I asked my best friend to be my best man back in May and now with just 4 months to go to the wedding he has canceled on me because of travel costs to a destination wedding. Then i asked my cousin if he would do it and it turns out he's going to be starting a new job right before the wedding and won't be able to get time off. Who should be the third guy I ask to be my best man if I don't have any other close family or good friends?
2007-11-06 12:52:37 · 16 answers · asked by shwubbster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why not have a Best Woman?! I'm sure there is a woman you are close to who would be honored.
My sister had a situation in her wedding where she needed another bridesmaid and she ended up asking a cousin she didn't necessarily feel super close to at the time but was relatively close in age. Her reasoning was at least with family you know they will be around for the rest of your life (not like, for example, someone you work with currently.) Turns out after both being married and having babies of their own, she's gotten much closer to that cousin because they're in a different stage of life. The point being- someone in your family will be with you forever. Good luck man!
2007-11-06 13:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Elle Beeh 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is there any way you can help your best friend out with the travel costs? That's the downside of those destination weddings - the couple really should plan on helping out with those associated costs instead of expecting everyone to pony up in addition to everything else (tux rental, etc.)
2007-11-06 12:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by Flusterated 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If travel costs are the only reason for your 1st choice to not make it to the destination wedding, maybe you should consider helping them out with the costs.
2007-11-06 12:56:40 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica O 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your bride might have an idea... even tho u personally may not b close to them ur wife to be will be over the moon if u ask one of her friends or her brother... if ur at whits end i'm sure ur dad would be honoured to hold the position...
2007-11-06 12:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by crystal_bubbles7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's why I dislike destination weddings. They are too expensive for the attendants and guests.
2007-11-06 19:58:46 · answer #5 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks, you could always help pay for him to go. I mean, if you are already paying for stuff a little more for a plane ticket would be worth it for your best friend to be there. Trust me you'll not regret it. you will regret the memory being gone over a couple hundred bucks for a plain ticket.
2007-11-06 12:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it happened to me too. i was within two weeks of getting married when I had to get a new best man. my wife's maid of honor didn't even show for the wedding, she had issues with race we did not know about until then! life happens.
2007-11-06 12:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Southern tradition (I believe) dictates that your dad be the best man. Also, if the bride has a brother, that would be a wonderful option. Do you have any other groomsmen? choose from one of them if you do.
2007-11-06 16:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by turkeyjerky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sohuld pick your cousin i mena he is ur cousin he cares about u but not ur friend he dont give a f*&k if u went to jail.he wont feel sad when u mom died etc
2007-11-06 12:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
a male relative.. your dad is nice.. but you don't have to pick a man... if you have a sister you could ask her to stand up for you..
2007-11-06 13:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by hitchnj 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋