I'm still having stepfather/family issues?

Question

I posted a similar question a while ago about my relationship with my stepfather, John. I've tried sitting down with him to talk, but that just led to awkward silence. Believe me I've tried just about everything, and even my brother's trying to help, but I just don't like John and I'm pretty sure he doesn't like me. And my mom still pretty much refuses to help and says this is something I need to work out with him but I kind of need my mother here! I've tried talking to everyone at dinner, but that worked for crap. Seriously, I have less than 3 years left in that house, but I don't want them to continue like this and I don't want to risk a broken relationship with my mom and brother in the future. Help!!!!

Answer 1

Sometimes guys find it difficult to communicate with words. Instead, many guys find it easier to bond over a shared activity. So try an activity you two can do together that doesn't require a lot of talking - playing a board game, helping to build something, even just watching TV together.

Remember, John may have issues that have nothing to do with you, problems that you don't know about and may need space that you can't bridge. So keep trying, even if it doesn't get the results you want - what matters is that you tried.

Answer 2

Hey Kate, I hate that general crap advice too, doesn't work for me neither, nor does it truly reflect the situation. The fact is your dealing with a step-father who is failing his role, and a mother who is doing the samething, how do you fix that? YOU CAN'T! Thats right! Your basically in a situation were you can take the before mentioned ladies advice, but in the end, you guys pretty much are unbelieveable anger with each other(you and the stepfather). Lets face it, he wants you out, you feel that, most likely the same for the brother. Becuase his inability to help you relate to him, shows that he isn't much of an adult. NOr very mature. So your dealing with a kat who just wants your mom, so he doesn't have to be lonely. Same could be said about your mom. I couldn't of dealt to good with that situaiton, my dad loved me unconditionally, so it was never me against my step-mom, but me and him, which wasn't fair, BUT step-relationships are not fair!!!!!! So someone has to take the burden of the unfairness, in all reality, because they are the grown-ups it should be them, not you. So I'm sorry for this, I wish it didn't have to happen, becuase all you can do is bite your tougue are become a better adult then them, and teach them how wrong what there doing is. I'm tired of this f'in crap were everyone thinks love between a man and a woman is everything, forsakening the love between kiddos and parents, WHICH SHOULD BE MORE POWERFUL!!!!!!! So if you can BROW-BEAT THE LIVING CRAP OUT OF THEM FOR THIS!!!! Are agian wait 3 years and you can get started on doing the same to your kiddos, or fixing the cycle of neglect......again, I'm so f'in sorry, really.......

Answer 3

my mom recently got married. at first things were really awkward. but i've found many things in common between us. i've began to enjoy the little moments we share. there are some awkward silent moments but i have learned to fill them in with quick questions or conversation starters. my mom is happy with him so i am happy for her. he is my mom's husband and i shouldnt judge her.