My 7 year old son came home from school today and told him that another boy had taught him the "N" word. So he asked me what it meant. I told him that it is one of the ugliest words and that it is very hurtful. I also told him that a long time ago mean white people used it to say that about black people. So I have NO IDEA what to say to him and what else I can explain to him how awful that word is. Thanks for any info.
2007-11-06 14:12:00 · 10 answers · asked by Danielle S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Tell him the truth.
It is one of many racial slurs. It's mostly used to stereotype blacks as being lazy, stupid, dirty, and worthless.
And it's not just "a long time ago mean white people used it to say that about black people". (Mean white people?!?)
The word is still used frequently today - white say it to blacks - blacks say it to blacks.
2007-11-06 23:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by People for the Ethical Treatment of Vegetables 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did exactly what I would have done. Great job.
The only thing I would continue to do is just keep reminding him that being himself and not going along with people is very important. It's better to be nice than follow kids who are being mean and hurtful. It can be hard to stand up to peer pressure so make sure he's involved with groups of kids that facilitate positive behavior and challenge kids to do their best. If your not involved I would recommend Scouting.
2007-11-07 04:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Orion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what name is it that he would absolutely not liked to be called. A name that would hurt him so much....then say, well that is the same feeling some people get when they are called the N word. Good luck.
2007-11-06 22:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by nightcricket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Just to be sure, get down to his level (eye to eye literally) and tell him that he will hurt a lot of people's feelings if he uses that word. It is a bad word and he will be punished if he ever says it. Also tell him that even whispering that word will get him into a lot of trouble
Good Luck
2007-11-06 22:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by vallygrl 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You already explained it well. You go on talking with him and tell him that all those kind of words are used by people who are ignorents and dont really feel good themselves.
2007-11-07 00:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by john c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You explained it to him perfect. Just stress that he never calls anyone that and shouldn't even use the word. If his friend keeps influencing him to say it, maybe teach your son what to tell him so that his friend will stop saying it. Kids can have huge influences on their friends.
2007-11-06 22:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by Cierra S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think what you said is all he needs.
as long as he gets the picture that it is a horrible word that should not ever be used.
2007-11-07 01:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by lil bluey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him thats a terrible word and Jesus likes us talking , like nice people And not racist!
2007-11-06 22:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by THIS ACCOUNT CLOSED 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him it's a curse word, and that he shouldn't use it at all.
2007-11-07 09:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by Char 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did a great job.
2007-11-06 22:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by Suzanne D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋