Honeymoon Sex?

Question

My future husband and I have not had sex yet, we are waiting for the wedding night.

Is it all it is cracked up to be?
How did you feel after making love for the first time?
Was it painful at all?

Just curious, seeing as the date is quickly approaching.

thank you all so much for the nice words, it has been a long wait but i am hoping it will be so worth it!

Answer 1

First of all, good for you.
My wife and I did the same and were glad that we waited. It was well worth the wait, we were ecstatic afterwards. It was a very happy close moment. Shoudn't be too painful, maybe just a bit uncomfortable but not necessarily. Expect to be exhausted at the end of the night when you finally get to your room. Try not to be all nervous about it, just relax and go slow and enjoy yourself.

Answer 2

How beautiful that you are waiting until your wedding night.
I waited also and I am so blessed. I knew my husband 4 years before we married and we just celebrated 14 years of marriage.

Sweetie let me be as diplomatic and as tactful as possible Rome was not build in a day and neither is a good heatlhy sex life this take time love and patience and getting comfortable with one another as well.

Sex is painful the first time but will get easier as time progresses.

Making love in touching holding caressing and doing special things to each other this is known as foreplay and for a woman most woman myself included that is the highlight of sex.

A good book to read is the joy of sex and intended for pleasure.

I wish you all the best:) I am proud of you:)

Answer 3

We were virgins too--don't listen to the comments about "bad sex". The experience is all about finally connected, REGARDLESS of how new and awkward it is. Take it slow, talk a lot and light candles.

A few things:

1. Buy lubricant! This is a must!
2. Shower before you see each other naked, if you feel sweaty or dirty from a long wedding day.
3. Prepare yourself for tiredness or hunger (you won't eat much food at the wedding, I promise!). Then refuel by eating or napping, before the "festivities" begin.
4. Ask your husband questions about what he will do if it hurts you. Hopefully, he'll reassure you that he'll be gentle and stop as soon as he sees you cringe. (It doesn't hurt too much if you go very slow and find the right angle--and it always gets better with time!
5. Look forward to it! Its one of the most mysterious things, especially since you've saved it.

Congrats!

Answer 4

I think that is such a noble thing the two of you are doing. I would think it would make your marriage feel more sacred and meaningful.

The first time is not the most pleasant experience for woman. It's not an untolerable pain, but it can be uncomfortable depending on what kind of and how often you have done other sexual acts. The more you do it the more pleasurable it becomes, and of course you begin to figure out what positions, styles, and speed you prefer.

I was not married when I lost my virginity, but I didn't feel very different. I, till this day, do not regret it. I didn't feel like I had lost anything at all, only that I had gained a way to feel even closer and emotionally connected with him. I think the connection for you will be even stronger because you are waiting to say your vows.

Congratulations to the two of you and best of luck with everything!

Answer 5

I think losing virginity is more fun for guys than girls...yes, it can be painful the first few times, but don't let him stop, and hopefully you will feel some pleasure, too. It will be more comfortable every time thereafter. If you haven't already, relax a bit starting tonight and learn how to give yourself pleasure so you can learn about what you like and give your new husband some feedback as to how to make you happy. He wants that. Make sure you kiss and caress a lot right beforehand to get yourself ready for being penetrated for the first time...it will help a lot. You may feel a little different afterwards, maybe a loss of innocence, but that has good points, too! Enjoy...

Answer 6

I would suggest you each take a shower after the wedding reception, and just relax in each other's arms the first night. You are going to be exhausted and it will be so much better later when you are both rested.

Good luck with your marriage!

Answer 7

The wedding night is generally disappointing.

Too much stress prior to the wedding, too many late nights, too much pressure to perform on the wedding night. It's all the nights thereafter, and the fun of getting into the rhythm with one another--that's when the great sex occurs. But on the wedding night? Odds are against it.

Answer 8

My husband and I waited for our wedding night to have sex. It sucked. It was awkward, and mechanical. By the end of the weekend it was better but that first time was not good.

Answer 9

That's awesome, My husband and I waited and let me tell you a couple of things that could help you out, one is a book. I know - you are probably thinking, CREEPY! A BOOK! But serious, it helps to relax you - it's called Intended for pleasure, it's about the joy and the point of waiting. And one thing I know we learned on that night....LUBE. Water based lube, you will be happy about that, it will ease discomfort. As you will be tired.
Good luck and God bless you!

Answer 10

We sat on the bed in the hotel opening gift cards and counting money! But, yes we did then have sexual relations that night, not the best ever though, I think we were just too tired. It gets better later on, don't dispair.