How to be patient with people who are very impatient and short tempered?

Question

I'm am trying to be a better person because i want to be the best person i can be everyday. I really can't seem to do this because my family gets on my nerves. The more i try to be patient with them, the more it bulids up inside and i don't even know it. They are very impatient and short tempered. Not to mention close minded. My mom ESPECIALLY jump into conclusions. I am really trying to be very patient with this, but she does not trust me and she really just gets on my nerves. I think the only way I won't get mad at her is if i don't talk to them at all. I think my life would be very much easier that way. but i must be patient.. gob damnit

Answer 1

Patience doesn't mean swallowing things. It means dealing with them. Reasonable, of course. Is there some reason why they don't trust you? If not, just keep repeating, I have always been trustable, why should it be different now. If you have done something, well, you have to pay your penance, but keep reminding them that you are trying and doing better - and keep trying.

I am an incredibly patient person, and I've discovered that it is usually easier if you tell people right when you think about it, in stead of letting it fester.

Answer 2

Listen carefully to what your Mom has to say, and stay patient. If you don't argue back, then you'll diffuse some of the insecurities your Mom is feeling. Keep a diary of events, and how you managed to cope etc on the day. This will assist you in working out a strategy to help improve family relations. Work on building trust with your Mother, as a good start... It's nice to know that you are consciously working on being a better person....I'm seems that you are already successful........All the very best !

Answer 3

I greatly admire you for your patience with the impatient ones. It's really hard when it's your own family that gets on your nerves, but you have to live with them right now, so you really don't have much choice except to try and tune them out. I think you do have the right attitude, though, and maybe if you show them by your own example of being patient, they may let up on you. But if they don't, just keep in mind that someday you'll be old enough to live on your own, and you'll finally have peace and quiet. Won't that be great? Good luck!

Answer 4

Wow, could be my story, just sub step mom. Here is what I do, I do my best to limit time in the house in her company to a few hours here and there, when she starts to get in her moods I just walk away and say ok, I pray for her and dad, deep breathing, and the knowledge that I tollerate the way she treats me so as to see my dad in his final years as we missed allot of time before. I do my best to support her and dad, but when they start to get ugly, I just walk out of the room for a while. Don't give up, family is very important.

Answer 5

I can'tbe patient with such a person. I would blow my top too.