fear of never getting married?

Question

does anyone else have this crippling fear they'll never find someone to love them and get married to? i do. i don't know why. it's all i think about sometimes. i dont want to think like this, and wanted to know if anyone else feels the same.

Answer 1

Ya..I do too. Especially after I wash with my one of my exs for like 7 or 8 months and we wanted to get married.. But ya..I think about that a lot. Your not the only one. Just think about happy stuff like a nice career. Don't stress over something like this. You'll get married when your ready. Good luck! =)

Answer 2

I used to. I even started to give up, and form single alliances with my friends. Then, something happened. After spending a decent amount of time dragging myself through interview dates, I gave up. Stopped looking, and allowed myself to have better things to do than worry about it. I cancelled all of my memberships to dating websites (seriously, does someone need to pay $100 a month to try to find guys that don't actually match you anyway? I didn't, I just wish I'd known that then.. imagine the savings..), and just had fun. It took a while, because at first, I still had my eye on every guy I met, but eventually it dulled out a bit.

Then, something happened... I was browsing online groups and saw a funny comment from a guy about the relationship he'd just gotten into. The comment was from over a year ago, and since it was so funny, I wanted to know this random person's story (I was bored at work, learning people's lives was amusement). His page was filled with one great truth after another, and I found myself wondering if he'd come across my page and put it in his own words or something. I sent him a hello, hoping to make a friend. He was cute as hell and intelligent and all... Too good to be true, so even though I was developing a crush on him I tried to bury it.

That was on Thursday. Saturday we met, Sunday night he asked me to be with him, and Monday night he moved in. It was a whirlwind, and 3 months later he proposed. We're getting married, and now I have to get used to hearing "spouse" and "wife" and such, when I'd thoroughly convinced myself it would never happen.


Since this tends to be an advice forum of sorts, here's my two cents... Zen. Tao. Let what comes, come, and what goes, go. Work towards your own happiness. A partner on the same path will come along, eventually. Success is getting what you want, HAPPINESS is wanting what you get. Don't forget that! :)



EDIT: keep this in mind... when I stopped the dating websites, I had nothing better to do with my time, and ended up browsing groups. Buuuut, on the flipside, if you're avoiding the dating websites, you could miss him... The paranoia!!!!........This is what zen is for. Go where you will, and see what comes up.

Answer 3

Sometimes, but being a guy I know I time is more on my side than it is on womens, HAHA! Seriously though, the women choose the men in this society, not the other way around. Guys have to work really hard to get women to notice them, women have to work really hard to be attractive. What I do it take baby steps towards meeting women every day and after a while it pays off. Do what you have to do to meet the kind of guy you want. Join a club for a hobby that you enjoy where you will meet men, and stay in shape to attract them. Either way will pay off eventually.

Answer 4

For me, I do think that this idea applies to me, that I'll probably never find anyone, but I'm not scared of it. I know that I can have a full, happy, and successful life without getting married. I have my family, my friends, and a bright future ahead of me. Realize that finding someone shouldn't be your utmost goal. You have to live your life the way you want to live it, WITHOUT scoping out potential love interests. Keep your priorities in line. Who knows, maybe you'll find someone without even trying, and that's always the best, isn' it?

Answer 5

Yes, i'm feeling the same way. I am scared of getting married because of the high divorce rates in this country and the loads of rumors of unhappy marriages. Yet, I am scared of never getting married because I do want someone who I can love and have someone always be there for me for the rest of my life. It's confusing. And by marrying that person, it shows you are committed into the person you love and devote your life to them. Ugh, it's so confusing.

Answer 6

I use to....
I started to believe everyone.........that i would be left on the shelf to collect dust.

They made me think that there was something wrong with me, and put me down many times.

So i gave up on looking for someone and then was introduced to my boyfriend (my first at the age of 24). Been together for almost 3 months.

Answer 7

no no longer dumb im 23 an have that worry final month i presumed I knew precisely who i grew to become into goin 2 marry then he dumped me no longer dumb in any respect women tend to fret approximately issues like that yet while your no longer searching for a relationship it is going to come ... dont understand how religious you're says he that unearths a spouse unearths a sturdy subject so the guy who God has for you will locate you

Answer 8

i kinda feel like that....but im not scared nesessarily
marriage isnt that big of a deal... just get a bf or gf and stay with them forever and if u hav sex or sumthing like (if u dont marry them) that surely god will forgive u thats just in my opinion

Answer 9

I used to, but just stopped caring after a time.

Answer 10

i think different people have different destinies so it only surprises me that an amazingly large % of people find someone to settle with.