My 4 year old is mouthy!?

Question

I tell her to pick up her toys she tells me "I dont have to"
Ive tried threatning to throw them away and she says "Mamaw buy me new ones"

help!! what to do?

Answer 1

ooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhTHE SWEET SMELL OF LEATHER. Just kidding dont crack her with the belt. Just be prepared to let her cry. Take everything she likes to play with put it in a box, crate, or storage containers. Make shure she cannot open and access her things. She can only play with one thing at a time, she will cry bloody murder but you must let her cry, when she is calm you give her one more toy of her choice. If she wants another she must put one away by giving it to you, until she learns to put one away for another, keep them away from her then slowly bring the box so that she has access to it. Repeat if necessary. Good Luck.

Answer 2

The next time she does this, don't even threaten that you are going to throw her toys away. Tell her that you are going to get a bag and what's not put where it goes is yours and it's going to the trash. Go get a trashbag and put all her toys that are strewn around in the trashbag. If she runs to pick some up, let her, but only what she can carry to put away before you get them. Now...when both of you are done and she is crying, you tell her that you did what you said you were going to do and from now on, she has to put her toys away. As long as she does what you ask that EACH day she will get ONE toy back out of the trashbag. But the first day that she messes up, you'll take the toy away that you gave her (either that day or the day before...whichever toy was given back last). You call her mamaw and tell her what you're doing if you do so wish so that she knows ahead of time and your daughter can't get any more toys. Good luck and since my mom did this to me and it worked, I would imagine that it would work on just about any kid. Just remember to DO WHAT YOU SAY YOU'RE GOING TO DO!!! That is the #1 thing.

Answer 3

I have a 15 mnth. old and a 3 1/2 yr. old and my 3 1/2 yr. old has started being "mouthy" I have a time out chair that he sits in for awhile during his "mouthy" moments.. Usually, when he's mouthy it's because he's tired. We make toy clean-up a bit of a game. I have large nice wicker baskets that the toys go into and at the end of night before bathtime all the toys get put away till the next day.... My children when they hear the bath water running know it's time to pick-up toys... They LOVE bathtime so it's an easy solution.. Although, in your case it seems that your "little lovely" is getting spoiled from her grandmother and it maybe time to "teach" some valuable lessons... Like the act of giving/charity. At Christmas time though my children are too young to understand we buy a gift for Toys for Tots and donate it to charity. Someday I hope that my children will understand and remember that giving to others is sometimes better than getting gifts. Also, it might be a good time for your you/daughter to go through her toys that she no longer plays with and donate them to Goodwill or Salvation Army. Have her choose a small bin of toys and explain that they go to girls/boys that don't get presents. In time she will understand...

Answer 4

see if you can make putting her toys away like a game, or a race...

if you see her doing something well, praise her a lot. this may help because children naturally want to please.

and whoever mamaw is...mamaw needs to be told that new toys won't be bought, and if they are you will donate them to children in need.

the bottom line is whatever you say, follow through on, or it will only get worse.

Answer 5

Oh boy does this sound familiar. You need to have a serious talk with Mamaw . Tell her she is not the mother , and she needs to respect your parenting wether she likes it or not. You must be very firm with her.

Answer 6

Put them up so it looks like you've gotten rid of them. A couple of days without toys and realizing her mama isn't going to buy her news ones should straighten her up.

Answer 7

number 1 rule with kids: never threaten UNLESS you'll actually do it. once you say it, you do it. so before you say it, you think carefully.
if she says "i don't have to" you say "yes you do, otherwise you will not be watching your favorite cartoon today" or whatever it is she likes to do/watch... and stick to your word! she's 4, so she'll get it quickly..

Answer 8

spank her i kno it sounds harsh but one or two pops on the rear always straightened me up when i was little.