can then plan out when you want to give it to her.

Answer 8

I'd prefer a real non-diamond stone (ruby, sapphire, topaz, etc) to a fake diamond.
I'm not crazy about diamonds to start with so I'm getting an aquamarine engagement ring.
I like how my fiance & I have gone about it - sort of a combination. He went to the jeweler and looked, then sent me in separately to look and give feedback to the jeweler. In the end, he picked and the jeweler guided him based upon my likes/dislikes. I've actually not seen the ring yet, he says it is a surprise. But I know he's ordered it and that it will be with my preferred stone.

Answer 9

I like the idea of picking the ring out with my fiancee (if I had one) along with his ring too, together. I think the engagement ring would be best as a surprise.
I would be better off with a synthetic diamond. I dont think spending the chunk of cash (or credit) is at all reasonable, and honestly would probably ask him to take it back if he got a real one.

Answer 10

Diamonds aren't rare.
They actually are all owned by DeBeres(sp?) and are kept in vaults in Russia. DeBeres pays the Russian government to keep them under lock and key and only releases a certain amount every year, thus making them seem rare. Also, there is no 100% gaurauntee that it's not a "blood diamond". If any of you on here watch that movie, you'll change your mind about diamonds. You can google all of this info, learned it all in college personally!
What I would suggest is to get a gemstone like an emerald or a white quartz. There are beautiful gemstones that would make a much more unique engagement ring. Diamonds may be classy, but they're also a dime a dozen. JFK proposed to Jackie with a beautiful emerald.

So, I guess my answer would be- No diamonds at all.
Also, remember- a wedding is one day, a marriage is a lifetime. Don't spend so much on a ring that it puts you into major debt- spend the money on having a beautiful life together. If you can find a way to drop hints on rings maybe take her by the jewelry store to look at a mens watch you saw- actually have a sales person help you try on a watch and observe what your girls looking at. Then ask her if she sees anything she likes. You'll probably get a good feel for what she likes. You could also say something like "wow I didn't know that they had so many shapes of stones- I thought they were just square or round- which do you like?" Don't be too obvious though :)

Goodluck!!!!