i totally have a crush on this platonic friend, but he is seeing someone else. He always flirts with me and is always tryig to come over to my place when I am alone or asking me out to get drinks at the bar. I "jokingly" told him that i was into him and wanted a real relationship not just a friends with benifits thing (which i think he might be looking for) and he freaked till I said ROFLMAO. I think he only wants "that one thing" but I've loved him for years and want a commitment. He has told me that he is sleeping with his gf, so it is somewhat serious. Do I cut off the friendship like I'm thinking about doing..or what. What do u think?
2007-11-06 13:42:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw..I've yet to give him that one thing either...i have respect for myself. maybe thats why he wants to go drinking.
2007-11-06 13:43:36 · update #1
Sweetie, I don't want to sound harsh about this guy that you like, but it doesn't seem to me that he would treat you the way you deserve to be treated. He has a girlfriend but he is trying to get physical with you? That is unfaithfulness - not a quality you want in a guy. If he is "cheating" on his girlfriend now, what makes you think he wouldn't cheat on you with another girl if you were his girlfriend? Girl, listen to wisdom...LET THAT GUY GO. Go for someone who has better values.
2007-11-06 13:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by molly mo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tina, it looks like you already know the answers. It sounds like you have a good relationship with him and if he wanted more he would let you know without question. He definitley wants "that one thing." I';m sure he's sexually attracted to you, but the only way you would feel comfortible if the relationship changes is if he leaves his girlfriend and makes a move towards you. Nothing halfway or just sexual will make you feel secure. Trust me. Your feelings for him could ruin the friendship if you let it. As much as I hate "games," the best thing to do is distance yourself from him in a big way and he just might realize you mean more to him than what he thinks. Right now it seems he wants his girlfriend and you on the side. Most guys would love that and will make the play if they think it's available. Hope it works out for the best.
2007-11-06 21:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Randy L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if hes flirting with you and trying to come over when your alone, then hes hoping that he can say the right things and maybe make the right moves to get with you, and now that he knows that your into him, he might think he has more of a chance. just cause hes sleeping with his girl friend doesnt mean its serious, not sure if i would have said it like that. it would be hard to just cut off the friendship, but it does look like you may need to move on, but with your feelings being the way they are, you may need to gradually distance yourself from him. spending time with friends helps to :)
2007-11-06 21:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by SoxFan73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it were me, I'd keep on being friends, and as long as he doesn't pressure you for that "one thing", and you don't pressure him into any commitments, you will at least get to enjoy each other's company, and who knows? Maybe you'll give him what he wants, and he might just forget the other girl and give you what you want. You'd be surprised how many successful marriages start out as platonic friendships. Go for it! Lots of luck!
2007-11-06 21:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on if you think he is worth it. If you are comfortable just being friends with him even though you have strong feelings for him then just continue the way you are.
If you are serious about wanting to be with him as more than friends you should tell him, without the 'ROFLMAO'.
2007-11-06 21:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never want to break up a happy home cause what goes around sure do come around in you don' t want that in life therez alot of guyz out there. what if you was with someone in they bestfriend **** them How would you feel? You have to think like that in life.
2007-11-06 21:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by redzcraziipassion 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seem to have your head on straight and know what your values are. I think you are a wonderful example of young woman-hood. Therefore, you should do what seems best for You.
2007-11-06 21:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your intuition is correct. He's only interested in having sex withy you and nothing more. Stop wasting your time on this guy and find someone that will return your love.
2007-11-06 21:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by steve l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes! Stop it. Love yourself is better, or find the other man who care you trullly. Like me, i found my true love, rela man at interracialfriends.com. He is black and love me more than i did. We are about to marry very soon.
2007-11-06 21:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if hes getting it from his gf then he shouldnt be wanting it from you. maybe hes only spending time with you for a freind!
2007-11-06 21:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by lisa_chris_hays 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋