My best friend is a guy... my fiance's best friend is a guy. Can you have co-best men? Any other ideas? My best friend has volunteered to wear a dress and be the 'man of honor' but that's a little silly :-p
2007-11-06 11:15:39 · 17 answers · asked by articnomad04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For those of you thinking I should marry my best friend.... he's my best friend next to my fiance. I've discussed some suggestions with my fiance and he seems to stand by girls on the girl's side and guys on the guy's side, but he's unwilling to let him be a co-best man. Any suggestions for what I should say to my fiance to get him to see the light?
2007-11-07 00:09:43 · update #1
He can be a groomsman and stand next to the best man AND - he can also have the honor of signing the registry as one of your witnesses along with the Best man. There's no rule saying the maid of honor has to sign nor that the witnesses be male and female. The extra gesture of having a special photo taken of the two of you would be fantastic and he would treasure it forever. The idea of him wearing a dress to be "cute" is silly and he was surely joking. If he loves you as much as he says, he wants your day to be memorable and cherished, not a lifelong joke. Rent the guy a tux and have a wonderful day! Edit** The other option you can have is to have your best friend walk right ahead of you and your dad, and then stand beside you in his tux. Nothing says there cannot be a man on either side of the couple. Start a trend where it is really your best friends/witnesses instead of girls on one side exclusively. This could work where a guy has a woman/sister as his witness. Politically correctness would say that it should be Best PERSON instead of maid or man anyway!
2007-11-06 11:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
These days its perfectly fine for a man to stand on the bride's side. Since he is the bride's best friend then this would seem appropriate. It's the bride's decision.
He would be properly referred as the Bride's Honored Attendant (however, don't be surprised if everyone calls him a Bridesmaid.)
He should NOT wear a bridesmaid dress. That would take attention away from the bride and that's wrong. This is the bride's day, and she should be the center of attention. He should wear an outfit that is similar to what the groomsmen wear but should compliment the bride's party too. This is performed by wearing a vest that's the same color/material as the bridesmaid.
When he walks up the aisle he walks along side the groomsmen. This is not arm-in-arm!
Oh, and one last thing. If there is a bridal shower/party, or bachelorette party where only girls attend, your honored male attendant is expected to attend that as well. He may well be the only man there. If that is the case, then you can have some fun and have him dress up as a proper bridesmaid. That would be the only place where that would be appropriate.
2007-11-09 06:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. You could do it either way. NO...he doesn't need to wear a dress. That would definitely be strange. But you CAN have him be "man of honor" if you want. Of course, he would wear a tux. OR...you can have co-best men. But, usually the best man is chosen by the groom.
There is nothing saying a guy friend cannot stand with the girls. It has been done.
2007-11-06 12:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've actually seen where there isnt a "Maid of Honor"... it actually is a "Man of Honor"... he still would stand in the place of the typical MOH... a best friend that just happens to be a guy... no one said that all brides have to have a female best friend... and no, he wouldnt have to wear a dress lol. You could put him in the same tux but give him something a little different (like a different color boutineer, etc)
If this doesnt appeal to you, then you could definitely have him on the guys side as a "best man"... you could list in the program:
Groom's Best Man: Mr. John Smith
Bride's Best Man: Mr. Jake Jones
Work it in how you see fit... but if he's a best friend, he deserves that type of role in your wedding
Good luck and congrats! Hope these idea's help!
2007-11-06 11:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally men were included as groomsmen and stood beside the groom whether they were family of the bride or friends etc.
Now more and more we are seeing men and women as attendants, standing on either side. The women would still wear the same bridesmaids type dress, men still wear a tux but they are titled "attendants". If you would like your male friend in place of a maid of honor, you can title him attendant of honor or best attendant.
If you want 2 best men on the grooms side, that is fine too. After all many women have to maid of honors so why not!
Good luck!
2007-11-06 11:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 07:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing silly about it! I just got married in July and my younger brother was my "Man of Honor". He wore a tux and stood right next to me. I didn't want to put him as a groomsmen because he's my best friend and I wanted him standing next to me. The only hard part is figuring out how to get him down the aisle with the best man. I had the best man walk out with our deacon and my husband. Then my brother escorted my mom and took his place up front. You could either have him come out with your soon to be husband or have him and the best man walk in separately and alone. But no it's not a silly idea at all!
2007-11-06 11:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by crazy_monkey_33 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I see no problem with having two best men since you can have two MOHs.
You could also have your fiancee's friend be the best man, with your friend being the first groomsman.
It's sweet that he offered to be "man of honor", but I agree with the silly part! LOL
Good luck!
2007-11-06 13:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, you should be marrying your best friend! Yikes.
The wedding attendants are for both the bride and groom, so your male friend would be a groomsman. Simply the same as if the groom had a sister, she would be a bridesmaid.
2007-11-06 23:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i agree with having 2 best men but they should both be the grooms best men.. you should have a maid of honor.. i think it is appropriate for him to be a groomsman but not a best man.. the men stand up for the men and the women the women..
2007-11-06 14:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋