Will you pray I dont yield to being bi-sexual?

Question

I was violently molested when I was 12 and since then I have fought continually with being bi-sexual, mostly in my thoughts.I began to despise men after the incident and have had a hard time wanting to be with any of them ever. I feel safer around girls and find them so beautiful but I know this attraction is from a man molesting me.Ive been thinking of " coming out " as bi-sexual and giving up the struggle to be pure. Please pray for me and any wisdom I would love to hear. Please no " see a counselor " advice. I tried it many times. It sucks and doesnt work.

Answer 1

I'll pray that those thoughts will vanish.
God Bless

Answer 2

Are you sure you're not confusing your comfort level at being around girls with sexual urges? Just because you can admire other women for their beauty doesn't make you bi-sexual. I personally see no good reason to come out as gay, straight or bi-sexual until you have really sorted out all your feelings, put your molestation ghosts to rest, and KNOW for sure which way you may go.

I know you don't want to go to a counselor but have you tried a 'victims of rape support group' where you can talk these kinds of things out with others with similar experiences? Gay, straight or bi-sexual life is too long to not work on overcoming what happened to you in the past. Your future depends on it. If your city has a 2-1-1 telephone referral system, they will be able to tell you how to connect to a rape support group. A women's reproductive health clinic probably could, too, like Planned Parenthood.

Answer 3

I can't pray for you to not be bisexual, but I will pray that you are able to find peace. I will pray that if you decide to pursue counseling again, that you will find the right counselor who can actually help you. I will pray that the person who molested you will never harm another child, or person for that matter. I will pray that you will one day be able to accept who you really are, whether that is bisexual or straight. I will pray that you find happiness, whatever that means to you personally.

It is possible that you are "confused" (for lack of a better word) due to your trauma, but it could also be possible that you were born this way anyways. I doubt that God could be so loving and at the same time make you be born bisexual just for the sake of torturing you. What happened to you was because of a bad person taking advantage of free will, but it is no more free will to be born bisexual than it is free will to be born a girl. I am bisexual, although I have never been in a same sex relationship, but that is more coincidental than anything. I just happened to fall in love with a man. I know I was born this way, I remember always having crushes on girls growing up, and rarely ever boys. I was never abused, and still turned out this way.

I truly hope that you are able to find peace. You will be in my thoughts

Answer 4

You don't have to do that or make those decisions. Cancel the sleepover until you can think it over. It seems more like she decided and you are going along with it. You have lots of time ahead of you for dating. Why make such a serious decision. You already said you are not ready to love or date. Think for yourself and take your time. Ask your Mom when you will be allowed to date. If you don't discuss these things with her, and you do things behind her back, she won't trust you. Earning her trust now will make life easier for your teen years. If you are really mature and ready, discussing this with her won't be a problem. trust me-been there

Answer 5

I will pray, but you are the one who has control of your thoughts and actions and since you have the fre will God will not force you to become pure you have to want to just like I hasd to want to give up smoking, really what I'm saying here is that you need to pray because you need to show God that you are serious about this by following through with your prayer and keeping your thoughts on pure things and staying away from bad influences or those who practice such things to tempt you if you don't you will give up, but know this, God knows what your molestor did to you both physically and mentally and how it has affected you, these damaging effects have definately made your life more difficult to bare. I will not suggest a councelor, if you feel it sucks and doesn't work, but you can succeed with God's help, if you put your trust in him, he will help you if you want his help and you let him help you, I pray that you take God's help and ask him for help and wisdom for your situation, but remember you should pray too because /I can't show God that you mean what you say only you can do that.May God bless your efforts with success!(Numbers6:24-26)
Peace and blessings!

Answer 6

I won't pray for you not to be Bisexual. But I will pray for you to be happy and at peace with your life. As far as wisdom that I have.... Sexual desires are instinctive. You can't change your heart. Rip peices out of it and end up scaring yourself worse than you were to begin with? Yes. But you can't decide who you love. You just do. And if the incident is still having such a negative effect on your life you really should seek help from a professional psychologist. But bare in mind it will only help if you truely allow it to. It isn't easy. And it won't make you stop being Bi. But just because you're Bi doesn't mean you can't be pure as well. Most important... Talk to your Diety. What do they tell you?

I'm sorry if this bothers you, but that's what I have learned.

Answer 7

Have you thought of accepting yourself for what you are. Your not bisexual your a lesbian its just easier for you to admit to being bisexual. And you can't change it now its already been impressed upon you. You can try extreme brainwashing. But that has its pitfalls as well. Yeah get over it God she still loves you. And if you love a woman or a man its the love thats important. When you get older and wiser you may find yourself in a relationship with a guy that you only pretend to love out of shame and thats not fair to him or you. Can I pray for you not to yield to being dishonest to yourself. Why sex and spirituality so seperated in the west. I would rather be a sexy,spiritual,lesbian. Then living a lie in fear and denial. What will you dream about if your with a guy and deep down you know its not what you want. and one day you will follow your heart and it may be too late. If you met a guy would you honestly tell him? what would you want a guy to do tell you if he was bi. Its a lot easier to be honest up front in the beginning of a relationship so no one gets hurt if its not a match and theres no hard feelings but if it comes out after 20 years of marraige and kids its much more messy and painful. To me praying for some one not to be bi is like praying against nature and its like praying that i don't yield to going to the bathroom. When i was a kid i swallowed gum and I told my dad and he said I would have only 6 weeks to live and I believed it for awhile. It was a very tense state of thinking. Is that kind of the state your in? I didn't die yet. I was very relieved. do what thou wilt.

Answer 8

i dont think you need to yeild to anything that makes you un happy. God did not put you on this planet to suffer, we are here simple to live, and to live happily. i am sorry that you feel that god would judge you in any way, as you live in the body that god made for you.

i would not be one to say go see a counselor, but i would be one to say look within your self. ask god's advice on the matter. see what kind of responce you get. the only one who can give you truely clear guidence on this matter is your self.

i also must add that i do not believe that "God" or the "god" written about in the bible (and in any other texts) is a damning god. i do not believe that an all loving being could possibley purposly torture any being in any way.

Answer 9

I will pray for you to be happy and find love, no matter who you choose. I will pray for you not feel guilty, but instead for being proud of who you are.

God Bless you

Answer 10

There is NOTHING wrong with being bi. It is very hard to find a counselor you can connect with sometimes, my guess is you mostly saw men and with that whole hard to trust men thing you have that killed it before it worked. I do hope you get help for your issues but not help getting away from being bi because there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Answer 11

Of course I will pray for you.

Overcoming-

John 16:33 "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."

Revelations 3:12 "Him who overcomes I will make a pillar in the temple of my God. Never again will he leave it. I will write on him the name of my God and the name of the city of my God, the new Jerusalem, which is coming down out of heaven from my God; and I will also write on him my new name."

Prayer-

Luke 11:1-13 "One day Jesus was praying in a certain place. When he finished, one of his disciples said to him, "Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples."
He said to them, "When you pray, say: 'Father, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come. Give us each day our daily bread. Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us. And lead us not into temptation.' "
Then he said to them, "Suppose one of you has a friend, and he goes to him at midnight and says, 'Friend, lend me three loaves of bread, because a friend of mine on a journey has to come, and I have nothing to set before him.'
"Then the one inside answers, 'Don't bother me. The door is already locked, and my children are with me in bed. I can't get up and give you anything.' I tell you, though he will not get up and give him the bread because he is his friend, yet because of the man's persistence he will get up and give him as much as he needs.
"So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.
"Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!"

Ephesians 6:18 "And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints."

Pure Thinking-

Philippians 4:8 "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things."

Purity-

2 Timothy 2:22 "Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord outof a pure heart."