If i get close I will get hurt?

Question

i think if i get to close to people they will hurt me. How do I get over that?

Answer 1

Be honest with yourself. That's the first step.

Talk to someone trusted about this. And form some good solid relationship. You are going to lose people and you're going to get hurt in life. But for everyone that hurts you there will be one (or more) people who don't.

I went through this a couple years ago and really understand how difficult this can be. I love the lyrics to this song (it was my Great grandmother's favorite) but I think it's really good advice

It's the heart afraid of breaking
that never learns to dance
It's the dream afraid of wakingthat never takes the chance
It's the one who won't be taken
who cannot seem to give
and the soul afraid of dyingthat never learns to live

Answer 2

well here is what you do... you so it slow but never get to close. and when you get hurt get back out there. there are people who wont hurt you. i know how it is. i been there. and i know how it feels. don't let it show that it hurts you. hurt them before they hurt you is my thing. because i been hurt to many times and when i think it's time to let them go i tell em hay i can't talk to you anymore or see you because im going through alot right now or something and tell them good bye for good. and have a nice life. that is just how i am. but we learn over time how to get over it faster because no matter what we will get hurt by others. and good luck to you.

Answer 3

You are just slow about it. You can hang out and make small talk without totally engaging your whole life in a person. If you begin to hang out with them and realize you don't like them or you don't want to be friends with them anymore, it's easy to retreat. That way, no one is hurt. You probably will get hurt by some people in your life, it's inevitable. You need to take risks like that though, otherwise you could forfeit some really good relationships.

Answer 4

If you live your life afraid of being hurt then you will never know true friendship or true love. just be your self and decide that you will give it a shot and if it dont work out then its their loss and that there must be something better waiting for you i believe that whatever happens is ment to happen and it makes you be a stronger person and bad experiences can be good sometimes because you can help other people because you know what it feels like to be treated that way

Answer 5

i am like that sometimes, but you cant just go around not letting anyone get close.
you just have to remind yourslef that no one is perfect and that everyone makes mistakes. and one day it could be you.
eventually you will pass through rough patches in your life, and if you have friends and people you could count on you will get over it that much faster.

Answer 6

I have the same thing. Mum is always right, she is always telling me things like stay away from her she is no good and she will hurt you. And shes right.She said to me that you can be friends with them, but don't tell them things you can't trust anyone. Ect.. I hope I helped!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

if you get close to people they WILL hurt you eventually, every time, and it's usually, totally, worth it

Answer 9

I've actually talked about this with my therapist. And I still have problems with this. All I can tell you is that you're going to have to push yourself.

Answer 10

you have to take the risk.

me and my boyfriend (current)
both had walls;we never really had feelings
for the people we "dated" they were just there;
somehow;he got over my wall;and i got over his.
somehow fell in love;
and everything is p-e-r-f-e-c-t.

love is great.

somebody has to help you
overcome this;you can't do it on your
own.