I married 3 months ago and was fooled by a con man. Not only was he a con-he was an alcoholic that started abusing me within a week of our marriage. He quit working, wanted me to support him. Our whole marriage was a lie---I found out I'm wife # 7 and when I told him I knew he left me, disconnected his phones and relocated to another state. Apparently he has done this over and over for years. I contacted him via email and he has filed for a divorce but I worry aboutthe Biblical aspect of the situation. Am I forgiven?
2007-11-06 16:28:39 · 16 answers · asked by confused1111 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What kind of monsterous god would hold you accountable to a sham marriage like that?
You are either forgiven, or need to find a new god.
2007-11-06 16:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
To be forgiven, I think you must identify the sin. Your sin is not "being a divorced woman". Your sin is "marrying who YOU thought was right for you instead of asking God who HE thinks is right for you". Alot of people commit that sin and think it's all OK because they don't get divorced.
God is not a monster - He hates divorce, but His idea is not that all people need to stay in bad marriages - instead, He wants people to turn to His guidance in getting married.
Prior to getting married again, ask God for guidance in making you into the woman He intended you to be - only then can He give you the man He intended for you to have.
2007-11-07 01:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by teran_realtor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are forgiven. I am wondering if you were ever really married. Even in the bible when a man married more than one wife, he meant it. And admitted it. By secular law you should have solid grounds for an annulment. If you are Catholic they too consider it not to have been a valid marriage in the first place. I do not know God's opinion on it. Ask Him.
2007-11-07 00:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by havurataks 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that God is a loving God and wouldn't want any of his children to suffer thru a situation like that. You went into the marriage with a pure heart... he didn't. Therefore I don't think that it is YOU who sinned with the marriage.
You should also check into an annualment rather than a divorce.. might make you feel better.
Best of luck to you!
2007-11-07 00:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by My Thoughts U Can't Decode 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as far as i know you have done nothing wrong but NOT use common sense and if you knew better you would not have done that, so to answer your ? which i think is are you forgiven for being divorced yes, you did not initiate it nor did you fornicate / commit adultery , he on the other hand probably is ,that being the case you are free to remarry if you are sure in your heart or have proof that he has committed adultery.
2007-11-07 00:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by hi people 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well next time I'd advise paying $100 bucks and doing a backround check -- that goes for business partners, babysitters, and future husbands.
2007-11-07 00:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find out if he was divorced from the others. If not, you may get some satisfaction by having him thrown in Jail.
2007-11-07 00:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are forgiven.But not for the marriage ,but for the not knowing? You did not know God and ask for direction in this. You forgot your road map.The Bible. Luke 18.
2007-11-07 00:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by God is love. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better learn from this and move on...Be more careful who you choose as your husband,,,you should be looking in the bible about love..1 corinthians 13..It talks about love,,if another man don't carry this type of love then run fast...
2007-11-07 00:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by I give you the Glory Father ! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to forget about ancient book that was written by con men like your ex husband.
2007-11-07 00:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋