My sister had 2 kids by a worthless drug adict abuser and married a great guy who adopted her kids and loved them like his own. He is still involved and takes them nearly every weekend. She screwed around on him for nearly a year and finally got divorced. She said she just "lost the spark" and has been completely wreckless with her kids. She is fake and says that she is "every man's fantasy because she is a "camellion" and can change to please anyone, meanwhile her kids pay the price. She is nearly 30 and needs to grow up. The adopted father would take the kids, but she is vicious and he is afraid to get into the court system, given the circumstances. She is now in trouble with the law & pregnant by the guy that she was cheating with (who is now unemployed). DHS really isn't an option, she's an eternal victim, and knows what to say. She can really tell a great story and those who don't know her are taken aback by her BS, I just know better. I want to stay close to watch the kids.
2007-11-06 15:38:01 · 6 answers · asked by michims 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At what point does your sister have to take responsibility for her actions........... her now ex, adopted the children, why can't he have them?........ it sounds like he is the best deal going...... if she is messed up, don't enable her to continue the behavior......
It's time for you to employ a little tough love......... especially if you say she is in trouble with the law and pregnant......... let her worry about what is going to happen to her, and let the ex take care of the kids.........
2007-11-06 15:48:15 · answer #1 · answered by bizzymom38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think it was a deeper issue involved with your sister than what is just on the surface. sounds like she needs help not only for herself but for her kids. she is like a train wreck waiting to happen this seems like a pattern with her (if i'm not mistaken) i would strongly suggest her getting some help and maybe you take the kids in so she can better herself.
2007-11-06 23:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE KIDS BEST INTERESTS ARE AT POINT HERE.
WITH SIS (MOM) THEY ARE GOING DOWN THE TOILET IN LIFE.
YOU KNOW ABOUT IT AND ARE CAUGHT BETWEEN A ROCK AND A HARD SPOT.
THE DHR WILL INVESTIGATE A CLAIM FOR THE ADOPTED FATHER. YOU CAN COLLABORATE HER STORY AND YET NOT BE INVOLVED BY NOT MAKING A WRITTEN STATEMENT TO THEM BUT ADVISING AND CONCURRING WITH HIM.
DHR IS NOT AS DUMB AS YOU MIGHT THINK. THE JUDGE HEARING THE CASE WILL WEIGH THE FACTS AND YOUR LOOSER SISTER WILL NOT EVEN COMPARE TO THIS GUY WITH A JOB.
2007-11-06 23:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by ahsoasho2u2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to gather 'evidence' that can be used in court. Get with her ex and try to think about what sort of testimony you need , then get it. Figure a way to involve child protective services if you can plan or anticipate a problem they can intervene with.
2007-11-06 23:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to disregard her antics and focus on the children. Spend as much time with them as you can and give them a respite from her irresponsible behavior. She may seriously mess up and lose her kids - it'll be good for them to have a sane, steady adult in their lives they can count on. Good luck.
2007-11-07 10:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by Laney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you will have to humor her then. Unfortunately unless you are willing to try to convince her to let you have the kids, I don't see another option. Good luck.
2007-11-06 23:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by wife2denizmoi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋