When two people marry it is customary for the pastor to say "Whom God has joined together.....". I was wondering for those who got married and did not believe in God, did the pastor or Justice of the Peace include these words in your ceremony? If so, how did it make you feel?
2007-11-06 15:13:06 · 16 answers · asked by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Really, That is a very good question...And Also..The Pastor or J.P. almost always Says: "WE ARE GATHERED HERE IN THE SIGHT OF GOD", >>>> How many of us were aware of THE FACT THAT GOD Was Right THERE At OUR WEDDINGS? That is something to think about. Huh? Especially if we don't know HIM, Or Believe In Him.
2007-11-06 15:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by minnetta c 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The traditional words you cited are in the prayer books that fill the shelves of priests and pastors. The JOPs & judges generally don't have that in their ceremonial language.
By the way, since the words are fully, "Those whom God has joined together, let no man tear asunder," and a judge has the authority from the state both to marry a couple and grant them a divorce, I don't think it would be even an accurate description of the event. (Not that it qualifies as accurate in any other ceremony, either).
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2007-11-06 15:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a damn shame that God gets forced into just about everything including weddings and even the Pledge has God forced into it even though it wasn't in the original pledge.
I had a friend who committed suicide and she was an atheist along with her husband. During the funeral the preacher forced god and how she was going to hell into his eulogy. It was enough to piss off any atheist.
Sorry I know this isn't really answering your question, but I'm always fired up about the religion thing.
2007-11-06 15:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by matt h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One does not have to be married by a pastor. One can have the person performing the ceremony say anything they please. Marriage is a legal agreement only. No religious ceremony is required.
Kisses Betty B.
2007-11-06 15:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same way you feel when you say "oh my God".
I.e. it's a figure of speech that you use without thinking about it's meaning.
Besides, plenty of non-believer couples I know did not have a church wedding at all. Just did the paperwork at City Hall and threw a party.
2007-11-06 15:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I designed my entire wedding, including the ceremony. No words from any faith or god were included and our officiant was a friend certified to conduct such ceremonies.
2007-11-06 15:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was married it was by an atheist who is also an ordained minister, there was not a single mention of god at my wedding.
2007-11-06 15:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by Gawdless Heathen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I had a totally nonreligious ceremony. No mention of god at all.
2007-11-06 15:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a Christian when I got married, so it didn't bother me.
Most atheists that I know who have gotten married wrote their own vows, and get married by a secular authority.
2007-11-06 15:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is essentially a legal contract. I don't think atheists would be going to a church to get married, they would probably go to a judge, like I did.
2007-11-06 15:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by Petrushka's Ghost 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋