Crappy situation with Dad?

Question

For starters im not a kid so dont mistake me as some teenage kid but im having issues with my father hes a christian and im not really all that big on religion and hes always throwing stuff in my face about the devil and he told me I was gonna burn with him or some bs and he always blames everything negative on the devil even when he does something wrong he will turn the blame against somebody else he hasnt done much as a father either and hes stressing me out I have health issues with my heart and its not good for me to be under stress right now and he kept going off about the devil and told me he wasnt going to stop until I change and im not that bad hes wrecking what little relationship we have and today I asked him if he wanted a relationship with me after I moved out and he got all mad and was like I dont owe you nuthin and blah blah blah what do you think I should do about this situation? Cuz hes actin a pain in the you know what

Answer 1

This must be really hard on you. You seem to want a relationship with your father, and your father is to wrapped in his religion to see that you love him. It is easy to blame everything we do wrong on the devil. And its hard to accept the mistakes we have made. It seems that your dad would rather blame the devil for everything he did wrong than to take responsiblility for his mistakes, and now he doesn't know how to make amends for them. His guilt is keeping him from having a relationship with you. Unfortunatly we can't change anyone. Change has to come within. I know that you want to have a relationship with him, but its not going to happen right now. You should tell him that if he doesn't take the time to listen to how he's making you feel or what you desire, then he is going to give you no choice but to back off. And if you have to back off it's alright. Maybe your father will then realize that he is missing out in your life and come around. Your physical and mental health is the most important thing right now take care of yourself first. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 2

I have an older brother---he and my father NEVER saw eye to eye----my brother (in 1968) came home from college with hair just below his ears and my father refused to let him in the house until he got his hair cut.... well, he never DID get that haircut and he and my father rarely talked for the next 28 YEARS... I think truthfully they only spoke twice to each other and only SAW each other 2 times in all those 28 years... My father died in 1996 and my brother never even came to the funeral.... Father's and son's do NOT always see eye to eye and if yours is stressing you out and driving you nuts with his overly fanatic religious preaching, then the VERY BEST thing you can do for yourself is to move out, and if you have to stay away from him, so be it.... No one should force his OR her views on someone else... regardless of the relationship.. and especially if they haven't EARNED that right by being a good parent... So many parents brainwash their kids into being prejudice, anti-religion, overly religious, whatever... and a child should have the right to be his own person... not a carbon copy of a parent.... Just because John Doe might hate black people does NOT mean that John Doe Jr should not like them also... (NOTHING against black people here I'm just trying to show that prejudice is usually passed down from parent to child... and should NOT be...same with religious beliefs... TRY to ignore your father's rantings while you are still living under his roof, but also be making arrangements to be getting out of their SOON.

Answer 3

Be sincere. Face him telling him the truth: that you appreciate your relationship with him but you feel really stressed about his religious talk, that you respect his beliefs but you feel uncomfortable already about this matter, and you'd appreciate that he stopped talking about this matter because it's affecting you in a negative way. Tell him that stress could affect negatively your health, and you don't want this to happen to you. Tell him that you're an adult, and that your religious beliefs are quite diferent from his, and you'd appreciate that this subject be not brought up by him anymore for the sake of your relationship. Be calm, and firm. You don't have to tolerate his behavior if he insists on talking about his religious beliefs, and making you feel stressed, guilty. Respect is very important from parents, friends, husbands, boyfriends, friends, etc. to have healthy relationships with them, and this must be reciprocal.
Good luck !.

Answer 4

Don't allow it to stress you out. You may not be a teenager, but take some advice from one. Allow your Dad to have his belief system..don't judge him on it..but let him believe it, because the more you fight it..the more likely it is that he will push it. Tell him straight up that you don't want to hear about stuff like that..and then change the subject. If that doesn't work...and he persists..then just avoid the situation..if he begins to talk about religion then just leave..and find something else to do.

Answer 5

I would just move out and ignore my father for the rest of my life. My parents tried to use the religion thing with me but I totally ignore then and tell them do they think that they have been good Christians. Until they can better themselves in front of God they are no one to tell me how I can live my life especially since I'm 22 yrs old and been on my own since 16 yrs old.

Answer 6

Hehe well theres good and bad to this

Bad: Start drawing pentagrams everywhere and make sure to wear lots of black and mumble Satan around him and listen to songs such as "devil went down to georgia" "watch me die-underoath"

Good:walk around with a bible make sure he sees have a cross necklace and do lots of stuff like that

lol dont do the bad one plz :)

Answer 7

O.K. so you are not a kid, then move out and get a place of your own. Obviously you and dad do not get along at the bests of times. Why make yourselves so miserable? Make it easier on both of you and go your separate ways.

Answer 8

HOW OLD ARE YOU?
DO YOU HAVE TWO FEET TO STAND ON?
CAN YOU NOT SPEAK YOUR OWN MIND?
IF YOUR FATHER IS CHRISTIAN THE DAMNED BE HELL AND WHY IS HE SO HELL BENT ON GOING THERE.
THINK FOR YOUR SELF--TELL HIM DAD HAVE YOU EVER WATCHED SPRINGER AND MAURY AND MONTEL? AND YOU THINK I AM BAD, HELL I THINK WITH THOSE PEOPLE AROUND I MIGHT JUST MAKE HEAVEN AND HOLD MY HAND OUT AND GRAB YOU UP WITH ME AND THEN LEAVE.

Answer 9

If you can afford to move out do so. Live a good clean life for yourself not for him.

Answer 10

move out, pay your own bills and let the devil be damned