ladies ladies please help?

Question

okay been a bit of an idiot at times wjth my gf over the last 18mths and watched porn on the internet and lied about it twice and talked to my ex bout my new relationship when i got with my new gf, yes i know your thinking you ******* idiot what di you do that for? we have now hit a couple of more problems and i feel that we are not sorting them out, we do not have a sex life anymore and it seems that she has now not got a sex drive unless its her time of the month otherwise it aint there! she tells me that she doesnt trust me with the tinternet cos of the past problems, so how do i make it all right and get my girl back and sort out all the small things out?? help would be appreciated, i love my girl but at times i am oblivious to hints etc etc

im guessing that in lots of ladies eyes im not rated highly for what i have done?

Answer 1

mybe its time 2 move on and start a fresh with some1 new

Answer 2

Well I am probably in the minority but I don't have a problem with guys watching porn in moderation. And if you are friends with your ex (a mature friendship and nothing more) then there is nothing wrong with discussing relationships with them. They can be a great source of knowledge. When the sex dies in a relationship, it usually means they relationship is dead too, or just seriously on the rocks and in need of life support. Maybe you could watch some porn together and spice up your sex life. Seriously, it works for a lot of couples. But if she's definitely not into that sort of thing, I am sorry to say it but you should move on.

Answer 3

You should have a dry spell, where you do not go on the Internet so some time. Or you have her make a block so that you can't access porn sites. you also need to talk to her seriously about this and tell her that you are ready to be trusted again and that she should give you that chance to prove yourself again. If she can't do this, then it's over- where there's no trust, there is no relationship.

No, you are not rated highly for what you have done. Sorry to put it this way, but you strengthened the truth that men are weak when it comes to sneaking around. If you feel that you are passed that and are more mature, then your GF should give you a chance- if she wants to that is.

Answer 4

oh sweetie! bless ya you aint had a good time recently have you??? ok, first of all your girlfriend was a bit naive, because whether you like it or not, 90% of men will look at porn. FACT! and there is nothing you or i or she can do to change that, men like porn, just like women like shoes. its just one of those mysteries of the world.
However... your mistake was lying about it. because decieving her will never amount to a successful relationship. what you really ought to do is sit her down and explain to her that, yes you look at porn, that yes you enjoy it, but that it is a fantacy and it would never replace the incredible feeling that you get when you are with her, because she is real and beautiful and your girl.
next you are going to apologise profusely about talking to your ex about the relationshiip, it was wrong, it was stupid and it was unfair to her. what you really need to do is most definately reassure her that this relationship is more than what your relationship with your ex was!!! because she will think she is being compared to this ex of yours!!!
the last thing you are going to have to realise is that a woman cannot have sex if there is nothing in it for her, for a woman to become sexually aroused it takes more than internet porn!!! LOL! heres what you will do, you buy a nice bottle of wine, a big bunch of flowers and cook her a nice meal, romantic music in the background and sit and talk over a nice meal, and IF she doesnt want sex after that, dont push it, say ok, i've rented a dvd, you wanna watch it? a woman will rarely have sex if she doesnt feel close to the bloke, you need to build up her trust again and make her feel special again!

Answer 5

Why look at scantily clad women on the Internet when you have a real life girlfriend, she should satisfy all your needs, no wonder she was abit upset, you need to make it up to her and convince her she's the only one for you, remind her why she's so special to you and hope she forgives you for your misdemeanours! She probably feels less atractive if she thinks you prefer looking at strangers on the web like an immature schoolboy, go sort it out like a man.

Answer 6

move on. This ones doomed mate! The trust went out with Noah! THe bed sheets are cold and you couldnt have been that happy with her if you were too busy watching sticky vicky porn on tinternet. Think about it. She aint the one.

Answer 7

Good Luck ! Sounds like the first thing you need to do is grow up. Seriously ! Then it is going to take a lot of time and a lot of proveing yourself. Don't push her. Just keep showing her how much you care and try not to mess up anymore.

Answer 8

Onlly have eyes for her. Imagine this.....your girl does ALLLLL the things you did^~^....how would you feel?....will you still love the same way?....will you still put ALLL your trust on her....knowing that she might do it again...?
Well, the thing is...you have a brain, and you shourn't have dun that in the 1st place, and you DON'T respect her much do you?....you lied much about you to her.....why don't you start opening yourself to her a little more. Don't look at anny other girl, and dedicate your much precius time to her,and her onlly. And PLEASEEEE, show a girl that you have feeling as a man. To start with...and don't skip this for nothing in this world.
- You need to tell her EVERITHING...everry single lie, everry single detail you might dun on her back. She'll have more confidence about you, trust me^^!.

Answer 9

wow if your girl friend is mad that your watching pron shes a ******* idiot honestly who cares its not like ur doing it with them....
but if you really want her then you just need to sit down one on one and say hey i dont know whats up with us but i feel like were drifting apart or something and just talk to her about how you feel and the whole sex thing well maybe you should try a different strategy ....
or maybe she's testing you cause she thinks thats all you want .....dont try it for a while take her out some where nice and show her that you care

Answer 10

okay... first of all she has to be confident in her self to know that you will always come home to her... or no matter what happends you find her to be the most beautiful girl in the world... if you guys have trust issues then you shouldnt be together.. there is nothing wrong with talking with your ex if you all are JUST friends... and the whole internet porn thing... you shouldnt have lied and there is nothing wrong with it... she is just not cofident with her self...