I'm 18 and every time I like a guy, and I get really into them and I see signs they may like me back, I always end up taking a harsh blow. It hurts a lot when someone who you really like doesn't like you back, but it feels like it always happening to me. I'm not ugly but I'm not a beauty either, and I don't think I'm a bad person! lol, so I don't know what the problem is
Anyway, it's starting again, I really really like this guy and after our club, we all went to the pub tonight and we chatted for ages and since we live near each other we walked back together, there's always conversation etc but I'm really scared this guy is just gonna be another let down. I've only really spoken to him twice (long time though and in the pub) but I think he's really handsome and he seems like such a nice bloke.
How do I get over this fear ? It's making me not want to like him and also it gets me really depressed, I start worrying if maybe I said something wrong or came on too strong etc
2007-11-06 10:13:33 · 16 answers · asked by RLJ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relax --
Any worry is 100% irrational, since there is no way to change the past, and if he does/doesn't like you really isn't up to you, enless you try being fake, in which case you'll need to play like that the rest of your life, and probably will end up f***ing it up anyway... all I have to say to this question is chill out, slow down, and let it take you where it takes you.
2007-11-06 10:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Wafflecopter 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
One of the facts of life is that we fall in love, get hurt and do it all over again until we find real love, then we marry, build a family and live well together. Hopefully, during the hard part of this process, we learn to be a stronger person, but not bitter. Everyone has been let down by someone we adore, just be confident that true love is real and you might have to try a few times to find it. I hope that your past experiences don't make you reluctant to keep searching for the one that you are supposed to be with. Good luck, and cheerio!
2007-11-06 18:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by Schplakken 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have very low self esteem . And whether or not a guy likes you back may not really be the real issue here . Take a few days and put yourself in check . Figure out if YOU really like yourself . Self acceptance is extremely important . If you are secure with who you are , you may not need the acceptance with someone else , and will be able to find what you are looking for , and also have it be long lasting
2007-11-06 18:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by kitchenwitch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi chick im going through the same thing as u and it is ****. u c a fella chat 4 a while c him again talk away and fell a wee spark then u realise he ain't in2 u and that spark only existed in ur head and not his.
theres no way in noing 4 sure unless he tells u he likes u and sometimes even when they tell u that there actions tell u different men ar the hardest things 2 understand id advice u just 2 stand back and let them run 2 u dnt chase them as u will get let down and hurt
gud look
2007-11-06 18:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by mia-da-malteser 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems that ur giving signs as a friend more than a gf and that might make him think u like him as a friend, try to make it super clear that like him and would like to take this friendship to a new level!
Hope it works out in the end
2007-11-08 10:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by artistic side 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that feeling.
I went thru almost every bad thing a woman can experience w/ my ex.
And because of that when I did find a decent man I would either run him off or just feel like it was worth pursuing seriously.
If you truly like him give him 1/2 a chance to see how things go.
2007-11-06 18:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by thistlesnshamrocks 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking for a while get to know him better first. See if You really like him for him or just the way he looks on the surface. If he flirts with your then go for it, but if he doesn't keep waiting a little longer for some signs and then if you think he is take the plunge. Good Luck I hope he does like you!
2007-11-06 18:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ethereal writer 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes much too strong, you are setting yourself up for disaster...just be yourself, meet more THAN ONE GUY, and just go with things...dont feel so pressured to GRAB onto every guy you kind of like, that is a huge sign of insecurity to a guy and he'll be like, uh oh whats wrong with her. Just be yourself and dont expect anything..things will work out in the end. And anyways, what's the rush?
2007-11-06 18:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ever hear the saying "don't put all your eggs in one basket?" Keep going out and talking to other guys and relax, nothing turns a guy off faster than desperation. Force yourself to get to know him before you jump into anything physical. I hope this helps.
2007-11-06 18:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by Frogleena 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ok girl if you want the truth ! dont sleep with him in the first month , If this guy really likes you then he will still be around in 1months time .
Just date him and meet up and stuff . Then if hes still around after a month then give him a night to remember :)
2007-11-06 18:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋