If you secretly found a box of your significant others' ex boy/girl friends letters, would you read them?

Question

and if so, would it bother you?

Answer 1

Yes I would.
No it wouldn't.

edit..I agree with the girl that would laugh at the corniess

Answer 2

I suppose that is very dependant on who the character is relationship. Many people feel that simply in view that they've been with any one for six months to a yr they've determined their lifestyles companion, whereas in truth, it can be truely quite a short while. Even people who have been married for 20 strange years can come to be splitting, all since I suppose we're too hasty at the moment. The media tells us that persons fall in love within weeks or months, and we suppose it, so the first man or woman who stays with us for longer than a number of weeks is out of the blue the 'love of our lives'. I feel you may be a hundred% sincere and open with the individual your coronary heart real belongs to. If you believe in soul mates, my view is that real soul mates do not maintain anything from each and every other. I am most likely not any more honest with my friends than i'm with my accomplice - if anything, it's the opposite direction round. He knows matters about me that nobody else does. I don't talk about any one being attractive to any extent further - now not even celebrities, let by myself 'actual-lifestyles' people. I see it as an act of disrespect to my companion, who i've wholly committed to and love greater than lifestyles itself. Simply my two cents anyway :) Aquarius, Aries, Capricorn, Aquarius, Gemini

Answer 3

That depends ! Am I married to this person ? Do I live with this person. I think we all have a right to privacy. But If I am living with a person then I think that there are understandings reguarding old flames. When we let go of old relastionships we understand that regurgitation of those old issues with momentos to new partners will cause problems. If a person is holding on to those things then it makes me believe that there are unresolved issuses.
I believe you have to understand that your signifigant other was once someone elses partner. reguardless of what you think they have shared memories and dreams together. I also think that you may not want to know what is hidden in those letters. It may be a little wierd to here another person talk about your mate that way. It may insite feelings of jealousy that were not present before. It may cause you to start checking messages and following your mates every move. I think it would be better to allow him or her the chance to get rid of them if they bother you at all.

Answer 4

Yes it would bother me. I would comfront my boyfriend and ask why he has that box of things of his ex, why is it important. I would make him throw it out.

I would not read them because the more you know about your patner's past the more pain this will cause. From my experience I regret doing it and it took me a long time to put that in the past. But the problem is that even if you say it does not bother you....inside it really does!

Don't read them..comfront him!

Answer 5

Yes, I have read them and I also have my past box or had until my mom recently threw them away. I respect that we both have a past and a person's past is what makes them who they are. Without your past experiences, you cannot determine what you really what out of a relationship and a partner. It is a part of growing up and makes you stronger. Love is a learning process that never ends. The only way it would bother me is if your partner dwells on the past relationship and brings up things about the past, then I would feel differently.

Answer 6

Yer, id tell him that id found them and ide get mine out so we cud read each others, i think being open like thats great in a relationship, and some stuff may bug me, but itd be the same for him, but at the end of the day hes with me not his exes, so what weve got is what matters not what he had.

Answer 7

no, I wouldn't read them, letters are private between sender and receiver... I would ask why my partner kept them all so long, in as non-threatening a way as I could manage - and if I didn't like the answer, I'd reconsider if the relationship was really going where I thought it was...

Answer 8

It would be an invasion of privacy. Would you want your significant other to read your past love letters?

I wouldn't read them, though the temptation would be there. All that you need to know is that they are in the past and you are the present and future.

Answer 9

Darn right I would. There should be no secrets in a relationship. He would only get really upset if there's something to hide in there. But, then again, if I kept a box of old letters and stuff, I would let my bf read it, (well, as long as if we had been in a serious relationship together).

Answer 10

No unless I suspected she is cheating on me I would not read the letters it would be very rude and if she found out I would probably be in a lot of trouble.

Answer 11

The temptation would be great, and yes I probably would read them, and I would also regret that I read them because I would draw all sorts of conclusions as to why he still has them. Don't read them, but tell him you found them.