The main reason I am divorcing my husband is due to his infidelity. There is this website called craigslist and part of it is placing singles ads. Currently he has posted about 30 ads telling all women that he is willing to sleep with them without even meeting them before hand. Basically, here is my number lets hook up. I just don't think it's anything normal. I mean, atleast at a bar you get to know the person a somewhat right??? He sees our children on the weekends and I certainly don't want them over there while he is "hosting". I would really appreciate some male opinions. Thank you.
2007-11-06 15:16:09 · 36 answers · asked by jmarie0322 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not all are obsessed.
you don't state age, because it is a factor, but I'm guessing early 30's. Sounds like your soon-to-be ex-hubby has other issues. If you're still on speaking terms I'd suggest counselling and if he won't go then I'd urge you to go for your own sanity and that of your children. It's pretty tough trying to explain daddy's new girlfriends every weekend.
Good luck
2007-11-06 15:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by D J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think... you are very right to be divorcing him. I mean, what kind of jerk is he? He most likely has a Sex-addiction.
No matter what the other people told you, it's NOT good for men to want to have sex all the time. Sure it's good to have a little smuttiness to liven up your relationship but you don't want it to turn into a... I don't even know how to say it. Loveless relationship? Physical?
It's great your concerned for your kids. Have a chat with Mr. Happy-Pants and tell him that you don't want him "hosting" while he has the kids. Make sure he agrees. If he's a respectable and loving parent at ALL, he should say yes.
If he says you're being too "involved" in his relationships, don't have a shout-fight with him. Explain to him how you want your kids to live a happy, un"tainted" life. Maybe getting a little therapy would work wonders on this situation.
So, be strong, Mom! Be a good mother and show your kids the right way to live their lives. You'll too find someone else yourself eventually so don't hang over your divorce. C: I'll be rooting for you.
2007-11-06 15:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by Sherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, not ALL men are obsessed with casual sex. Unfortunately, or however you look at it, men are built to be the agressors. However, when a man is in a relationship, although he might find girls attractive and look at them, or like looking at porn (which most women still don't like), I can assure you most men do not do what your ex-hushand/husband is doing. You deserve better. I know for a fact that my boyfriend would never do that to me. You are doing the right thing by divorcing him. Don't give up hope. Your options are not, be alone forever, or be with a sh*tty guy. You can find someone who won't cheat on you, and that will treat you right!! As far as your children, I am assuming that it is court ordered that he sees them on the weekends. If you are still in court, I would bring this up to the judge. If you aren't, I would have a serious talk about this to him. Perhaps you already have. If it doesn't work...you will need to go back to court and complain to keep your children safe from that type of environment.
I wouldn't normally say anything bad about someone on yahoo answers. However, this NEEDS to be said. Don't listen to River E, he is a male shovenist pig.
2007-11-06 15:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Green Tea Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this question has been covered pretty well. I agree that he definitely has problems and you are best off away from him. I certainly agree that the ads should be brought to the attention of whoever is involved with designating custody/visitation of the children. If it turns out that he really can't control his urges...well...it's best if the kids weren't around.
Guys like this not only hurt women, but they screw up the whole works for the rest of us.
Honestly, my first thought when reading this was "what women would respond to those ads???" The sad part is, somewhere, sometime at least one woman did. If no one ever did, the guys would just give up on it and it would go away...at some point it had to have worked, and that has given foolish hope to all of them.
Save yourself and your kids...and for what it's worth, I'm sorry this has happened, but I'm glad you had the courage to leave.
2007-11-06 15:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by mrthreee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are obsessed with casual sex. Personally I would rather get to know the lady first. Like this past weekend I had finally gotten to meet after chatting online. But just the casual sex does not work for me.
2007-11-06 15:36:26 · answer #5 · answered by Dude In Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of men are obsessed with sex. Most men want sex for as long as they can have it, as often as they can have it.
I bet he's putting the ads on craigslist just because its a way for him to get MORE sex, and not the casualness of it.
I just want to be clear that I'm not excusing his behavior or his infidelity, or anything like that. You're very well justified in getting rid of him. I'm just saying that men are obssessed with sex. Studies have shown that men think of sex something like every 8 seconds.
Let me tell you as a man - that's accurate!
2007-11-06 15:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im just a girl but from listening to what you have to say, i feel real bad for you. Not all men are like that! You need to find a man that is religious, faithful, and caring. This man has ruined your trust with men, I'm sure. You gotta see a therapist, then go find yourself a descent man. Almost all men are descent, some are pigs. Its just too bad you got married to a pig. Good Luck.
May God be with you. lol
2007-11-06 15:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by MissUnpredictable 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no we all aren't - i'm not. but i can certainly understand and feel for your concern about your kids. while he has every right to see his kids if he wants to. the courts will take into consideration your concern over this matter - there's some things they may do and that is having him have supervised visitation for one, but they may need more proof that he is putting the kids in a "bad enviornment" i would definitly consult your atty. about this if i were you to see what can be done. hope this helps you&goodluck!
2007-11-06 15:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by scott 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 12:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw all the men that answered this question. I think it is disgusting that he would say he is going to sleep with them without even meeting them. I am just as confused about this as you are.
2007-11-06 15:22:12 · answer #10 · answered by *Mizz.Kayy* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋