so many people say "You shouldn't have three children, because someone will always be left out" is this true? If you have three children do you feel obligated to have one more to even things out?
I would like to have three children, but my husband thinks children need to come in sets.
Are there struggles with having three that aren't an issue with two?
2007-11-06 15:13:21 · 13 answers · asked by LolaMola 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
as long as you love all your children, i really don't see the difference whether you have two children or four. there will be times when one child will need more attention then the other, depending on their age or behavior but as long as you love your children the same amount and treat them equally and fairly, it really shouldn't matter.
2007-11-06 15:19:55 · answer #1 · answered by Lankan Sweetheart 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two is a lot easier to take care of than three. I had three children and it was a shock the difference between two and three. With two Mom can take one and Dad the other when going out places. Usually by the time the oldest goes off to school your second one is at least 3 and easier to handle than a baby. But if you have 3 children and if your oldest is in school, then everytime you take him to school in the morning you have to get a toddler dressed and a baby too, by the time you get back home you have a fussy baby and a toddler ready to get into everything. Then pick up time in the afternoon interupts nap time. You will feel like you are running all the time. It's easier to stay at home but then if you do you get bored because you are spending all your time with little people.
2007-11-06 16:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Carol A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be struggles even with just one. Having three children is a blessing. I have three kids of my own. 2 girls and 1 boy. None of them ever felt left out, because I made sure that none of them were left out. What ever we do we to together. All three of my kids are athletic and when one is playing and the other aren't we all attend the game. I have gotten them used to the fact that I love them all the same. They are all different with differnent likes and dislikes but one is not more important than the other. They are all important to me. If I had to do it over again I would do it just the way I have it. It was not planned this way, I was just blessed this way. Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-11-06 15:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I come from a family with 3 original children.... when there were only 2 of us around, things were pretty well maintained and life was rather simple... put that 3rd one in and there was ALWAYS conflicts between the 3 of us.... 2 against one USUALLY and it didn't matter which 2 or which 1..... We foungt less when the 3rd wasn't around.... Also, I was the middle child and of COURSE middle children do tend to get a little left out of things.... One parent favors the oldest, one favors the youngest... the middle fends for him or in my case HERSELF.... which I had to do MOST of the time. I have a younger brother who has 3 little boys.... same applies to those 3 as well.. Mom is closest to the oldest boy, Dad (my brother) tends to favor the youngest and MY particular favorite for more then obvious reasons is the middle son...... Have as many children as you feel you can HANDLE and afford...remembering you will have weddings and college to pay for later on down the road....
2007-11-06 15:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband comes from a family of 3 children, him being the middle child and he was very left out and at age 32 I still see it. It has actually affected the relationship with his mom and our children. She favors all the other grandchildren (she has 6) than ours. I would stick to 2 children. I have 2 boys and wanted to try for a girl but the middle child syndrome is why I don't have a third. It's scary to me to leave anyone out.
2007-11-06 15:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am the middle of three children. I do agree with your husband, kids do best in two's and four's. When I was little someone was always left out, during a vote one of us was always the bad guy who wouldn't agree with the other two. but this is your and your husbands decision, each family is different only you know what will work for your family, good luck in whatever you decide to do.
2007-11-06 16:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by Far Dreamer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you think about it. Let's say there is a disagreement and it is solved by a vote. If there is three children I'm sure two will join together to go against the other one.
2007-11-06 15:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by missdontgivafukusa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow the advise of Lankan SWeetheart Hes right on I have 3 kids and the middle one never fell left out Just love them equaly
2007-11-06 16:11:11 · answer #8 · answered by lala 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mum had 3 of us and none of us ever gets left out. It is good because my brothers are close in age and they are best mates. I am the youngest but they never leave me out. They are very nice to me and always look out for me. I could just be lucky though because my mates older brothers don't care about them as much.
2007-11-06 15:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes its true. Have two that is expensive enough if you want to do a good job and send them to a great college and have nice weddings. but if you must have more than 2, then have four.
2007-11-06 15:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋