scared of my father?

Question

help.....he scares me....what should i do?

Answer 1

Is there a teacher or counselor you can speak with? How about a priest or minister?

Answer 2

You really need to be more specific. What exactly scares you about him? Does he hit you? Does he threaten you? Does he just yell at you?

If he is being abusive either pysically or emotionally, and you are under 18, you need to get some help. Talk to a trusted family member, family friend, teacher, doctor, etc. They can help you to get a hold of the right people to help you.

If you are over 18, then really you should think about moving. If you do live outside the house, and he is still harrasing you, or hurting you in some way, then call the police. If need be you can get a restraining order.

I am willing to talk. If you want you can e-mail me. Good luck and god bless.

Answer 3

Not a lot to work with here, so the only advice I can give in good faith is: if you are genuinely scared for your safety, talk about it with an objective and adult third party who can be trusted but doesn't know the family - like a school counselor or a teacher or principal or nurse or something. You'll have to take it from there.

The first conversation is the hardest one.

Answer 4

With out you going in to much detail the best advice I can give you is to talk to an adult about your situation and see if may be you can get a mediator( someone who is not on either side) to sit with the two of you while you tell him how you feel. If things are a little more violent and or physical I suggest going to a counselor, a teacher (not sure how old you are) or even the police. A parent is suppose to be there to give you the love and understanding that you deserve in life you should never by any means be afraid of them.

Answer 5

How old are You, Exactly? I Would Definitely Move out, As Soon as the Opportunity, Presents Itself. It's A Sick, Sad & Terribly Twisted Situation, He Has You In!

Until then, Stay Close to the Great People, Here at Yahoo! Answers, Including Me, and as Always, Keep Us Posted!!

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Answer 6

Well Sweetie, what is your father doing? If he is 'touching' you then you need to get help! Talk to a teacher, talk to ANYONE who will listen!
If he is hitting you, and abusing you mentally, you also need protection from him. Emotional abuse is more server then physical (hitting and such, not sexual) Sexual abuse is much more damaging them either physical or emotional abuse!
In any case please talk to someone who will listen, believe adn help you make a move to put a top to it!
Don't listen to those who say to run away, or behave! Running away is just a gate way to a life of running forever! Never run from your problems, take them from a point of view that will help you in the long or short run!
And if he is just a mean person or taking advantage of you sexually, behaving isn't going to get you any where! If you have to run away, call a run away hot line: 1.800.RUNAWAY it is the National Hot line (since I don't know which city you are in). They can tell you where a respectable and SAFE shelter is that will take care of you & help you. Never do anything with out a plan! Always go forward with a clear head if possible so you get the most out of what you are trying to accomplish. If you have to make a hasty run for it, go to the nearest trusted person, make the call and get help!!
Good Luck to you! I will keep you in my prayers night & day!

Answer 7

In most cases - get used to it.

But if he abuses you, move in with a friend. Helplines don't work usually. You need action - not a pat in the back.

If he's scaring you as in behaving abnormally or substance abuse, call someone you think who can help him. Or, talk to him if it's something wrong. Better yet, just hug him and let him know you're there.

Answer 8

i have the same problem. What you do is you build up your courage. Get him alone to the point where its just you and him and tell him how you feel about him. Why he scares you and suggestions on what to do about it will be good topics to talk about. Make him realize that if he doesnt back off alittle then you will live with your mom and make him realize how much hes hurting your feelings. Hope that helps you out.

Answer 9

Talk to your mom about your feelings towards him. How does he scare you? Like, I know I used to be scared of my Dad, but then after I told him that..he got really upset because he didn't want our relationship to be like that. Try talking to him and letting him know that you are afraid of him. Sometimes it can be nerve-racking when he's angry, but you need to talk to him.

If that absolutely is not an option...then tell your mom...and see if she can help you..it seems like she's the only person that can get you out of a situation like that.

Answer 10

Are you scared of him because of verbal abuse is he strict and loud, or is it because of physical abuse ? There's a big difference !!!...I hope that it's not physical.....What does you Mother say...does she stick up for you....??? I'm not sure what to say to you because you didn't give enough information about in what way your scared of him....I wish you did, so that I could feel like I could advise you. I wish that I knew in what way he scares you, OMG I hope it's not sexual abuse !!!!!!! Talk to a trusted teacher, or an Aunt, or Grandmother, someone who will take you seriously....please go back on Yahoo and explain further...I feel like I'm not helping at all because I don't know in what way that he's making you afraid of him !!!!!

Answer 11

first thing is, how does he scare you? Second, does he harm you? Third, Does he threaten you? Fourth, If he does any of the above , contact the proper authorities. If he is doing something illegal they can help you. If that doesn't work see if you can stay with a friend or another family member and tell them what is going on with your father................... Please be safe.