first, he's from lebanon. when i first asked him about his immigrations status, he said he didn't understand his paperwork, which would be highly odd considering how important paperwork is and how smart he is. then i asked specifically if he had a green card and he said yes. ah hem.
so, when we were talking about our honeymoon, i wanted to visit my family in australia, and he said he can't leave the US because he'd need a special visa to come back. i know that means he has some kind of work visa because my mom used to have a green card before she became a citizen and it worked like a passport in that regard.
i offered to "help" him "get together" his immigrations paperwork because i want the real story, and he keeps changing the subject.
now, we've known each other for 3 months and we're engaged. he wants to get married by the end of the year. he's been here for 9 months.
so you think he's a fraud marrying me for immigrations reasons?
2007-11-06 11:02:03 · 16 answers · asked by Loon-A-TiK 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Immigration
i was thinking that if he's a con he's pretty darn good because of all the little ways he shows me he loves me. however, there are other things that make me think he may be just trying to get a green card or passport.
for example, he has this beach house. it is empty right now. he won't rent it and won't sell it. why not? why is this beautiful property sitting there?
does he want to try to get an American wife and if that fails, he still has his house?
he didn't pressure me into an engagement but is pushing to get married quickly. i don't know why we have to get married so soon, unless he has other motives.
2007-11-06 11:17:26 · update #1
If the immigration issue is more important than the wedding, the wedding should be called off. You say he is your fiance, however the word love is not used once.
2007-11-06 11:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, sweetie ... he's DEFINITELY marrying you for immigration reasons. Guaranteed, if you insist on delaying the wedding until after his visa expires, you'll never hear from him again.
Don't believe for one second that he doesn't know backwards and forwards all about his visa, and under what conditions he can stay. By the way, a visa and a green card are entirely different things.
You specifically asked him if he has a green card, and he said "yes." Well, a green card equates to permanent residence status, which means if he had one, there'd be no rush to get married. So, you've already caught him in one lie.
Consider what's been going on in Lebanon. He wants the hell out of there, and nobody can blame him for that. But, he's trying to use you to do it. He only has to stay married to you for 2 years, in order to stay here. Or, before then, he can claim you abuse him, and that automatically gains him permanent resident status.
You really need to know a lot more about this situation, before you marry him. For one thing, he has his visa or green card in his wallet, or home, or at the very least, in a safety deposit box. Insist on seeing it.
Then, go to http://www.ins.gov and read up on the type of visa he has, and the conditions under which he could stay. Marriage to an American citizen is likely the only way he can stay.
Email me if you need help interpreting any of the bureaucratic bs on the INS site.
2007-11-06 11:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by teaser0311 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well if you have to ask the question, and you're suspicious about it, it sounds like a definite possibility.
As someone else said above, the word "love" was not mentioned once in your question---DO you love him? Why did you get engaged so quickly? Was it his idea? Did he pressure you into a quick engagement? Is he pressuring for a quick marriage? Does he seem to genuinely care for you?
All questions you need to consider.
If I was unsure, I would hold off on engagement and marriage for a long while---that way you can truly get to know each other and you can be sure he wants to be with you cause he LOVES you, and not because he wants a quick and permanent way into the country.
2007-11-06 11:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Calliope 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You already instinctively know this is all going to turn out very badly for you, otherwise you wouldn't be posting the question.
TRUST YOUR GUT!
(ps. never ever ever get engaged after only 3 months. That's just crazy talk)
2007-11-06 11:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do, and if you were in danger of being deported wouldn't you get good at running your con game? Don't marry this guy. If he is dishonest about his legal status he will be dishonest about other things.
2007-11-06 12:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think he is a fraud. My advice to you is do not get married yet. Youve only known him for three months. If he really loves you he will wait and really get to know you cuz it really seems like he wants to marry you just to become a US citizen. Please wait.
2007-11-06 11:07:49 · answer #6 · answered by Shadowed 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not giving you immigration advice; I'm giving you love and relationship advice.
If you have any question whatsoever, then do NOT get married.
You doubt right now--face it. LISTEN TO WHAT YOUR GUT IS TELLING YOU.
Trust it. Dont let love, desire to "believe" etc blind you to what you already know.
2007-11-06 12:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dirty Martini 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My God. Why do all these women just HAVE to go for the men who have shady immigration histories?
Can't these hybristophiliacs find a man who's actually rooted in AMERICAN soil?
2007-11-06 12:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but it sounds like you are being used - this happens a lot to ppl from UK/ US/ canada ect.. they want to exploit the British social security systym, and I assume similar reasons in the other developed countries, tell him you want to move there and see how he reacts
2007-11-06 11:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but Yes
2007-11-06 11:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋